having trouble meeting girls.

[Packers2010]

hey guys. long time no post.

i just recently decided to next the girl i have been in love with for 7 years. it's hard but i am doing it. i haven't told her yet. as i still need to get some money off her. so once i get that i will never talk to her again. she tried to get me to go for a drink with some friends of hers. she just got this new bf. so i obvs declined when she txt me this morning. i told her i was busy. witch i'm not.


anyway on to my problem.

I'm not like most guys. i'm different. i live in Australia and guys are well. bogans. they like cars and they drunk a hell of a lot of boose and they are just annoying.

i tired online dating. but Because i'm not that good looking. it hasn't work out well. lets be honest here. girls ain't looking at whats on your profile. i could right i own $$$ and they wouldn't care.

i have been out clubbing before but the girls that go clubbing aint my style. there too. *****y and slutty.

i think this is a problem with me. with me being WAY to picky. i know i'm not going to get some hot babe straight away. To be honest. if she has a great personality i wouldn't care about looks so much.

the thing is. i am 21. now all 21 year old girls are in to pop culture. i am no. if it was up to me. i would rather blast my own music and dance at home. then i would a club. i am picky with my music. way more then i am with girls.

i think this is more then a rant then anything. but i can say i haven't gone out much lately so that could be why.

i am going out with 3 girls this weekend. so it should be ok. there are my friends but 2 of them just got out of a relationship. so you never know.

my friend thinks my next girl is in a record store. ( i collect them) witch i know sounds stupid, cos girls don't go into record stores.

 

[NoCommitments]

dont take this too hard but you sound annoying & boring!!!
you whine a lot about things which you don't like & people that are not on your level of interest.

My advice is take a workshop when it comes into town! or start reading about proper communication & gaming. Or just make more friends who you could network with

And if I were you I would totally utilize those girls you're going out with as your wings this weekend. I went to a club sat night with 5 chick friends and it worked like a charm. I was a magnet to other hb's. take advantage. you're young, I'm not. Grab life by the b*lls & show up the bogans bro

 

[Packers2010]

i know i might sound boring. what i am trying to say is that my interests and most girls interests aren't the same. so we both would get bored. but yeah. i just need to read the book of pook more. and learn not to be as boring as i sound.

i was thinking about doing that. as in using the girls as wingmen. but if it fails with other girls i can always look into the circle

 

[Mantis Toboggan]

i know i might sound boring. what i am trying to say is that my interests and most girls interests aren't the same. so we both would get bored. but yeah. i just need to read the book of pook more. and learn not to be as boring as i sound.

i was thinking about doing that. as in using the girls as wingmen. but if it fails with other girls i can always look into the circle

You and girls don't need the same interests. You just need the ability to make them interested in your interests.

I like traveling, playing guitar, and camping. 95% of the girls I date, I'll never travel with, and most don't see me play guitar or go camping with me. But I can talk about these things in such a way that women want to know more.

Your interests won't hold you back. Unless its video games or something. You like records? Well that's a good start. I could talk for to someone (male or female) for hours about music.

 

[runner83]

You and girls don't need the same interests. You just need the ability to make them interested in your interests.

I like traveling, playing guitar, and camping. 95% of the girls I date, I'll never travel with, and most don't see me play guitar or go camping with me. But I can talk about these things in such a way that women want to know more.

Your interests won't hold you back. Unless its video games or something. You like records? Well that's a good start. I could talk for to someone (male or female) for hours about music.

I was about to say the same thing.

The OP is from Aust?....didn't realise w had so many bl00dy whingers down here...

Seriously mate, stop making excuses for yourself.

Any dude can work to improve his looks to some extent.

Just get out there, and stop deluding yourself that girls in clubs are any different to a random sampling of the population.

They are just normal girls out to have a good time, you should be doing the same and not worrying about picking up.

Just get out there, first few times might be tough to get back into the groove, but it will get better.


PS - Keep strong about your former oneitis girl, and keep moving forward.

 

[Packers2010]

well i do have a girl in the works. i met her online and we emailed for a bit. i got her number while back and she played the hole. "i only txt 3 times then i stop "game. if you know what i mean.

so i just asked if she would like to meet up on sat cos the girl i like is having drinks and she wants me to go. obvs i don't want to. but i am hopefully going to shoot some pool with her on Sunday. so.

 

[Diaforetikos]

You need inner game. Read a few articles everyday and then meditate on what you read. Internalize it and let it becomes you. You need a mindset shift.

Your goal for the next month should be, "become that guy that every guy wants to be, and all the girls want to be with. Develop that cool personality that women find attractive. Watch movies and study the "cool characters". Watch bond. But don't go changing yourself to get women. Become a better man to get women.

At this point, I am just rambling, but you get my idea. Start small and learn one thinklg at a time. Once you learn something, move onto the next. And take action. Learning comes from experience.

Good luck mate.

 

[blackwolf]

i kind of get what this guy is saying. im in aust too and a lot of people here drink alcohol. i also don't like the whole partying and drinking kinda girls. not my type at all and its hard to find girls who don't party up and get drunk every weekend.

 

[Diaforetikos]

I forgot to address what blackwolf hinted at.

There are plenty of women out there who aren't into that scene. Your looking at the wrong places.

I work at a mall, a haven for party girls who need to find the right dress or outfit for that nights special event. But I always end up finding a female that is actually mature enough to understand life and realize that life isn't all about clubbing and partying. Not judge of course.

Now stop complaining and get to work.

Women complain. Men find the source of their problem and fix it, so fix it.

 

[Packers2010]

i kind of get what this guy is saying. im in aust too and a lot of people here drink alcohol. i also don't like the whole partying and drinking kinda girls. not my type at all and its hard to find girls who don't party up and get drunk every weekend.

i don't think they understand. you have to live here to see it. it's not a choice it's a culture. it's a way of life here. you " live for the weekend" work all week get pay on Thursday and be broke by Monday. repeat week in week out.

i mean a party or what not is good once a month. if that.

 

[blackwolf]

i know exactly what you mean. it's like a tradition over here to get drunk on the weekends. i seriously can't meet any decent girls myself.

 

[runner83]

i don't think they understand. you have to live here to see it. it's not a choice it's a culture. it's a way of life here. you " live for the weekend" work all week get pay on Thursday and be broke by Monday. repeat week in week out.

i mean a party or what not is good once a month. if that.

The self defeatism of you other so called Aussie "men" is disgusting. So what if we enjoy a drink? that is no different to anywhere else.

I've had periods in the past where I haven't drunk anything at all, went out still and had fun.

And there have been times when I've really tied one on as well.

Just because everyone else is drinking to excess DOESN'T MEAN YOU HAVE TO!

I'm not going to put up with you bashing our culture.

I'm not saying you have to turn into a club fanatic, but there is a big difference between you two (with your superiority complex) and the average bloke who goes out on the weekend to have a few drinks and unwind.

You two sound way too uptight. Just learn to loosen up, enjoy yourself a bit more and you'll be much happier.

 

[dodger]

Guys I agree that you must have some game if you want to meet girls. Some guys do all the right thing by accident and have no idea how to do it again. That's how you end with "she was the one syndrome". That being said, it's not all about having game. Trust me guys pheromones play a very important role it attracting women. I know a lot of PUA's don't wanna hear this. Well maybe they naturally emit them or they wear them and keep it a secret. I know good looking guys that have lots of money and drive Ferrari's that can't get a girl to look at them. Conversely I know scruffy dudes that are broke as a joke never wash their clothes, never take showers and guess what... They get one girl after another. You have to be open to all options.