Haven't been building attraction - need to switch it up

[AmsterdamAssassin]

You didn't give any of them the feelings that would make them drag you to their lair to get ravished raw by you.

Until a woman feels lust, a good time is just a good time and nothing special. Women are like cats. Chasing cats only appeals to their ego, but you won't catch them. You have to lure them with inattention. Attract them with unknown pleasures. And get them to surrender to you. To do that, you have to radiate what she didn't even know she needed in her life. If she doesn't fantasise about you, then you're not real to her.

 

[TOneThousand]

@AmsterdamAssassin yep I'm 100% sure that I did not give them good reason to drag me to their lair or create feelings of lust. When I started this thread I said I'm not building enough attraction and most of the responses to the thread have been that it's cause I'm not escalating and not leading the woman somewhere. Do you agree that not escalating is a key factor here?

Yes I could absolutely do better by luring with inattention and radiating what she doesn't know she needs. Finding what she needs but doesn't know it sounds good to me but I got to work on finding what that is man. I'll start workshopping it though. Thanks

A good time is just a good time - well said man

If she doesn't fantasise about you, then you're not real to her - well said times ten... I'm with you here and am up for experimenting with ways to do this

 

[SW15]

The main problem that I saw from @TOneThousand in the opening post is that he's not leading interactions well enough and not pushing for first date sex on his app arranged first dates or for same night sex from his bar approaches. He builds enough attractions to get first dates from apps and does do well enough through a portion of the first date but doesn't close.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

If she doesn't fantasise about you, then you're not real to her - well said times ten... I'm with you here and am up for experimenting with ways to do this

Like I've stated in these threads before, you have to penetrate her mind before you penetrate her body.

There is plenty of documentation about what women crave in a man. You can even crack open a slew of romance novels, but if you read about female fantasies you will notice some common themes.