Have I Developed Oneitis?

Jmac

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Ok this is a long story but ill try and summarize, here we go:

In August I transferred to a new University for a fresh start and now I had my own place more independence. So I go checking out girls, seeing the ones I want to mess with. Funny how I meet some chick from FB, I end up kicking it with her later that week at her place. She said she didn't want to have sex but I was well on my way to getting but I told her I had to go. At first I wanted nothing to do with this girl I just thought it be a one time mess around thing.
But she had so much to offer I couldn't resist coming back.

So we continue messing around and things are getting serious (its been three months we been "together") . She tells me she really likes me, that im the only guy shes messing with, blah blah blah I know not to believe that stuff because thats just words. One day I was able to see her fb account and BOOM found out she was flirting with so many guys (none from school but still).

I was furious after that, next day I dead her. Completely ignored everything calls, txts, emails, fb msgs, everything. So now shes crying and all that and shes telling me shes sorry and she deleted all those guys and told everybody she doesnt want to talk to them anymore and all that. I told her I moved on and continued ignoring her (as hard as it was). She attempted suicide that Friday because of this, so now I knew this was serious but I still was not planning on being with her again.

So I was talking to one of the other girls I mess with and told her I have this annoying ex that wont stop harassing me, and she gave me some good advice. She told me just act like your giving her another chance and take advantage. Make her work for everything.

I thought about it and decided Id go with that. She calls me later explains everything, I pretend to understand and give her another chance. But I set ground rules, no talking to other dudes, no acting like a hoe, she has to pray and recite promises daily all that stuff. She also gave me her FB login info which I didn't want but it was tempting so I slipped and checked things out a few times. She told all the guys that were hitting her up that she no longer wants anything to do with them because shes talking to someone.

She does EVERYTHING I say, she likes when Im assertive/aggressive with her.


Anyway im trying to keep her on the side and mess with other girls as well but I feel like im slipping back into oneitis. Like Its even so hard not to check her fb.

Some red flags I should point out about her:
1. Shes on birth control
2. Shes a safe sex promoter, she has tons of condoms to distribute.
3. She sucks **** too good (sucked my **** for about 20-30 mins and wanted me to bust in her mouth which I did)
4. Shes always too happy/friendly

What should I do about this situation.
 

Dhoulmagus

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lol sounds like you have oneitis for a slut. Good night sweet prince.
 

saywhen

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Why do you care?
There are two simple things you can do...

Either cut all contact because of the disrespect and emotional turmoil shes caused.
(living life as an obsessive control freak towards your woman is obviously not a good time and will spell disaster in the long run..)

Or you make it very clear your just in it for the sex.
Youve mentioned you have other plates. So if its a clear fwb situation you shouldnt give a damn if she sees other men.

Being controlling will just push her to other guys anyways..
 
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Wow. This is a holy grail for you. A girl that will even swallow. Don't act like you care too much about her. Just f*ck her guts out and leave everytime. Don't give her the boyfriend treatment. End of story.
 

Jmac

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saywhen said:
Why do you care?
There are two simple things you can do...

Either cut all contact because of the disrespect and emotional turmoil shes caused.
(living life as an obsessive control freak towards your woman is obviously not a good time and will spell disaster in the long run..)

Or you make it very clear your just in it for the sex.
Youve mentioned you have other plates. So if its a clear fwb situation you shouldnt give a damn if she sees other men.

Being controlling will just push her to other guys anyways..
Thing is Im going celibate for a while (she insisted she will do it as well with me) and I just need her because I need her to do some things for me (work, resume, job hookups, etc.) Now I got myself into this mess again by pretending to give her a second chance.

Now how do I cut her off but still get the benefits from her? I don't want to be a control freak anymore and I just can't trust her no matter all the sacrifices she made/making
 
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