HB11, logistical problem, need quick suggestions

[Vince115]

Guys I need quick help

There is this ONE special girl… hmm…

hehehehe

No, I am joking she is not special but she is HB11 indeed. I am not obsessed with this girl, I am not really emotional about her or anything like that. The problem is I am living not even near to any big city so I have really narrowed options.

I saw this HB year ago in church so next week I want to the church, took all my confidence and approached her after the mess. She was with her family. I approached her Direct style in front of her family and other people. I was a pure confidence in that moment. She couldn't believe I was so courageous to do that, she was totally amazed. She was happy to meet me, unfortunately she told me that she has a boyfriend and refused to give me her phone number but told my how to find her on a Facebook.

In my first message I told her to reply to my phone number what she had done obediently.

After a few talks I told her to meet me. She text me:

“one date will lead to another, and another and you know what will by next...”
I replied: “I am glad we both know it ”.

She told me she can't betray her boyfriend etc.( they were together for four years) Next day her boyfriend (who was total AFC btw.) found out, he had her Facebook password (she didn't know about in). He called me and started to scream something (this was funny) and threaten me. At night HB11 texted me not to contact her anymore. This was to be expected. Nevertheless I called her right away, she answered (interesting paradox hehe), told my about big fight with her bf, and we agreed to terminate contact.

====NO CONTACT FOR A YEAR====

Last Sunday I saw her again, I found her Facebook acc and it turned out she broke up with this AFC few days ago. I lost my cell phone so I don't have her number, also she blocked massages on Facebook or possibility to add her to friends so I have no other option to approach her once again. I am going to approach her on Sunday if I will find any opportunity or confidence to do so.
This will be very hard mission because she is always with her family and I will have only few moments after they will go to the car and leave. She is 19 yo btw.

 

[Buddha_Mind]

...she blocked massages on Facebook or possibility to add her to friends so I have no other option to approach her once again. I am going to approach her on Sunday if I will find any opportunity or confidence to do so.
This will be very hard mission because she is always with her family and I will have only few moments after they will go to the car and leave. She is 19 yo btw.

So you are here asking how to get with some 19y/o chick who is young and inexperienced, whom has blocked all contact with you because you tried to manipulate her into cheating yet you have no feelings what so ever but it has been over one year and you are contemplating directly approaching her at church and creating a user account and this thread to ask for advice? But aren't attached at all?

...

What the hell is wrong with you?

First of all, the only thing you want out of this chick is a lay...if you want anymore you are fooling yourself. Secondly, why is it okay that her AFC boyfriend of 4 years didn't matter at all when she tells you repeatedly she is not interested. Clearly, their relationship was not working (considerate of you to try and capitalize on another persons pain and relationship turmoil); you probably did show a great confident alpha demeanor -- good for you -- but wtf are you thinking honestly man? Really, wtf?

You know how many hot 19 y/o's there are out there?

Just because you are in nowhere land and are in extreme scarcity doesn't mean you can't find some goddamn options for yourself. You are fixating on this and the entire situation is not good.

 

[joverby]

IDK, bro. I think you're going about it all wrong. It would be a lot more effective to wear active camo and lay outside her door step with flowers and candy. You may want to talk to your old highschool band teacher about having the band come up and play a song to really set the mood too.

This might not be alpha enough however. If you really want to display confidence(and not be AFC) You should probably sneak in, leave a rose pedal trail only to have her find you naked on her bed. Bingo. Win, win.




If you take the above advice seriously in the slightest you are way more fvcked up then I already think you are. I pray to the heavens you're a troll.

 

[Jaylan]

Im with these two guys^

Take her off the pedastal as well. HB 11?

an 11? really? No ones an 11 or even a 10, which people try to use to denote a perfect score. No one is perfect

I kind of knew what to expect from the title. Listen to the first two guys carefully.

Btw may I ask how old you are?

 

[Vince115]

First of all I was expecting that kind of responses after rereading my trollisch post.

Secondly I approached this chick back then in hope for something more than lay, I felt something for her year ago, but this was YEAR ago, year without contact, without seeing her. Moreover I have a habit not to run away after girl say that she has a boyfriend, especially when she is attracted. Judge my morality If you want guys, but I was not even persistent. I wrote her message via Facebook to contact me over the phone if she wants and she DID it. Her boyfriend was not my concern at that point.
And I never wanted just to lay her, and not even try to manipulate her into doing something stupid.

During the conversations she was giving me hints that she can't be with me RIGHT NOW, because she is STILL with bf. (she did not want to be seen as a slut).

Then her bf found out, she was scared, and told me we shouldn't talk anymore. And I was totally OK with this!!

Back to the present, I saw her by accident and I want to try with her again. Now it is better situation because she is single. Wtf is wrong whit this, I am not obsessed with this chick, I am not want to hurt her or anything like this. I am just writing this post out of boredom, and I am curious about what other people may think.

 

[Vince115]

Im with these two guys^

Take her off the pedastal as well. HB 11?

an 11? really? No ones an 11 or even a 10, which people try to use to denote a perfect score. No one is perfect

I kind of knew what to expect from the title. Listen to the first two guys carefully.

Btw may I ask how old you are?

Yea I know what you may think, I read hundreds of posts about “this one special girl”.
But this is not a case here. I am not putting her on a pedestal. I wrote “HB11” because I want to distinguish her from other girls I see daily based on her looks. Besides that she is normal boring girl. Very intelligent but quite socially retarded


I am 22 bro.

 

[crazyboy]

that **** aint going nowhere there no advice needed

 

[Tortendieb]

You're never going to be able to start a healthy relationship RIGHT AFTER she broke off her old one.

1) Better wait another year, seriously.
2) Hope you've forgotten about her after that

 

[tafakna]

This will be very hard mission because she is always with her family and I will have only few moments after they will go to the car and leave. She is 19 yo btw.

How is it a hard mission now?

You've done it before, without anything about the girl, when she has a long term boyfriend, in similar circumstances.

Unless of course there was a bigger issue than just asking her out...

 

[Aaron B]

I won't even give a girl a rating of "10"

Because it means I'm agreeing that I'll never see a hotter woman (only a woman who ties this one)

You want to take it all the way to HB11?

Who is your favorite hot celebrity? Mine is Salma Hayek. Are you honestly telling me this chick is hotter than that? I'm calling BS

If you don't like Salma, substitute with YOUR favorite and tell me this chick is hotter than that. No way

 

[joverby]

I won't even give a girl a rating of "10"

Because it means I'm agreeing that I'll never see a hotter woman (only a woman who ties this one)

You want to take it all the way to HB11?

Who is your favorite hot celebrity? Mine is Salma Hayek. Are you honestly telling me this chick is hotter than that? I'm calling BS

If you don't like Salma, substitute with YOUR favorite and tell me this chick is hotter than that. No way

I think mines Jessica Alba. There's lots of hotties though.

 

[r0cky]

The fact that you're labeling her as an hb11 already says a lot about how you will approach her. You will treat her as a girl that is that is way better than any other.
This is the scarcity mindset. Even if she was a model, you can not even think of her as the perfect girl. Because that is saying to yourself "dont fuvck it up, dont fuvck it up, dont fuvck it up..." and when you approach... you ****ed it up. You treated her like the perfect girl that you have told yourself she is.

TREAT HER AS IF SHE'S A HB6. Otherwise I will see you here Sunday afternoon with a FAILED fr.

 

[Buddha_Mind]

Man I'm not knocking you for being head over heels for a chick. You're talking to a guy who has had the habit of falling in love at first sight...I've been "easy" in terms of caring about people...I know what it's like to GASP want that ONE HOT CHICK RIGHT THERE!

But I'm telling you from an outside detached perspective:
Can't you see how this is bad?

And also, you are only 22.

When you are 32, tell me what you think about cheating.

Maybe you'll have had a few serious LTRs in between...

I'm not saying she didn't encourage you...she may have...

But eitherway...what do you expect out of this? More than a lay? OK -- a nice healthy LTR with her? You really think that is going to happen?

* I am trying to convince you to free your mind from this girl and move on because you 99.99% probably won't get what you want out of this situation *

and I heavily encourage you to:

* Spend time focusing on girls WITHOUT BFs..because they will be a sticky mess if you are desiring anything beyond some temporary sexual relationship and whether you admit it to yourself or not you are hurting other people [the dude at home whom you probably might even like if u got to know him and further knew what sh!t she was putting him through] *

Or, convince me otherwise: Give me some examples of some healthy LTRs that began by 1 partner cheating on the other to "be with them"...tell me how well that really pans out for most cases.

You are young, don't fill your life with a bunch of emotional residue by pursuing the wrong chicks.

TRUST me on this one.

 

[DMEDFISIK]

Is any girl even a 10? Let alone an 11?

 

[Vince115]

I won't even give a girl a rating of "10"

Because it means I'm agreeing that I'll never see a hotter woman (only a woman who ties this one)

You want to take it all the way to HB11?

Who is your favorite hot celebrity? Mine is Salma Hayek. Are you honestly telling me this chick is hotter than that? I'm calling BS

If you don't like Salma, substitute with YOUR favorite and tell me this chick is hotter than that. No way

Once again I am not putting her on a pedestal. You can substitute HB11 with “the hottest girl I saw so far in my life.” I am not even giving girls number anymore, I just wrote HB11 to give you the information that she is so beautiful.
I am not even acted slightly different around her because of her looks.

 

[joverby]

Once again I am not putting her on a pedestal. You can substitute HB11 with “the hottest girl I saw so far in my life.” I am not even giving girls number anymore, I just wrote HB11 to give you the information that she is so beautiful.
I am not even acted slightly different around her because of her looks.

That's why you still haven't gotten over it in a year, couldn't let go when she had a BF. told you to stop talking to her and she had to block you on facebook.

Can you see how your obsession isn't healthy? Talk to different girls. Not to mention everyone else saw the red flag of HB11 but you. It's not a healthy mind frame you have.

 

[Vince115]

That's why you still haven't gotten over it in a year, couldn't let go when she had a BF. told you to stop talking to her and she had to block you on facebook.

Can you see how your obsession isn't healthy? Talk to different girls. Not to mention everyone else saw the red flag of HB11 but you. It's not a healthy mind frame you have.

Dude read my posts carefully. She didn’t block my on facebook. I could let go in any time, but since she was attracted why should I. She said we shouldn’t talk anymore after her bf found out and I was OK with this and never contacted her again. I forgot about her. I am not obsessed.

Now I saw her again by accident. I am not writing this because I desperately need her or desperately need help to get her.

 

[Single4Life]

Karma is a b****.

One day, when you fall in love, you better hope some dude doesn't do exactly what you tried to do to the woman you love.

and you better hope he is not better looking, you better hope he doesn't have more game (you called him an AFC), and gets your girl to cheat on you.