Having chix as friends or not

[thechallenger]

I say NOT.
1. Went out with a girl (friend) for casual drinks, after wards i realized that i wanted to get horizontal with her because i was buzzed and she looked good. Friendship fizzled away after I realized it is stupid to have a friend you want to lay but cant for the only reason that your not in the dating realm with.
2. Went to the mall to meet a girl (friend) and her friends. Saw one i liked and got her number. Jealousy and anger fizzled it all down a spiral of crap.
So I say no if you cant (shouldnt) have sex with her or her friends.
But there is always exceptions to the rule

 

[doctorj]

chick friends are ok, so long as you don't find her hot

 

[thechallenger]

and whats more

when your chilling with your pals you all talk about hoes and banging them and the like, graffic stories and such.
Can you tell these stories to chicks? few and far between
than they start to tell you how they did this and that to a guy
Im like wtf! i dont wanna hear this crap.

 

[Mike32ct]

Don't expect female friends to fix you up with their friends either.

1. If she's attracted to you (and single), she's not going to want to set you up with someone else.

2. If she's not attracted to you, then by chick logic, you are not "worthy" of her friends or any females in her social circle.

Only in rare cases where she's happily taken AND she thinks you are a great catch would she even CONSIDER fixing you up.

 

[wataf]

Female friends are good for dhv at clubs but so are female acquaintances I usually go to the same bar because its literally 1 minute walk from my place on the beach and the same crew of girls always makes a return once in awhile perfect for dhv if girls see you hug another girl that you havn't seen in awhile, her interest level raises.

On the other note I don't think I have any female friends that wouldnt be willing to, or already have ****ed me.

 

[Burroughs]

Never have female friends

never

they serve no good in the lives of men...in my life women are there for me to fvck...any women around me I fvck...if they don't want to fvck me they serve no use.

women are parasites...in the past they would have to provide extensive services such as cooking, baking, sewing, and anal sex in order to get access to live off of men...these days such is not required...because modern faggotized men want to be their 'friends' lifting boxes, bookshelves, even making soup for their female friends all while getting no puzzy.

 

[ka_mate]

I say I do and you should if you want to

I genuinely like women and have female friends.

If you don't genuinely like women then fine don't be friends with them but I enjoy being friends so it's not a case of me being friendzoned but rather a platonic relationship.

There is something to be said about being friends with girls you don't find attractive though. It just makes it easier for you to be friends.

For guys who haven't had much experience with girls who just don't get 'chick logic', don't have any sisters, went to all boys schools or just generally haven't talked to many girls. I think that having female friends will teach them about the difference in the ways girls think to guys and the different ways they structure things. Maybe it'll be something like she tells you a story about a friend who went out with a guy who did something that you wouldn't think twice about but is considered a real turnoff to women. Or maybe you yourself do things and she calls you out on them.

At the very least you can use her as a sounding board and get some practise being ****y and funny, being humourous and becoming comfortable and natural in the one on one presence of a girl.

For guys who've never really had any close female friends before, at least have a few friendships with women before you form your opinion rather than just believing everything that's written in this thread.

 

[Zerro]

Only in rare cases where she's happily taken AND she thinks you are a great catch would she even CONSIDER fixing you up.

So far I've only had that happen once and even then all she had done was invite me to some parties that some of her girl friends were going to be at and stayed out of the way. Didn't take long to find one in the bunch who likes me.

 

[mikey2012]

Never have female friends you can't screw. Ie it's ok to have fvck buddies. Otherwise forget it, they will take advantage of you.

 

[SgtSplacker]

Only if the girl is ready to completely assume the stance of a male friend. If you can totally treat her just like one of the guys will I keep a female friend and that includes never paying for her unless she asks for a loaner. Some girls are totally down for that. Girls that are usually make it their theme if you understand what i'm saying. They will tell you "yeah i'm like one of the guys." Anything less and it's not gonna work out good...

 

[Love's Orphan]

If you dont want to bang her, and she doesnt want to bang you... Then you can have a friendship. But most of the times, one person has feelings.

 

[bigneil]

Don't expect female friends to fix you up with their friends either. 1. If she's attracted to you (and single), she's not going to want to set you up with someone else. 2. If she's not attracted to you, then by chick logic, you are not "worthy" of her friends or any females in her social circle.

Subtitled: Why women are pretty much useless except for the Honeymoon phase of a relationship and maybe makeup sex and FB status.

*Women friends will get just as jealous of other women just because you are talking about them. Your mentioning another woman implies she is not as beautiful so that bothers her.

*They will still let you pay for things but will feel zero obligation to even kiss you goodnight (and if you point out the trend that you paid for 3 dinners in a row she will end the friendship).

*They won't have any passion about replying or helping you the way a girl who has high interest will.

*They won't care what is going on in your life if they don't want to have sex with you.

*They will try to pre-reject you all the time, starting every sentence with an implied: "Well, I know you love me, but since I don't love you...".

 

[Gray The Prince]

You've been here for 4 years and you're actually asking this?

 

[Voice]

If you dont want to bang her, and she doesnt want to bang you... Then you can have a friendship. But most of the times, one person has feelings.

This is so true. There always seems to be feelings or at least interest one way or another. Unless she is one of the guys. Girl friends will rarely hook you up. Honestly I can't think of one girl friend I'd had where I didn't either want to bang but didn't, wound up hooking up with at one point or later found out she had a crush on me.

However, I have found that GIRLFRIENDS of GUY friends, if they like you enough, WILL be willing to help you out. Generally, if they see you as someone who has their boyfriend's back, they will have your back in the dating realm. It's almost like a brother/sister thing. It's weird but some of the most loyal people I know happen to be girlfriends of close friends.

 

[Mike32ct]

Subtitled: Why women are pretty much useless except for the Honeymoon phase of a relationship and maybe makeup sex and FB status.

*Women friends will get just as jealous of other women just because you are talking about them. Your mentioning another woman implies she is not as beautiful so that bothers her.

*They will still let you pay for things but will feel zero obligation to even kiss you goodnight (and if you point out the trend that you paid for 3 dinners in a row she will end the friendship).

*They won't have any passion about replying or helping you the way a girl who has high interest will.

*They won't care what is going on in your life if they don't want to have sex with you.
*They will try to pre-reject you all the time, starting every sentence with an implied: "Well, I know you love me, but since I don't love you...".

^Signature quote worthy. That is the point I've been trying to drive home to guys. If she wants to b*ng you, your underwater basket weaving hobby is FASCINATING. If she doesn't want to b*ng you, she couldn't care less that you speak five languages and are trying to save the w h a l e s from extinction.

 

[mikey2012]

I guess if you are QUEER then you can have CHICK friends.

 

[Poonani Maker]

Chick friends' friends all whom you fvck, it just takes one friend you lie to or burn in some way or fashion to cause her to start fvcking with you and being wishy-washy, flakey, etc. B!tch flaked on me last week, said she was sick. This week "sounds great " on plans for Saturday, then less than 30 mins later, "crap i just remembered that theres something going on saturday night, can we [ ] friday? Or we will have to wait until next weekend, sorry "

Damn guys, my patience is wearing thin. I believe that her girlfriend who I fvcked, but I burned her by lying to her about something (said I was going to do something for her, but never did hah), and then never called her, but she contacts me about her having just moved and other stuff going on in her life and I play with it to see about getting with her again and then she starts saying weird off-the-wall confusing sh!t just a faint or a pattern to mind-fvck me, so I drop her like a rock, cut her off completely, block her out. I'm sure she spread a lot of negative sh!t about me (how I'm a liar, whatever) to her girlfriend who I haven't fvcked, but met, and now her girlfriend is giving me the above bullsh!t backtracking, just fvcking with me. Not sure what I'm going to do about this one. I have another and another and another. I'm trying to set up Saturday with an older one by about 5 yrs but every bit as hot, so I'm putting her switch to Friday on hold. I can't say "yes" until I've exhausted every little replacement for her BOTH Friday AND Saturday. I want to be busy, if I can, from Now On, and leave her out to dry. I'm tired of the bullsh!t. Not ready to Block this one, Yet, but if she flakes me One More Time, I will Never fvcking talk to her again, and I know that that will cut me off from a lot of young pvssy, but so be it. I don't like girls who think they can toy with me and conspire behind my back. I will not be played the fool.

 

[synergy1]

This is so true. There always seems to be feelings or at least interest one way or another. Unless she is one of the guys. Girl friends will rarely hook you up. Honestly I can't think of one girl friend I'd had where I didn't either want to bang but didn't, wound up hooking up with at one point or later found out she had a crush on me.

However, I have found that GIRLFRIENDS of GUY friends, if they like you enough, WILL be willing to help you out. Generally, if they see you as someone who has their boyfriend's back, they will have your back in the dating realm. It's almost like a brother/sister thing. It's weird but some of the most loyal people I know happen to be girlfriends of close friends.

This is a topic of conversation that I have been having on a frequent basis with a friend. His contention is that women will network for you and hook you up with their friends. My belief is they will never do this on purpose. So far, he has had zero luck with this and keeps thinking that its advantageous to hang out with women for this purpose. We had one of our mutual friends over the other day, and when he brought up the idea of her bringing friends over to hook up with us, she changed the topic. hmmm

If I had the choice between hanging out with women I wasn't going to hook up with, or some of the guys...i'd easily pick the later. Heck, I'd pick the later in most cases even if getting laid was a certainty. (sorry, getting laid isn't everything). Lets take for example this saturday; an older but cute chick wants to hang out. I told her straight up that saturday night is reserved for me and the boys. That said, sunday is a good time for these types of activities

*They won't care what is going on in your life if they don't want to have sex with you.

You can even guage interest in women who used to want to have sex with you if they still have a good buying temperature. Some get boyfriends, and stop "caring" suddenly - its pretty obvious.

I have had my ups and downs with women this year. I even made a post about it earlier. Somewhat recently, I decided to stop giving a **** and start focusing exclusively on taking time to enjoy time with friends. Its amazing how much this shift has changed my fortunes with women. While i am not making it a focus to go find women, the urge is still there but I am much more successful in doing so. I do not intend on using women friends as networks, nor do I plan on going out with the sole intention of chasing women anymore...

 

[Mike32ct]

This is so true. There always seems to be feelings or at least interest one way or another. Unless she is one of the guys. Girl friends will rarely hook you up. Honestly I can't think of one girl friend I'd had where I didn't either want to bang but didn't, wound up hooking up with at one point or later found out she had a crush on me.

However, I have found that GIRLFRIENDS of GUY friends, if they like you enough, WILL be willing to help you out. Generally, if they see you as someone who has their boyfriend's back, they will have your back in the dating realm. It's almost like a brother/sister thing. It's weird but some of the most loyal people I know happen to be girlfriends of close friends.

I'll agree about the gf of your guy friend. Only once in my life has a female really tried to fix me up. It was the gf of a guy friend.

 

[zekko]

Only in rare cases where she's happily taken AND she thinks you are a great catch would she even CONSIDER fixing you up.

And even then she probably won't want to fix you up.
Because she would rather keep you in orbit in case her and boyfriend/husband break up. That way she'll have someone to fall back on.