Have you ever gone to a bar or club alone and made it work?

[Mike32ct]

In order of coolness, with 1 being coolest:

1) Being alone at a bar where you are popular and there are lots of hot women.
2) Being with a hot girl.
3) Being with your best wingman.
4) Being alone in a new bar.
5) Being with a regular friend.
6) Being with a couple.
7) Being with coworkers.
8) Being with your aunt and uncle.
9) Being with 8 guy friends.

I pretty much agree with that ranking. My weekend plans are #4.

I also agree with Desdinova that, for the most part, the average guy alone is flying under the radar. Most people won't give a F either way.

Notwithstanding, will there be at least SOME women that might think I'm a loser for being alone? I can't read minds, but it's a safe bet that at least SOME will think that. So what? Let the hamster wheel spin...

Even if you are with buddies, if you approach her and she isn't attracted, she will STILL think you're a loser. Women RESENT men who they aren't attracted to, regardless. It just goes with the territory. Don't sweat it. Charge it to the game, and move on to greener pastures.

 

[goodfoot]

I've had my best nights alone. If there is a mixed group I try to befriend one of the guys. If he's cool, he can help you find out which girls are available. A couple of times, the guy basically gift-wrapped the chick for me. Even if it's just a group of guys, at least you don't look like your by yourself if you're uncomfortable.

 

[sstype]

People at clubs and bars are too busy having fun and getting wasted to give a sh*t if you came alone or with a group.


I'm pretty comfortable in my own skin so going out alone is not an issue for me.
If someone asks I just tell them I lost my friends or they dipped out early. Unless you're rolling with some well known celebrity, an HB10, or Stifler as your wingman....friends are nothing more than a burden and a logistical nightmare to your game. Plus I usually end up going at it alone regardless if i'm with people...so at the end of the day the only advantage to having friends is you get your own little "green zone" when you need to fall back.

 

[sstype]

I figured I post this here but recently last week I was having drinks with some friends at a neighborhood sports bar. Well my good friend and his girl decided to dip out early but nonetheless I had planned to hit up the city and try and pick up some women, friends or no friends.

My friends brother was also there with his girl....now I never really liked this guy as he seems to dog on me constantly whenever I try to pick up women when we're out. He gives off the whole judgemental, cliquish, too-cool-for-you attitude but nonetheless I keep things friendly with him cause he's my best friend's brother. His girl and I OTOH hit it off every time we hang out together, so I have her respect.

When he found out I was planning on going out alone, he launched into a drunk tirade about how creepy and weird it was. I asked him, bemusingly "so if I want to go out and all of my friends are busy, do I just stay home?" which he replied "well if you lacked the foresight to plan it out early then you should just stay home" This whole time I have a WTF look on my face, but lo and behold, HIS GIRL ends up siding with me and berates him for being narrow minded and judgemental...i don't remember word for word what was said afterwards, but basically the dude made a huge as* out of himself and he and his girl were not on speaking terms by the end of the night.

So basically, I learned that insecure douchebags who are obsessed with social status and "rolling deep" will care but the rest of normal decent human beings will find it ok, even admirable (as many don't have the confidence to do it themselves)

 

[runner83]

Yeah, some people might care.

But if the place is crowded, most people wouldn't even know.

Amazing how many of my pick ups have happened when I haven't made any plans with mates, and haven't been completely in the mood to go out, but have though "will go out for a look and see what happens."

Living by your own rules and doing as you want is always good fun.

 

[bigneil]

What about sitting at the bar and having dinner alone at a restaurant?

How about getting to know the regulars and staff and hot waitresses?

Working example: I went to a bar alone last week and saw a cute bartender (12 years my junior). I asked her name and she asked my name and then she told me her schedule. Two days ago I went back in and said hello (using her name) and more importantly she remembered my name. We got down to business and she told me she lives with a guy though she's unhappy with him. Yesterday I went in for the third time (always dressed sharply). As usual, the bar was full of 100% men who are all in love with her and giving me dirty looks. After my 10 minute stay for a drink she walked me out and said goodnight. There was a gleam in her eye and a pause before she extended her hand for me to shake. I pulled her close and we made out in the foyer. I didn't stay a combined hour during my three visits.

I used to want to believe that women had to really know a man to fool around with him, because I pretended that getting to know women and making them feel safe around me would lead to my scoring. It doesn't. Women feel instant attraction for some men. Make it be you instead of crying about them doing it with someone else. Then you won't have to worry about getting hurt because you'll do the hurting and you'll quickly replace those those who act up.

 

[Eternal_water]

So where do you experience the most success, a bar or a club?

I imagine there are more girls to open in a club and you can easily lose yourself after a rejection but I imagine ***** shields may be lower in bars and you can talk without shouting and maintain eye contact for the same reason

 

[cablecow15]

Defiantly , i mean so far ive always had a friend meet me there , but he dosnt really do much to help me , all the girls i dance with i get on my own , we both kinda do out own thing and meet back to gloat lol

 

[020204]

This is a really great thread and I have been really soaking this up. I am contemplating going out alone to sarge, as my friends rarely go out only to the odd concert which is every couple of months. There are not a great deal of places in my area to sarge except for a pub over the road, which has a restaurant or a mall. The area I live is full of married couples and even when they go out it is not uncommon for them to have their kids with them. I am after somewhere like you guys were saying with hot waitresses or bar staff, and get myself familar with them.

 

[Sofomore]

What about sitting at the bar and having dinner alone at a restaurant?

How about getting to know the regulars and staff and hot waitresses?

Working example: I went to a bar alone last week and saw a cute bartender (12 years my junior). I asked her name and she asked my name and then she told me her schedule. Two days ago I went back in and said hello (using her name) and more importantly she remembered my name. We got down to business and she told me she lives with a guy though she's unhappy with him. Yesterday I went in for the third time (always dressed sharply). As usual, the bar was full of 100% men who are all in love with her and giving me dirty looks. After my 10 minute stay for a drink she walked me out and said goodnight. There was a gleam in her eye and a pause before she extended her hand for me to shake. I pulled her close and we made out in the foyer. I didn't stay a combined hour during my three visits.

I used to want to believe that women had to really know a man to fool around with him, because I pretended that getting to know women and making them feel safe around me would lead to my scoring. It doesn't. Women feel instant attraction for some men. Make it be you instead of crying about them doing it with someone else. Then you won't have to worry about getting hurt because you'll do the hurting and you'll quickly replace those those who act up.

I agree with your post. But arent you married?