Have issue with g/f, she is 15 and goes to 21+ clubs

[thekid07]

My girlfriend and I are both freshmen in highschool. I've dated her since the summer (she lives in a diff city). I heard she likes to go to these night clubs where older people are at. At first I didn't believe she was even able to go into them but its true that she does get in through connections. I thought it was weird but figured once I started dating her she wouldn't really go anymore, but she still does. The other day I told her I don't like the idea of it and it looks bad and people will talk (esp. about her if they were to find out). She got very mad at this.

It's not that I want to control her life or anything, she's free to do what she wants, but it seems disrespectful to me for her to go to these places since I am supposed to be her "boyfriend" and she hangs around older dudes (she has dated some of them before from what I know)...frankly, i suspect she maybe slutty among other things. I'm considering telling her I don't want to go out with her anymore. Some advice would be apprecaited.

 

[Skel]

how old are you

 

[thekid07]

fifteen, turning 16 in a few months

 

[Skel]

Personally I wouldnt bother with her. If you suspect she's cheating why not just find another girlfriend?

 

[thekid07]

Personally I wouldnt bother with her.

Why is that?

well i can't prove she did or didn't cheat. more of a chance she did then didnt but the fact she even goes to these places at her age...that alone seems like a red flag to me. i am going to look for a new girlfriend but part of me also feels bad for her because she is my first girlfriend. its sad to see her act like such an idiot. she's one of those white suburban chicks that likes britney spears and such.

 

[drak_ool]

I heard she likes to go to these night clubs where older people are at... I thought it was weird but figured once I started dating her she wouldn't really go anymore, but she still does. The other day I told her I don't like the idea... She got very mad at this... she hangs around older dudes (she has dated some of them before from what I know)...frankly, i suspect she maybe slutty among other things.

there s a thread that deals wit a problem similar to yours (sure there s more than one but too lazy to search for them):

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=133941

some quick advice: move on. Why?
1) She does something you are not comfortable with, you confronted her about it and she refused to change her attitude... she even got mad at YOU! btw women will always do this, turn a situation around to make you feel like you were wrong when it s really them

2) She hangs around wit older dudes... age is not necessarily always an issue but at your age, unfortunately it is. Being 15, it s hard to keep a 15 gf when 21+ guys are courting her (too many things they can provide her with that you can't, starting with takin her out to clubs, since that seems to be her thing)

3) She hangs out with her ex(s) and you think she s slutty... hum... not a very good combination, right? if you haven't figured this out yet, slutty girls are not good gf material

if she is your only option at the moment, then keep f.ucking her without expecting anything more from her (ie: no commitment) until you find another girl. If you have other options then stop wasting your time with this ho

 

[Snow Plowman]

There is nothing actually wrong with the chick, despite her growing up pretty quick. (15, in 21+ Clubs!! I wish I was her lol) Your real young...what you was expecting to marry this chick or something. If it's really hurting you then break up, honestly I don't find it a big deal, she's just a party chick who loves partying. Plus she is in a 21+ club which might seem real cool to her because she is 15...so I highly doubt you could get her to stop going there. Plus...your the "Society BF" lol, those guys have no say.

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

Look here young playa. Your only a freshmen in high school. Don't get tied down to one girl. If I was you and had a girlfriend who went out to clubs. I'd be fvckn other girls and keep her around just for the pvssy cuz that will always be there until you two break up! She could be doing the same thing behinde your back!!! This may not sound like good advice to you because your young and havnt fully experienced life. But, trust me; once you graduate high school you can look back and remember all the ho's you had. And all the crazy fun you had.... and all the experience you will get going hard on b!tches.

 

[Blackmm]

I highly doubt you could get her to stop going there. Plus...your the "Society BF" lol, those guys have no say.

Actually, you can tell the club manager her age (better if you have proof and a picture) No club owner is going to risk loosing his liquor license, paying fines and possibly jail time over a teen, no matter how hot she is and if they still don't listen, report the club to the local liquor board.

I don't know if you want to go this far, but there is a reason teens don't belong in grownup clubs.

 

[BlackJackal]

So... just break up with her. Problem solved.

 

[Baruch]

all i can say i wish started reading this forum when i was 15.