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[Bawb14]

Okay gentlmen, New problem. Laying it out. ME texts girl all day, talk talk talk, smart ****y comeback etc etc.... girl says she has feelings for ME, but has borefriend. Girl says - I like you, ME says I like you too, Girl says I have previous connections we cant be.... yet... ME says no problem whatever dont talk about it whatever happens happens, if in the future we can be then itl happen. Girl says - What do you feel for me, friends or something else.

What do I answer?

Do I say that yes, for now I'm happy being friends maybe something bigger down the line, but with this I risk entering and being stuck in friendzone,


Or,
Do I say that I want her... not-friendshiply and then risk her saying well I cant do that right now and being finished right there. What do I say. The question in quote was :

"Tell me what you want from this relationship, platonic or otherwise? Tell me please! I really want to know!"

Scary. Not trying to let this one slip guys shes REALLY smart, I never find people my intelligence level.

 

[Warrior74]

as the joker said... "why so serious?"

seriously...how long have you known this girl? Have you slept with her? Where are these feelings coming from? Why are you spending so much time talking to this one girl? How many other plates do you have going?

Don't reply to those, just ask yourself those questions.

I think you are being way to serious, you need to make it about fun and stop with all the texting...tell her to meet you and you'll talk to her in person. Make her work for it.

who gives a flying monkey crap about how intelligent she is. It's just another pedestal for you to put her on thinking because she's smart she's not a woman...fool! she's branch swinging to you..so get her off that damn pedestal. The way you got her...is the way she is gonna leave you. Remember that when the time comes. Sober up boy.

 

[Bawb14]

No pedestal, Just hard to find a girl which isnt ****ing retarded. How many other plates do I got going..... zip. not oneitis, just not that many girls I have in my life right now, after I broke up with the girl. Serious? A bit I just dont want to say the wrong thing and fail.... so to speak.

 

[Warrior74]

make her work for it.

 

[Bawb14]

Good answer. Thanks.

 

[I'm Charming]

Careful what you're doing, last girl I thought was "intelligent" mucked me around for a few months with loads of text messages and then ended up playing me for a fool, my last and greatest AFC moment.

All I can say is, never again. Do what Warrior says and treat her like you would everybody else.

If I ever start putting someone on a pedestal and helping their egos, I just have to remember that everyone was pushed out some woman's cvnt. After that, people have no pride.

 

[Igetit!]

What the heck are you talking about? What do you mean you don't want to let this one slip away? How can you let her slip away when you don't even have her in the first place? And believe it or not,that question she asked you was a trick question. Women are not like us. If a guy sleeps with a girl,then he feels like he has won.He feels sucessful. If he never see her again,never talk to her again,in his mind,that was a "notch on his belt". Women aren't like that. If a woman thinks you like her,if she thinks that all she has to do is give you the green light,then you'll date her,then she feels like she has won. In other words,that question she asked you,"What do you feel for me?",if you say that you have feeling for her,romantic feelings,then game over.

That's all she wants. If she finds out that you already have feelings for her,then in her mind,it's already over. And she won you over without having to go out on a single date with you,she didn't have to hug or kiss you,didn't have to be intimate with you. In fact,the only thing she had to do win you over was simply exist. Everybody here already knows that women like a challenge,and you haven't provided one. The moment you tell her that you like her "more than friends",you guarantee yourself failure with her.

 

[CFERD]

Careful what you're doing, last girl I thought was "intelligent" mucked me around for a few months with loads of text messages and then ended up playing me for a fool, my last and greatest AFC moment.

All I can say is, never again. Do what Warrior says and treat her like you would everybody else.

If I ever start putting someone on a pedestal and helping their egos, I just have to remember that everyone was pushed out some woman's cvnt. After that, people have no pride.

Op, I'd listen to this. The moment you stop treating her like everyone else is the beginning of the end so early on. The texts and attention are like a crack dealer trying to get you hooked.

 

[goodfoot]

Ask her out asfriends and escalate like you're trying to close.

 

[ARrocket]

You have zero chance with this chick. You are being played directly into the friendzone. You spend all day txting her? You also "talk talk talk" to her. And now she is tempting you to spill your guts so she can crush your fragile ego with LJBF.

Lesson #1 Women are MASTERS of this game. From ages 7 and on, they have dedicated their lives to mastering how to manipulate men to provide them with resources necessary for their survival.

No matter what you say, you've put her on a pedestal and have oneitis.

If you tell her you want to be friends, she will reject you. If you tell her you want to be lovers, she'll put you in the friend zone. See, you can't win. She set you up to fail. You need to learn to reframe so that SHE is the one qualifying to YOU. You are the prize.

And the mindset of "I don't want to let this one get away" is the exact mindset that will cause her to run away. You need to believe "I don't give a crap either way about this chick. If she earns my attention, good for her, if not, no biggie. I've got 5 other hotties on the line".

Change your mindset.

Well said. But, just out of curiosity...now that he's gone and dug his grave...how should he have replied to avoid lying in it?

 

[daygameguy]

You have zero chance with this chick. You are being played directly into the friendzone. You spend all day txting her? You also "talk talk talk" to her. And now she is tempting you to spill your guts so she can crush your fragile ego with LJBF.

Lesson #1 Women are MASTERS of this game. From ages 7 and on, they have dedicated their lives to mastering how to manipulate men to provide them with resources necessary for their survival.

No matter what you say, you've put her on a pedestal and have oneitis.

If you tell her you want to be friends, she will reject you. If you tell her you want to be lovers, she'll put you in the friend zone. See, you can't win. She set you up to fail. You need to learn to reframe so that SHE is the one qualifying to YOU. You are the prize.

And the mindset of "I don't want to let this one get away" is the exact mindset that will cause her to run away. You need to believe "I don't give a crap either way about this chick. If she earns my attention, good for her, if not, no biggie. I've got 5 other hotties on the line".

Change your mindset.

Best damn post I've read in a long time. Agree with every word.

 

[daygameguy]

"Whoa baby, I hardly know you and you're getting all serious. LOL. Slow down and let's see how you do. "

Get it? This reframes the shyt test from her being the prize to you being the prize. It is C and F and shows that you have lots of women to choose from. It shows that you have standards and will call her out if she misbehaves.

When you respond to a shyt test, any logical answer you give is a failure. Any answer in which you try to qualify yourself to her is a failure. If you reframe the test back to your reality, you pass the test and she feels attraction.

I was riding in my car with a chick the other day and I turned up the radio and started singing along in a goofy manner. She said "You are really weird". I laughed and said "so what is it about weirdos that you are so attracted to?" She giggled nervously and said "ohhhhhh, good answer". She then proceeded to lean over and give me a kiss. See, I didn't get sucked into her reality that I was wierd. I sucked her into my reality that she loved weirdos.

See, attracting women is SO EASY. You don't need openers, or fancy clothes, or a nice car. All you need is a mindset. The mindset that you are the prize, that you are of higher value; and as long as you can hold that frame of mind, chicks have NO OPTION BUT TO FEEL ATTRACTION. And when you break that frame and enter her reality, she will feel less attraction.

Agreed. Every guy on sosuave should copy and paste this into his head.

 

[Playboy]

Okay gentlmen, New problem. Laying it out. ME texts girl all day, talk talk talk, smart ****y comeback etc etc.... girl says she has feelings for ME, but has borefriend. Girl says - I like you, ME says I like you too, Girl says I have previous connections we cant be.... yet... ME says no problem whatever dont talk about it whatever happens happens, if in the future we can be then itl happen. Girl says - What do you feel for me, friends or something else.

What do I answer?

Do I say that yes, for now I'm happy being friends maybe something bigger down the line, but with this I risk entering and being stuck in friendzone,


Or,
Do I say that I want her... not-friendshiply and then risk her saying well I cant do that right now and being finished right there. What do I say. The question in quote was :

"Tell me what you want from this relationship, platonic or otherwise? Tell me please! I really want to know!"

Scary. Not trying to let this one slip guys shes REALLY smart, I never find people my intelligence level.

I'd say something like:

I could tell you ... but then Id have to kill you.

or

I feel for you and me to go get some icecream (or whatever the hell you want to do)

or

you could go the more playful route with this and be like:

I feel like taking you for a ride on my magic carpet, you can come with me -- I will let you -- and we can go to africa and chase kangaroo's.

or

lets just let the chips fall wherever they may.

or

It doesn't really matter how I feel, all that really matters is ... aww you know what ... nevermind.

or

Wow your soo intense, it's cute.

or

I feel like your either one of the coolest girls I've met in the last week or your a complete trainwreck, the verdict is still out.

or

Say something as if your talking but make it incoherent. When she is like "what?" say it the same way but incoherent. If she is like what? be like -- omg your so gullible, it's adorable.

or

Whatever else you can come up with that is mysterious.