Help - can’t finish

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Just starting seeing this chick, really dig her. Starting to smash, problem is I can’t ***, I went for an hour nothing not even close. She’s starting to think it’s her. She’s got a great body, but no boobs and I’m a boobs man. Am I doomed, any suggestions on how to ***.

not been fapping for ages either.

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Have you had this issue with other women?

How old are you? At my age this occasionally happens, but I'm in my 50s and it's totally normal for a man my age.

It sounds like you are not really attracted to her... this is normal.
 

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Attraction you have for her is not enough. Too much thinking and also focusing too much on wanting to perform too much.

I have the same problem with some girls and others just do it for me easily. Try to find another girl.

More foreplay, more kissing, more talking making a connection and feeling relaxed before unzipping your pants. Then try to enjoy and be yourself, letting yourself go and focusing on the good feeling instead of thinking too much. That
 

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Just starting seeing this chick, really dig her. Starting to smash, problem is I can’t ***, I went for an hour nothing not even close. She’s starting to think it’s her. She’s got a great body, but no boobs and I’m a boobs man. Am I doomed, any suggestions on how to ***.
Better than not being able to keep from it (premature ejaculation). Some might be envious of your problem, they could go all night, as Ric Flair would say. Wooo!
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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it could be in your head, it could also be physical. get in the gym, but maybe also tell her you are having issues, let her give you a hummer, that will at least get you finished and you can both enjoy some relief
 

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Just starting seeing this chick, really dig her. Starting to smash, problem is I can’t ***, I went for an hour nothing not even close. She’s starting to think it’s her. She’s got a great body, but no boobs and I’m a boobs man. Am I doomed, any suggestions on how to ***.

not been fapping for ages either.

Any advice greatly appreciated
Are you saying that the only reason you can't cvm is because she does't have boobs? Can you get her to wear prosthetics (like this guy):



 

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Best bet is to edge yourself say 3 hours before your next hookup. It should increase sensitivity. I've also found cialis to help with this a bit.
This is actually good advice, if you edge it out you can nut in 5-10min.

I used to suffer from this too back in the day, mostly due too being drunk, sometimes due to nerves, sometimes I was way too coked/mdma'd up.
 

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It's helped me when I was running deca (known to raise prolactin > desensitize d*ck).

Doing this enough (turns out I genuinely enjoy edging) seems to have permanently increased my sensitivity.
next time do some cabergoline…
 

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Cabergoline is a medication primarily used to treat hyperprolactinemia, a condition characterized by high levels of prolactin in the blood. It's also sometimes prescribed for other medical conditions such as Parkinson's disease.

While cabergoline is generally considered safe and effective when used as directed under medical supervision, like all medications, it can have potential side effects and risks. One of the most serious concerns associated with cabergoline use is the potential for cardiac valve disorders, particularly when used at higher doses for extended periods.

Research has indicated a possible association between cabergoline use and an increased risk of cardiac valve disorders, particularly valvular regurgitation.

I can find no reputable links on mortality rate. In other words, bro science.

The reason you can’t get a hard on a.k.a. Decadik, is elevated prolactin, the same thing that the body naturally excretes once you have an orgasm, and is the reason reason why most men become flaccid after orgasm.

Blanket-advising caber? Oof

Fun fact: some people are deathly allergic to caber, and they don't know until they take it.
A better option is P5P. Much safer.

Anyways, I went with B6 and did fine afterwards, I just didn't anticipate the "can't finish" side effect at the time.
 

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I cede, in light of facts, thank you for the information.

P5P, or pyridoxal-5-phosphate, is the active form of vitamin B6 and is commonly used as a dietary supplement to address vitamin B6 deficiencies or support various bodily functions. Compared to cabergoline, which is a medication primarily used to treat specific medical conditions, the potential side effects of P5P are generally milder and less concerning.

Some possible side effects of P5P supplementation may include:

  1. Upset stomach or nausea
  2. Headache
  3. Sleepiness or fatigue
  4. Sensory neuropathy (numbness, tingling, or pain in the extremities) with long-term high-dose use
These side effects are typically mild and transient, and most individuals tolerate P5P supplementation well when taken at recommended doses.

In contrast, cabergoline, as mentioned earlier, can have more serious potential side effects, particularly related to its impact on cardiac function. These may include:

  1. Cardiac valve disorders, such as valvular regurgitation
  2. Hypotension (low blood pressure) or fainting
  3. Hallucinations or confusion
  4. Impulse control disorders, such as compulsive behaviors like gambling or shopping
 

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Just starting seeing this chick, really dig her. Starting to smash, problem is I can’t ***, I went for an hour nothing not even close. She’s starting to think it’s her. She’s got a great body, but no boobs and I’m a boobs man. Am I doomed, any suggestions on how to ***.

not been fapping for ages either.

Any advice greatly appreciated
What I do in such instances is just chuckle and stop it and just lie down on pillow. She'll probably say something like what happened/let's try this or that, etc. I just laugh and say that's enough for now. You know, just be aloof about it.

If you still have stiffy and can't cvm, women are going to assume it's them. They'll put their heart and soul into the next 15 minutes to make you cvm. You will have an epic jizz or she'll pass out of exhaustion.

I have electrolytes and water always in my room. Sometimes its just dehydration. Doggy speeds up things for me. There could be some other things at play like @BPH said. And now when I think of such instances I was not really attracted to them. I was just smashing for sake of smashing.
 

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I don't think you are attracted to women with small breasts.
 

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@Toddy Pick up some P5P while you're at it. I believe 100mg/day is a decent dosage to help with this.

@Pierce.Manhammer reasonable, in your opinion?
I do not think his issue is related to elevated prolactin levels. But B6 may increase sensitivity for him the way it did for you.

I also haven't researched dosages, so he'd need to do his own or go with your suggestion.

I think he has a boobie fixation.
 

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Thanks all, I think it is the boobies that’s the problem, never had this issue before. Went from a marriage with EE’s to the A cup.
Shame everything else is perfect with this chick.
Getting an erection with her is easy, it’s just the finishing, did managed to the first time but took bloody ages!
Might also be stress/excitement of the situation.
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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It happens. I don’t think it has anything to do with her being attractive or not. Kind of like ED.
 

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To add I’m 48, not had this problem before, probably the opposite, been over quicker than I’d like. I’m in great shape been hitting the gym 3-4 times per week for 20 years, plus jiu jitsu 3-4 times per week.
 

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I do not think his issue is related to elevated prolactin levels. But B6 may increase sensitivity for him the way it did for you.

I also haven't researched dosages, so he'd need to do his own or go with your suggestion.

I think he has a boobie fixation.
Thanks both, will explore more and try out.
 
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