HB Dressed Casually at Date = Turn Off

[chicksrock]

Hi,
it has happened to me a few times.
I meet a girl say at a party or something, and she looks absolutely stunning. So I get lucky to arrange a date with this HB.
At the date this HB is casually dressed....and looks no where near as sexy as before.

End result --> I lose interest immediately...and impatiently wait for the date to get over quickly.

I believe I am being fair here, I dress well and look my best all the time.

I feel maybe these girls don't think that much of me so don't put in extra effort to look sexy at the date with me?
or do I just attract ugs??

Any comments?

 

[squirrels]

The body had to still be right, though.

Don't ask us for opinions, if she didn't turn you on, she didn't turn you on. Everyone likes girls who look good WITHOUT make-up, too. Also, this means that she put more effort into making herself look sexy for a party (full of drunk, horny guys) than she did for you individually...so I can understand.

It's up to you how you think about it, though.

 

[PeeGee]

How are you setting up dates? Regardless, try to throw in a "dress sexfully (not a real word)" type of comment when you ask her out.

Yes.

 

[Seks Appeal]

If you choose a girl based on superficial dress and make-up, you WILL be disappointed later.

Right now you are losing interest in the first date.
Think of how ugly she will look by the 3rd date or if you had to see her in the morning in her pajamas without any make-up.
God Forbid, if she became your girlfriend and you had to see her like that in casual clothes every day.

Unless you are in a same-night lay/ONS situation, you have to look at the stuff underlying the makeup and dress. Look for women who are NATURALLY BEAUTIFUL.

During the initial meeting, imagine a woman wiithout makeup and hot dress and see if she will still appeal to you. Try to separate her fake attractors from her natural gifts. Then, evaluate her on stuff that will always be there - whether it is the 10th date or it is the morning.

By the way, this is also a good way to reduce AFC'ness in front of her because, now, you are appraising her instead of trying to be liked by her.

 

[slick_romeo]

Originally posted by chicksrock
Hi,
it has happened to me a few times.
I meet a girl say at a party or something, and she looks absolutely stunning. So I get lucky to arrange a date with this HB.
At the date this HB is casually dressed....and looks no where near as sexy as before.

End result --> I lose interest immediately...and impatiently wait for the date to get over quickly.

Any comments?

just one comment...get your eyes checked!

 

[Craig Reeves]

Hi,
it has happened to me a few times.
I meet a girl say at a party or something, and she looks absolutely stunning. So I get lucky to arrange a date with this HB.
At the date this HB is casually dressed....and looks no where near as sexy as before.

End result --> I lose interest immediately...and impatiently wait for the date to get over quickly.

I believe I am being fair here, I dress well and look my best all the time.

I feel maybe these girls don't think that much of me so don't put in extra effort to look sexy at the date with me?
or do I just attract ugs??

Any comments?

It's because you're easy. All she had to do was look hot and here you came trying to get her digits.

You thought she was hot and that's the only reason why you dated her.

Since she was hot, you figured that she'd make a good trophy for you. However, when you see the real her without all the makeup and stuff, she doesn't look good to you anymore because you were interested in her looks, not her.


Guys, don't date girls just because they're pretty. Geez. Lol, some of you guys call yourselves DJ's yet your so easy that any girl with a makeover could get you in bed. Puh!

 

[phillyb]

sounds to me like she is testing you very early. Stick to your guns , tell her to put something better on. If she refuses,then leave and dont return her calls for a while.

 

[chicksrock]

Originally posted by squirrels
The body had to still be right, though.

Don't ask us for opinions, if she didn't turn you on, she didn't turn you on. Everyone likes girls who look good WITHOUT make-up, too. Also, this means that she put more effort into making herself look sexy for a party (full of drunk, horny guys) than she did for you individually...so I can understand.

It's up to you how you think about it, though.

body was still tight yea...but face is so very very important don't you think squirrels?!!

 

[chicksrock]

1) peegee....good idea you gave me to take them out to more formal kind of places where they need to get dressed up nicely!
2) SeksAppeal..yes i need to carefully evaluate a girls talent before i ask them out on a date
3)Craig Reeves: I personally don't date girls who are just pretty either...but i do prefer a whole package deal if you know what i mean....and pretty should be in that package!


4) phillyb you think they are testing me?? i never thought about this before... but don't you think it is NORMAL for both parties to look their best in the early stages to impress one another...obviously these girls are ABNORMAL....

Plus I want a girl to put in effort to impress me!! to me this is important....

 

[MindOverMatter]

My 2c.

When I'm taking a girl out, I will never tell her where we're going, it's always a surprise. When I make a call to scheduale the date, I will always give very little information. For example if I'm taking her out for dinner at a good restaurant I'll say wear something formal. If I'm taking her out on an action date like rock-climbing, I'll say wear something athletic. Edit - every once in a while, break the norm. Tell her to dress athletic and take her to a place that doesn't require it (like a movie or a pool hall). When she asks why you told her to dress athletic, say it looks sexy on her.

This way you get to:

1.) Always keep her on her toes. She never knows what will happen next. You bring excitement to her life and are not just another boring "hey you wanna go see a movie sometime" chump.

2.) You get to control how she dresses. Most guys don't really care how their gf dresses, but it can be a turnoff. When you say "im taking you out tommorow, wear something formal" it shows that you pay attention to how she looks and are evaluating her (which means you're not desperate and wont settle for less).

Another tip I can give you is, if you think a girl looks sexy in something, tell her that. If you let her know what you like, she will wear that style more often. Then someday at a future date when you're making plans say "if you wear that sexy red skirt you had on <that night> there might be a reward for you". But don't do this early in a relationship, you don't wanna come off as a chump that throws compliments around like pocket change.