Have you ever gone to a bar or club alone and made it work?

[runner83]

In my experience, girls I have picked up in club/pubs, 90% of the time I have been alone (either went out alone, or at the moment of picking her up I had temporarily misplaced my friends I was out with).

And for them, 90% have been in places that were busy. In those sort of situations, if a girl asks "where are your friends?", it is perfectly natural to say "lost 'em in the crowd somewhere", whereas in a quieter place you don't have that excuse.

Key to going alone is to be aware of your surroundings and which girls are looking at you or making eye contact.

If you keep alert, and you notice a girl makes eye contact (if you have decent looks, at least one will be looking at you, maybe more), you hold it and then go over to start talking to her, that is the most natural thing in the world.

Don't get me wrong - if you are not used to going out alone, it can be tough. But the more you do it, the better it gets, and you'll eventually reach a point of thinking "should I go out with friends and have a good time, but likely not pick up?, or go out alone and likely pick up?"

 

[bigneil]

When you go out alone you can stand wherever you want. People will often ask me if I am a bodyguard or an undercover cop. When a woman realizes you are there alone, they often ask you to join her and her friend(s). Or you might meet a girl who is alone. Here are the steps:

0) Find a club with your vibe. I can't stand noisy places. I need to make subtle jokes that she must hear and respond to for chemistry to unfold.
1) Find a girl who is making eye contact.
2) See if she smiles at you.
3) Ask her name.
4) See if she extends her hand for you to shake (otherwise you don't).
5) See if she asks your name (otherwise you don't tell her - she'll forget it).
6) You make her laugh and establish some connection (DON'T BUY HER A DRINK - unless it's a strip bar).
7) (Optionally) You get her to leave that part of the bar and get a table.
8) (Optionally) You get her to leave the bar and go to another bar (sans her friends).
9) Cheek kiss.
10) Tell her to call your cell phone with her phone.
11) Hopefully spend that night together.

It should be an exact science. I've done this dozens of times. If a girl sits next to me at the bar, I get a number 80% of the time.

 

[Mike32ct]

Just be ready for confrontation. Sitting at a prime spot in a crowded bar will gain you close proximity to females, but it will sometimes gain you unwanted proximity to other males, the kind who usually have a few drinks in them. I'm totally serious when I say that other guys will try to leech onto you to get physically closer to the females. I've run into a lot of guys in bars who become envious and try to nudge me out of my spot. Solo sarging is great, but you have to be willing to defend your ground.

I'm glad you brought that up. It can be an issue when you're solo with a great bar seat, but some dudes roll in packs. I've had this happen:

1. Mike gets good seat and two girls sit to his left, for example.

2. Talks for a while, then girls leave.

3. Now there's two empty seats to my left.

4. Three dudes show up. "Excuse me, would you mind moving down one seat so my buddys and I can sit down?"

If I say yes, I'm a beta chump who gave away prime real estate. If I say no, I'm a "d!ck."

Any thoughts?

Assumptions:

1. The only other open seats are one or two to my right.

2. The guy asked politely. (If he was bossy or rude about it, then I would definitely dig in my heels and say no.)

 

[djokovic77]

I always do better going alone...it's not even close.

 

[ilikecharlene]

It's often said not to go out alone since it makes one look a loner/geek. i don't agree though, i think it shows confidence, and if somebody actually has friends, why care what some strangers think lol.. for people without friends, it's also a way to make more, and get some ***** by using game.

 

[Mike32ct]

Thanks Espi.

The other reason I go out alone and even travel alone is because trying to make plans with others is like pulling teeth. Everybody has an excuse why they can't go to xyz.

 

[bigneil]

In my mind, if you go to bars often enough, especially solo, you better be in fighting shape. And I'm not kidding. Because you WILL eventually be confronted.

Yes, especially if you are stealing their women! You're not established in town until you've been jumped by 4 guys (and won).

 

[theanomaly]

Find a few clubs and get "famous" in them.

I've been going to clubs and coffeehouses alone for years. In fact, I'd rather work alone than with a wing man. But I have a strategy I've refined over the years, like in this article...

How to Get More Dates By Being "Famous"

Ya gotta start with a few places, build a rep slowly and make it to where you're never really working alone, even though you are. Working alone in a place where you're well known is the perfect way to run game. No one to worry about but yourself, just try it.

 

[old_skoolr]

Really depends bout who u are in regards to going to clubs & bars alone. I'm not really a fan of solo sarging, but its true some of my best results have come wandering a massive club and talking to random ppl. My advice, go to a big place with your friends, and just ditch them lol. Especially if ur all drinking, just wander off and have ur fun, then when ur done go find em again

 

[KockyMcGoodstroke]

When you guys are macking to girls are you telling these girls who you roll with? Are you standing next to these guys?

Whenever I go to the bar and club I always go with at least one of my fraternity brothers (I don't really mess with a lot of dudes). Whenever we enter the spot those guys will not see me until the end of the night unless we are strolling in the club (black greek frat thing) or fighting in club. I'm like a lion in the jungle going around the club and having a good time. Scoping out the females and chopping it up with the females I like. These girls have no clue if I came there by myself or came with people because I always approach them by myself.... not with homies.

Now if your that insecure you gotta go with a bunch of people and stay with them to "fit in" then there is some confidence lacking within.

I concur sir 100% Unless I'm strolling I'm usually trying to chat some girl up or just vibe and enjoy myself.

I gotta give you a big YO to that

 

[Mike32ct]

Delete. I was talking about how looks are the only true turn on.

Sorry. Posted in wrong thread .

 

[djokovic77]

totally agree. Looks trump others because you want a girl to WANT YOU. Some might argue that looks are just an outer shell, but for better or worse we feel that looks are us, that is why we all are so flattered when a girl thinks we're hot. It is the only true attraction on a base level.

 

[Eternal_water]

Do you get more success in the middle of the day or at night?

 

[Desdinova]

So you guys could be completely happy sitting in a bar by yourself having a quiet drink and you wouldn't be self conscious?

I do it all the time. If I'm out, in a good mood and in a positive mindset, it doesn't bother me at all. Sometimes I'll get women coming up to me, wondering why I'm all by myself. I just convey that I'm quite happy and positive, and they usually respond by giving me attention.

It really depends on your mindset. If you think you're a loser because you're not with anybody, then you're going to be a loser. If you think you're a confident, independent man enjoying your alone time, then that's what you'll be.

 

[bigneil]

In order of coolness, with 1 being coolest:

1) Being alone at a bar where you are popular and there are lots of hot women.
2) Being with a hot girl.
3) Being with your best wingman.
4) Being alone in a new bar.
5) Being with a regular friend.
6) Being with a couple.
7) Being with coworkers.
8) Being with your aunt and uncle.
9) Being with 8 guy friends (San Jose California is here).

 

[Eternal_water]

You seem to be the only one who thinks so Jose. Surprising though, I would have though it was way more.

If people are telling the truth, thats good for me lol, I also didn't think this thread would take off so well

 

[Desdinova]

I don't think it depends on the mindset at all. I think people are just going to think you're a loser.

So when you go somewhere and see someone all by himself, do you automatically think "wow, that guy's a loser"?

Typical guys think alpha-males are losers. They're noisy, loud, dress outlandish, and treat women like garbage. They're not thinking about the dude sitting all by himself because he's not making a spectacle of himself.

Women don't think about guys who are solo as losers either. They think about the other women who are slvts, skanks or wh0res getting attention from the alpha male.

An average guy who is out solo is completely off everyone's radar. That's why it's so nice to just slip between the cracks and work game on the women. Nobody sees it coming

 

[Eternal_water]

In order of coolness, with 1 being coolest:

1) Being alone at a bar where you are popular and there are lots of hot women.
2) Being with a hot girl.
3) Being with your best wingman.
4) Being alone in a new bar.
5) Being with a regular friend.
6) Being with a couple.
7) Being with coworkers.
8) Being with your aunt and uncle.
9) Being with 8 guy friends (San Jose California is here).

ughh 6 and 8 would be the worst on there for me.

6 would be the worst, if its just the three of you and the other 2 are a couple, that would feel like being babysat, no thanks

 

[TonyBaloney]

In order of coolness, with 1 being coolest:

1) Being alone at a bar where you are popular and there are lots of hot women.
2) Being with a hot girl.
3) Being with your best wingman.
4) Being alone in a new bar.
5) Being with a regular friend.
6) Being with a couple.
7) Being with coworkers.
8) Being with your aunt and uncle.
9) Being with 8 guy friends (San Jose California is here).

san jose would be there, but with a phat lip, with his face to the floor if i was rolling among those 8 :kick: :kick: :kick: :wave:

 

[LostAndConfused]

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---approaching a girl who I'm talking to.

--repeatedly bumping into me on the dance floor (once is OK; 2x is not).

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Great post, I'll take note of that the next time I consider going solo.


I've only just recently started hitting bars, but I've seen that stuff happen.

Luckily whenever a guy approaches, he's absurdly beta, and it only makes me look better. Oftentimes the girl will smile at him then make out with me right in front of him. Luckily I'm a good video game sh1ttalker so I always have stuff to rib guys on, if the guy actually does have game, I'd condescend like a muthafukha.

I still look really young, so maybe that's saved me from confrontations, maybe I'm seen as a non-threat; think that's what's saved me???

Really depends bout who u are in regards to going to clubs & bars alone. I'm not really a fan of solo sarging, but its true some of my best results have come wandering a massive club and talking to random ppl. My advice, go to a big place with your friends, and just ditch them lol. Especially if ur all drinking, just wander off and have ur fun, then when ur done go find em again

^ Best. This is what I do to close most girls. Sometimes me and my best friend will leave the group and we'll chill by the bar and girls will approach, othertimes I'll wander away and approach a girl myself. Just tell them you're gonna buy a drink or are trying to find another friend who might be working there that night and game on.


Desdinova makes a really good point about alphas seeming like losers.... My best closes have happened when I'm by myself and people probably judge me as a loner.


its weird though, I'm always anxious when I'm not around my bros, but reading this thread reminds me of solo conquests