Haven't done it in 2 years and can't get a second date (if I even get the first one)

[user252009]

I'm pretty much at the highpoint of my career (so far), doing some very high profile things. Women have definitely noticed and have slid into my DMs lately, but I haven't gotten laid in 2 years and trying to take advantage of this situation. Issue is I can't even get a second date, if I even get a first one. I'm a very busy guy but still find time to go to the gym a few times a week, let's say 2-3 times. I know I'm not in the best shape right now so trying to work on that but being so busy leaves little energy. I've also lost the mojo when it comes to crafting sexual energy on a date, and I tend to have deeper conversations as I'm a serious kind of guy and not too into joking etc. Feeling stuck right now I guess.

 

[GearsGod310]

Why do you think you can't get a second date?

 

[BackInTheGame78]

I'm pretty much at the highpoint of my career (so far), doing some very high profile things. Women have definitely noticed and have slid into my DMs lately, but I haven't gotten laid in 2 years and trying to take advantage of this situation. Issue is I can't even get a second date, if I even get a first one. I'm a very busy guy but still find time to go to the gym a few times a week, let's say 2-3 times. I know I'm not in the best shape right now so trying to work on that but being so busy leaves little energy. I've also lost the mojo when it comes to crafting sexual energy on a date, and I tend to have deeper conversations as I'm a serious kind of guy and not too into joking etc. Feeling stuck right now I guess.

Then stop being so serious and focus on having fun.

I don't get why guys will get no results for a long period of time but continue to do the same thing. I mean how long will it take you to realize that what you are doing is not working and you should do something, anything, else?

5 years? 10 years? 20 years?

 

[user252009]

Then stop being so serious and focus on having fun.

I don't get why guys will get no results for a long period of time but continue to do the same thing. I mean how long will it take you to realize that what you are doing is not working and you should do something, anything, else?

5 years? 10 years? 20 years?

I’m curious what are things you would consider fun?

 

[user252009]

I had interesting interactions with two chicks these days. I just had a major milestone in my creative career and quite a few women slid into my DM’s. I chatted with a few of them and two of them out of nowhere sent me a pic of their kids. Is this just a signal I shouldn’t expect this to be anything but a casual chat or is there something more behind this behavior, has anyone had this? I believe they’re both in LTRs

 

[SW15]

You need to figure out why you aren't getting second dates despite having more money and status. Your physical fitness is likely a part of the equation.

 

[user252009]

You need to figure out why you aren't getting second dates despite having more money and status. Your physical fitness is likely a part of the equation.

I have no idea how the people that are making a full time job 9-18, side business and also have some life find time several times a week to work out and yet eat little enough to not collapse and have actual energy for all they need to do

 

[MatureDJ]

It's OVER for 2YearDrySpellCels.

 

[user252009]

It's OVER for 2YearDrySpellCels.

This stopped being funny like a year ago

 

[Bigpapa]

I have no idea how the people that are making a full time job 9-18, side business and also have some life find time several times a week to work out and yet eat little enough to not collapse and have actual energy for all they need to do

Feel you bro, this is something that most guys go through

The only way to move things forward from the 1st date is to smile a lot and escalate sexually. Like touching them, grabbing their ass, holding their hand, trying to kiss them etc

You have to show sexual intent, the woman wants to see that you want to bang them

 

[Bigpapa]

Careful with this, most of the high quality chicks I’ve dated will be turned off by obvious intent on the first date. They filter out thirsty dudes because that’s what they see day in and day out.

As long as you escalate step by step you will be fine

Light touching, normal touching, you put your hand on her back, hold hands, try to kiss her … grab her ass after a while

If she is uncomfortable at any point just do more deep diving and do a step back

No one is saying to grab her by the ass from the get go, but if she is compliant and ok with you escalating you will just sh00t yourself in the foot

 

[BoomToTheMoonAlice]

Do you not have a passport, bro?

 

[BackInTheGame78]

I had interesting interactions with two chicks these days. I just had a major milestone in my creative career and quite a few women slid into my DM’s. I chatted with a few of them and two of them out of nowhere sent me a pic of their kids. Is this just a signal I shouldn’t expect this to be anything but a casual chat or is there something more behind this behavior, has anyone had this? I believe they’re both in LTRs

Talking like this I can see why you are having trouble with women.

 

[MatureDJ]

This stopped being funny like a year ago

It's OVER for StaleComicCels.

 

[MatureDJ]

I have no idea how the people that are making a full time job 9-18, side business and also have some life find time several times a week to work out and yet eat little enough to not collapse and have actual energy for all they need to do

The people who need very little sleep

Is it true that some people need only a few hours of sleep? Helen Thomson talks to a woman whose genes might hint at how we all could survive on less shuteye.

www.bbc.com

 

[user252009]

Talking like this I can see why you are having trouble with women.

What?