HB8 horny in pub, turns down sex

Rainman4707

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Met up with a HB8 Friday night, first time meet.

She did say she felt a little uncomfortable because she got the vibe I wasn't comfortable. She was initiating kino throughout the evening. She slowly went in for a passionate kiss. I felt a little awkward because we were in view of people in a public bar. She had a real dirty look in her eyes & told me "don't be bothered about other people seeing us" We started making out on the sofa. I was smelling and kissing her neck, French kissing her.
In my opinion her body language was suggesting she wanted fu*ked. So I suggested we leave. It seemed she wasn't ready to leave. She kept wanting to make out on the sofa. I enjoyed it, but did feel awkward. (She was fondling my di*k at one point!) She said she didn't know how this was happening. (Us making out) She said she "might feel different once we leave pub." I said "we can fu*k in here, but I think everyone will know what we are doing if we go into toilets considering we are making out on sofa" She immediately dismissed that idea of us fuc*ing in toilets! I didn't think she would have agreed to it, but thought shes in a dirty mood, maybe she is thrill seeking thats why I made the offer.
She was saying "should I come to yours, no you can come to mine & we can sleep on sofa because my 21 year old daughter is in house." Then she was saying that maybe we could go to mine, then it was "no, we'll go to hers"
She was asking what am I going to do to her once we get to mine. I told her we can have a chat, she was just looking at me with those horny eyes. She said "what you gonna do to me when we get back I replied " i"'ll smell you, kiss your neck" she said "you gonna Fu*k me all over the place" I replied "I'll kiss your lips, rub your titties & pus*y" she told me to stop because she was to horny to hear that.
She again said "omg what is happening here, I get so horny when you look at me, stop looking at me like that" she also said she felt a lot more comfortable now.
I had a feeling that once we left pub she might backtrack.
We left pub & told me "sorry, but I think it's best if I just go back to mine alone."
I acted indifferent. She said " we have had a good night & can do this another time" I replied "probably"
Before she left car to go into her house, we were kissing. I was making out with her in an attempt to get her turned on. Foreplay..Rubbing her tits & pu**y. She made herself leave car.

This has never happened to me before. I post because I think members will have experienced this before & might explain.

i think maybe she sees me as boyfriend material (which she did mention) not that I take what women say with much seriousness especially on a first meet.
Or she is just playing games.
 

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I'm too interested, is this the availability trap?
I had something like this happen on a first date too...the chick was literally all over me from the get go...I said "lets get out of here" and then the games started...long story short nothing happened that night of note and then she eagerly accepted a second date and then flaked a few hours before...

No idea what this stuff is about but it sounds familiar.
 

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If she has a 21 yo daughter, she’s older, a MILF of sorts. Nothing at all wrong with that. But...

Some older women are ambivalent about hookups. I mean they get tempted to do it, but sometimes get cold feet, eg “Maybe I shouldn’t be having ONS’ anymore?”

Other times, they are totally DTF. It can go either way.

But I can totally understand if you were a little uncomfortable. Getting hot and heavy in public is ok at a club, but a little tacky at a local bar.
 

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ASD - Anti-Sloot Defense - was mentioned in Mystery Method. I’ve experienced the same. Some do have a disease and won’t, but want to. Others, who had no big issues, always had some sort of ASD just before or near the time of opportunity. It’s something we all have to either overcome or let go based on her behavior. Bottom line, if she’s comfortable she will fvck you. If not, I suggest a hard next. Save yourself further trouble down the line. Hope this helps.
 

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“You know, I’d say let’s get out of here but you aren’t secure or adventurous enough.”
Dismissal.
Completely wrecks her frame and brings her into yours or blows her out of there. Both are good.
 
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She’s just a **** tease. After the first or 2nd time she’s all over you and she negates coming back to yours. She’s just toying with you. ASD or not you’re not having fun with mixed signals, get outta there man
 

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I have had women coming to my place and then acting playful and not giving the right signals, man. It's not your fault, some women are just confused and wicked. Make a second date at your place and at your place only. No need to whine and dine anymore a chick that is fondling your c0ck and wants to get "f0cked all over the place". You'll soon understand if her words match her actions.
 

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I texted her yesterday morning about 10:30am She replied 13 hours later. I just sent her a text 45 mins ago telling her we should meet at her place or mine for a chat
 

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She was feeding completely off your own energy. When you are uncomfortable, she will feel uncomfortable. When you are comfortable, she will feel that comfort. THat's why confidence is so powerful. Women believe what you believe about yourself.
 

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She was feeding completely off your own energy. When you are uncomfortable, she will feel uncomfortable. When you are comfortable, she will feel that comfort. THat's why confidence is so powerful. Women believe what you believe about yourself.
Yeah, I have read a lot over the last ten years. She said " you are saying all the right things, I think you just need to believe more in what you are saying"
I know one has to give good eye contact. I have got a lot better at this and have made progress in that area.
A lot of people have called me wierd throughout my life. My siblings are a little strange too. I think it runs in family. Sometimes I think I come across as distant & not present when talking with people, although I actually am a great listener. I think being a little distant is in my genes. Like I say..I KNOW we have to be present, connect & becin the moment with women. I've read a lot about game.
On a date, women will say "are you ok?" I think it's because I will be looking off somewhere in distance. I think I do this very briefly when we aren't talking (I'm thinking what to say)
My thoughts were i cannot be giving her eye contact constant, you need to look away now & then unless it's creepy
I think I'm now aware that I need to try to be in the moment more with women. Not look away as much. Women mentioned in OP has taught me this & a lot about myself I wasn't fully aware of.
 

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Met up with a HB8 Friday night, first time meet.

She did say she felt a little uncomfortable because she got the vibe I wasn't comfortable. She was initiating kino throughout the evening. She slowly went in for a passionate kiss. I felt a little awkward because we were in view of people in a public bar. She had a real dirty look in her eyes & told me "don't be bothered about other people seeing us" We started making out on the sofa. I was smelling and kissing her neck, French kissing her.
In my opinion her body language was suggesting she wanted fu*ked. So I suggested we leave. It seemed she wasn't ready to leave. She kept wanting to make out on the sofa. I enjoyed it, but did feel awkward. (She was fondling my di*k at one point!) She said she didn't know how this was happening. (Us making out) She said she "might feel different once we leave pub." I said "we can fu*k in here, but I think everyone will know what we are doing if we go into toilets considering we are making out on sofa" She immediately dismissed that idea of us fuc*ing in toilets! I didn't think she would have agreed to it, but thought shes in a dirty mood, maybe she is thrill seeking thats why I made the offer.
She was saying "should I come to yours, no you can come to mine & we can sleep on sofa because my 21 year old daughter is in house." Then she was saying that maybe we could go to mine, then it was "no, we'll go to hers"
She was asking what am I going to do to her once we get to mine. I told her we can have a chat, she was just looking at me with those horny eyes. She said "what you gonna do to me when we get back I replied " i"'ll smell you, kiss your neck" she said "you gonna Fu*k me all over the place" I replied "I'll kiss your lips, rub your titties & pus*y" she told me to stop because she was to horny to hear that.
She again said "omg what is happening here, I get so horny when you look at me, stop looking at me like that" she also said she felt a lot more comfortable now.
I had a feeling that once we left pub she might backtrack.
We left pub & told me "sorry, but I think it's best if I just go back to mine alone."
I acted indifferent. She said " we have had a good night & can do this another time" I replied "probably"
Before she left car to go into her house, we were kissing. I was making out with her in an attempt to get her turned on. Foreplay..Rubbing her tits & pu**y. She made herself leave car.

This has never happened to me before. I post because I think members will have experienced this before & might explain.

i think maybe she sees me as boyfriend material (which she did mention) not that I take what women say with much seriousness especially on a first meet.
Or she is just playing games.
she's damaged .....quite badly by the sounds of it
 
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