I had a woman ask me out a year ago to a classical concert. Hardly knew her from a bar of soap. She was not what you'd call a classical beauty... thin lips, and a funny shaped nose though with a nice figure. As I did not find her that attractive, I I did not actively pursue her, though we would still meet from time to time infrequently. But what I found during the course of the year is that she began to 'grow on me'. Now that she is leaving town and flying back to her own country, I think I'll miss her. Looking back at it, I think i should have done things differently, and she may have made for a nice girlfriend. She had a nice laugh.
One thing I noticed about myself is that I was quick to see flaws in her... especially in her values. Things like - oh, she's very middle class and status driven, she keeps looking at her smart phone, she didn't respond quick enough to a message, she wanted to go for a bike-ride instead of a movie, she wore frumpy pants when we met... all dis-qualifiers that irked me.
I think this is a good example to how I've moved on a bit from my approach to women.