Healthy Male Beliefs about sex

[UKS]

I want to ask you guys what you consider to be healthy beliefs about sex?

I am posting this in the tips section because the replies are going to end up as tips, essentially.

I must have negative beliefs about sex because my reaction to it potentially happening is that i get nervous...tense up...and ultimately...block my "reactions". i seem to concentrate on getting an erection whilst the heavy petting is happening...as if my mind is saying "come on then, get an erection" and this in turn blocks my responses. it is pressure essentially.
this needs to stop. i am not relaxing physicallly nor mentally in such situations. i think part of this might stem from the fact that when i was younger, talk about sex was taboo in our house and felt arkward if ever brought up. my parents would never let me have a girl to stay over.

so if i need to replace my existing beliefs, then what are some good things to start absorbing?

 

[legolas]

Maybe not related to what you want, but instead of looking for positive beliefs to use to replace yours, you should look at your negative beliefs first and list those out. What you eventually end up changing them to may not be the same as what another guy would give you. I wrote something a while back on negative mindsets. You should look into what mindsets/beliefs are driving you first before finding out how to change them.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showpost.php?p=1438500&postcount=10

 

[Dedication]

Sex is good.
I want to **** long and hard.
She wants to be ****ed long and hard.
Sex sex sex.
Sex is something that just happens when i am alone with a female.
Nothing is gained and nothing is lost.
More sex.
People who choose to not have sex, deny themselves.
Sex should be enjoyed.
Sex.

Man i love the word SEX!

 

[Al Moh.]

No shame.

I had the exact same issues. You have to accept your sexual nature and your desires, even the more hidden ones. I guess the best way to start doing this is by thinking about them, feeling them, getting used to them.

You are thinking too much, that's why you don't get an errection. It's the same with any interaction with women. You have to train yourself to give in to your unconciousness. Just DO.