tazman, I didn't say they werne't good points, but the are good points that don't have to do with the original thread, which is my point.
the reason I'm getting peeved, is me and my Gf were sititng down, having a conversation on HISTORY, and how we EVOLVED, and got to talking somehow about which was better for SOCIETY, mongamy or ponamgy... she made her points, I made mine. the next morning, i woke up and said you know.. let me post this on sosuave and get more points of view... and I get bombared with your GF is stupid,w hat else... Mongamy is the only way to go because you are only mean to have one woman, this is right because god said so, it's easier ot maintain a relationshp with 1 woman than 5...
Now you see why I am getting peeved? it has nothing in the least bit to do with the original point, and the reason why no one can ever diccuss anything that requires reading or thinking on this forum, because no one pays attention... no offense to you, and I apprcaite your response and like I said, veyr valid points if that was the point we were aruging, but it's not.
To answer your question... Women can have 1 child at a time while men can father thousands. Thoughout history, even going back to Apes, the conecpt for one woman for one man was a foriegn one. There was usually a pack of women with one man who was the leader of the group... that man had to fight off charges/fights from other men and whoeever wasn't hte man in the group was outcasted. that man, proven to be the domaint man around, got the right to mate with all the owmen int he group, guranteeing his seed, the one with the best chance of survial, was passed on.
this seriously.. isn't that hard of a concept to understand.
this was in place until biblical times and the term marriage was introduced.
what we practice today is basically
Social Monogamy because it's socially expected to share the same resources with an additional person.
Saint Augustine saw a conflict with Old Testament polygamy. He writes in The Good of Marriage ) that, although it whether it be lawful now also, I would not hastily pronounce. For there is not now necessity of begetting children, as there then was, when, even when wives bear children, it was allowed, in order to a more numerous posterity, to marry other wives in addition, which now is certainly not lawful." He refrained from judging the patriarchs, but did not deduce from their practice the ongoing acceptability of polygamy. In chapter 7, he wrote, "Now indeed "was lawful among the ancient fathers:in our time, and in keeping with Roman custom, it is no longer allowed to take another wife, so as to have more than one wife living."
However, the Roman Catholic Church has subsequently ruled on more fundamental grounds that "polygamy is not in accord with the moral law. communion is radically contradicted by polygamy; n fact, directly negates the plan of God which was revealed from the beginning, because it is contrary to the equal personal dignity of men and women who in matrimony give themselves with a love that is total and therefore unique and exclusive." This is also the normal position
In short, the only reason 95% of the people on this forum believe so deeply in Monogmay is because Saint Augustine thought it was right, which could be said about alot of the bible itself.
what i'm getting at is... Polygamy was not only there, it florshied for 99.99% of our history!!! There are multiple instances of afluent people having more than one wife, therefore having more opproutnities to pass on their genes than people who were not as "fortunate".
even in the bible itself, The first instance of polygamy in the Bible was Lamech... “Lamech married two women…” Several prominent men in the Old Testament were polygamists. Abraham, Jacob, David, Solomon, and others all had more than one wives. Solomon had 700 wives and 300 concubine. What are we to do with these instances of polygamy in the Old Testament?
What has honestly changed since then than has changed now? Pologamy has been working up until then, if you believe in the bible (see above), or if you believe in evoloution, both grow their roots from pologamy, yet it's shaunned and looked down on.. however we argubly would not be here if it were not for pologamy.
