Have you ever just plainly stated your intentions to a girl?

[Eternal_water]

ie. when you have built up a vibe and have the chemistry there and are getting IOI's, instead of talking around a subject or whatever, have you just looked her in the eyes and plainly said anything along the lines of


-Are you single?
-I want to kiss you
-I want to have sex with you



If so, how did that go for you?

 

[adam225]

Any of them just make you look weak. If things are going well then just go for it lol. Don't think; just do .

 

[Renegade357]

-Are you single?
-I want to kiss you
-I want to have sex with you

I ask chicks if they are single all the time if I get a good vibe. It always works.

As for saying "I want to kiss you" "I want to have sex with you". Why say it? It would kill the suspense. You looking for her approval or something? Just do it!!

 

[ebracer05]

I don't think you should be afraid of your intentions or be uncomfortable with them.

But I also don't think it is best to spell them out explicitly in every situation. It is context dependent. Sometimes explicit sexuality can be very useful, especially in a club or maybe a party, depending on how its going. I think in most other situations though verbal ambiguity is better as long as your actions keep communicating your intentions.

It almost feels like to me that verbally expressing your intentions is a passive way of seeking permission. At the end of the day, it doesn't matter what you say nearly as much as what you do. I think a guy who can physically escalate but doesn't spell out his intentions will do millions of times better than a guy who tells a girl what is going to do before he actually does them.

 

[Uncharted]

The closest thing to that is I was going back and forth trying to make a third date with this chick after banging her the second date. She was "busy".

So I just told her "well, listen I'm interested in seeing you again. If you want to hang out, call me. If not, whatever." She stopped playing games.

 

[corrector]

This youtube video looks candid enough:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RTuBf4BrIgE

In this video the guy is what most collage aged women would likely find attractive (i.e. M7>) so I'm not sure of average guys or ugly guys (<M6), or older guys (M<7) (i.e. trying them on 18 -28 year olds) can pull it off as gracefully as portrayed here:

But he asks women three questions RANDOMLY:
1) If they find him attractive.
2) If they have a boyfriend.
3) What would be your excuse not to kiss me?

The girl typically stummers at the last question and he rushes in for a kiss-close. None of them offer their cheek which means he didn't get one rejection, nor did he get anyone freaking out.

Typically, if you kiss close, a rejection would just be the lady turning her face and offering her cheek instead (i.e. she likes you as a friend but not as a lover) so it's nothing major if you try and kiss and it doesn't work out. I guess someone may be asking "permission" to avoid a cheek rejection.

Personally, I know my "looks" limitations and always play it safe since I'm an average looking older guy, M5-6 so I wouldn't try a stunt like that. Also cheek rejections or a woman pushing you a way will kill your confidence in just moving for a kiss without asking about it first.

 

[Betterz]

I used the above last night and it worked - in that order

 

[betheman]

the " are you single" question is priceless. it shows your intent without stating it or without being too direct. it says...'im interested in getting intimate with you' without backing her into too much of a corner, she is however forced to respond. 'yes, sorry I have a BF/Im married/ sort of seeing someone' tell you this isnt really going anywhere, there is a key word in there though...sorry! that immediately tells you its going nowhere, without this though, there is still hope.
if you get a ..."I have a BF, but..." she is interested and proceed!

 

[skinnyguy]

If you're a 8+ and alpha, it will work.

If not, forget about it.

 

[Eternal_water]

How about

-Are you a good kisser?

 

[Vekhematu]

Depends what intentions you are stating and at what point. If you got a girl at your house, "Come over here, I'm gonna play with you" is perfectly fine. If she doesn't do it, you probably have no chemistry together. Now if you are saying that in the club, most girls won't be into it, but heck, if you are confident just keep trying, you will more than likely strike gold eventually... even if it's just revenge sex or something. If you're not into a long term relationship, etc, say that. Lying about your intentions is a good way to bring a lot of drama into your life. Also a piss poor way of getting them to understand and meet your expectations.

I don't do all this 3 dimensional chess, making her think I want a LTR while secretly plotting to get in her pants. It requires a massive effort, usually a lot of stress, acting out of character, and results from her are usually poor... i.e. bad in bed, no sexual energy, buyers remorse, self esteem issues, angry exes/family members/orbiters at your door... just all sorts of things that make it a questionable effort.

An extreme example, say a guy is only able to be aroused and fulfilled through the woman puking on him or something, wouldn't he want to make this known at some point? And at what stage in the relationship should he make this known? I would say almost right away. Why put in the effort for a woman who probably can't give you what you want, and might blacklist you as soon as you bring it up, regardless how long you dated?

 

[hockeyfreak79]

Nope

The only 1 I have ever said was: -I want to kiss you. I think I was 17.

I have actual told woman before that I'm not looking for a girlfriend. One asked me why don't you have a gf? I told her I don't want 1. She was 27. At the time it was true.
The other was 35 and was throwing out all these relationship questions blah blah...sh*t test I guess. I told her pretty much the same, I'm not looking for a gf.

I still dated them and eventually they became gf's.

I know you are thinking crazy, why would a broad date a guy that isn't looking for a gf? I still scratch my head.....

 

[Jair213]

I was once straight forward with an Hb5 single mother she had an amazing asss tho.
This was back in los Angeles.

The convo went something like this.

Me. I want to **** you.
Hb why?
Me cuz I'm a man.
Hb ok but with the lights turned off
Hb ill get my mom to baby sit for me this weekend.
Me. Ok then saturday at 9pm. I'll text u witch hotel to meet me at before hand.

She showed up. I was pounding that ass doggy all night brahs lol.
I think she wanted to smash with the lights off cuz she was insecure good thing tho
Cuz her face was kinda iffy haha..
I met this chick through my nephew, bish gave some good head too.
The downside was she was complete nuts sh!t crazy.

 

[NewJack]

I'm not sure if I've done this, but I will tell you what my instincts tell me about this approach.

I think this can work with younger women, if you have correctly assessed their vibe (which I believe you will). Younger women are very impressionable and can be pushed in many directions with a sexual vibe. It can get you make-outs and maybe more.

Its not the success I personally would aim for, for the following reason. Directly communicating your intent is like saying "Can this please happen now?" or "Hey, dont forget, I want to have sex with you". All rationalizations to the side, you are essentially being pushy, and giving yourself props for being pushy in an honest, straightforward way.

Consider the immutable facts:
1. You both already know its (potentially) sexual
2. She has not yet told you she's ready, which means (90+%) she isnt.

In spite of what our wildly speculating minds may be thinking about in moments like these, the woman is actually giving honest signals and is perfectly able to communicate her desire. When you short-circuit this process, because you have a clever idea about how to push things forward sexually, you take her out of the equation. She will tell you when she's ready.

If you think you can tell her when she's ready, be my (or her!) guest. I have not found this to be the case. In all cases that I have experienced, this puts the woman in a double bind because she has to face two contradictory impulses:

1. She clearly, clearly likes you
2. She is clearly, clearly not ready for what you're intending.

Forcing or pushing a woman to resolve this double bind has never been profitable for me, even if they chose to resolve it in favor of sex. Being pushy did lose me a beautiful, long-distance-running, independent and world-travelled girlfriend though. Probably one of the most sexually attractive women I've ever had a shot with, or even *seen* in real life. Oh well, ya live and learn.