Having doubts

[Psychedelic]

Hey guys I'm new so I will just give you an overview of my situation first:

I met this girl in a club about a month ago on the dancefloor, I see she is attracted to me, we dance and sit down a bit later. We talk a bit, i neg her, she comes closer, kino is happening and we make out for about 20 minutes, we dance while our bodies are like one but in the end she had to go home or her parents would find out she went out... So a goodbye kiss and I told her I would call her.

Anyway the next week I was super tense because I had never kissed a girl or anything, I was super shy for most of my life and that only changed about a year ago. Anyway I called her but we somehow failed to meet for the next 2 weeks but we kept writing SMS.

So I finally met her again to go clubbing and it working really well, we could talk etc but I left to join my friends and only saw her again around the morning hour. She was always cuddling up to my in the cab and I knew she wanted to kiss me but somehow I didn't want to or maybe I was too afraid to make a move.

OK after that she wrote my an SMS every day but right now it's really cooling off again. She is calling me babe now but we only exchanged about 4 SMS in 2 weeks. Prolly can't meet her again this weekend which is really pissing me off because im starting to miss her.

Anyway TL,DR, what should I do right now to keep her interested?

 

[eaglez1177]

Hey guys I'm new so I will just give you an overview of my situation first:

I met this girl in a club about a month ago on the dancefloor, I see she is attracted to me, we dance and sit down a bit later. We talk a bit, i neg her, she comes closer, kino is happening and we make out for about 20 minutes, we dance while our bodies are like one but in the end she had to go home or her parents would find out she went out... So a goodbye kiss and I told her I would call her.

Anyway the next week I was super tense because I had never kissed a girl or anything, I was super shy for most of my life and that only changed about a year ago. Anyway I called her but we somehow failed to meet for the next 2 weeks but we kept writing SMS.

So I finally met her again to go clubbing and it working really well, we could talk etc but I left to join my friends and only saw her again around the morning hour. She was always cuddling up to my in the cab and I knew she wanted to kiss me but somehow I didn't want to or maybe I was too afraid to make a move.

OK after that she wrote my an SMS every day but right now it's really cooling off again. She is calling me babe now but we only exchanged about 4 SMS in 2 weeks. Prolly can't meet her again this weekend which is really pissing me off because im starting to miss her.

Anyway TL,DR, what should I do right now to keep her interested?

Well it definitely doesnt help that you chickened out from a kiss. You had that thing locked up easy so that mistake is def on you.

And instead of doing SMS, how bout you actually call her and arrange a date? Maybe this time make it during the weeknights so you dont have to wait till the weekend. Shes probably wondering why you two talk so much over SMS and you still havent suggested the two of you hang out.

And when you say that you two cant meet up, or you two fail to meet, why is that? Like what does she say is she making up excuses?

 

[Psychedelic]

OK two weeks ago I got my friends to go to a club she was at because she wrote me and I told she wanted me to be there (she wrote several SMS and then called me, I was playing hard to get telling her I MAY come) so about an hour later we went over there and I wrote her I that i'm here, but then I didn't get a reply. Guess she went home or something because her friends went somewhere else before. So the next day when I asked her she said that she had been too drunk and at the VIP section, so I was actually pissed and told her that (I guess that was a mistake to be pissed, or rather telling her?) But she said that she would make it up to me.

Now I think my mistake was not replying much at all to her (because I was pissed) so last weekend I asked her to hang out but she said she wasnt out (that was around 12 nighttime). So on sat I tell her if she wants to come I'd be at this one club. Then she didn't reply. This Tuesday I told her that I kinda missed her that weekend (I'm thinking this was kinda bad?) and she said "Babeee yeea i knoowww!" and that she would have that sat test coming up on Saturday and asked me how partying was. So I told her to message me when she is free. Now is Friday and I think I should just wait for her SMS right? Because I told her to message me and I don't give a **** if she does or not, I don't want to initiate again (or should I? I'm thinking that comes across as too needy?). I'm guessing if she writes me it will be next week or saturday evening.

And as to why we don't meet weeknights, I'm kinda scared because it's really easy for me to fall back into my insecure self, but if there is alcohol that doesn't really happen. We also wanted to meet a few times and one time she didn't come because she told me to REMIND her of the date and I thought wtf girl you can remember yourself if that is important to you (but didn't tell her, my bad). And other times I was just postphoning until it hit a weekend and we tried to go clubbing (i know that's ****).

And I don't know about calling her I think it could turn awkward, because it did kinda when I first called her. But when I'm out on the weekend I feel pretty confident even without alcohol, it's just a mindframe thing I have then and the whole environment. And we did talk quite a lot like 2 hours total so it's not like I'm not getting to know her.

My biggest question right now is just if I should initiate and try to set up another meeting or wait for her to tell me she is free and then tell her what we are going to do (this way if she feels like having a casual date (so if she tells me on a weekday) I'd be cool with it but I'm pretty sure she prefers clubs aswell)