Have any one of you Changed?

[guru1000]

Introvert/extrovert are not mutually exclusive in the individual. There are times when I am entirely extroverted and vice-versa, dependent upon, believe it or not, testosterone levels. Might sound like an absurd theory, however, having been on HRT therapy intermittently throughout my life, I err to the side of complete extrovert (socially and alone) when T levels are high, and complete introvert (socially and alone) when T levels are low. Empirically, vert-ness is not psychologically genetic as much as it is physiologically derived.

 

[miketan70]

I changed over the years because before I was real idiot sometimes. But back then, I didn't care. Now I do. Guess that comes with age.

 

[zekko]

I err to the side of complete extrovert (socially and alone) when T levels are high, and complete introvert (socially and alone) when T levels are low. Empirically, vert-ness is not psychologically genetic as much as it is physiologically derived.

Interesting. I know I don't really like being around people when I feel like crap. I probably enjoyed socializing most in my 20s, and I'm sure my T levels were higher then. I'm not really talking about behavior so much as personality types, however. Ever take a personality test? Like I said, I'm an INTJ.

As an introvert, I can be quite social. But at some point, I get fed up with being around people (run out of energy). The effect is that people start to really get on my nerves and I need to get away from them. The better I know the people, the less they tend to drain my energy, however.

 

[Maximummax]

Part 2: Have any one changed from Nice Guy to Chad Thundercawk.

I would like to see you guys input on this one

 

[Kailex]

I can't say I was the quintessential nice guy. I was definitely on a better level than most when I first started coming here.

But my mentality shifted since 2010 and maybe a bit before that.

I realized, the more I cared about myself versus women and the less I tried to get women, the more successful I was with them. Now, it's all about me first, and then maybe them second. When I say maybe, it's because that can shift around with career, education, socializing, etc...

 

[guru1000]

Can't say that I was ever nice, nor in scarcity. But, I certainly was never sheetting out HB9s like now ... It's a joke.

 

[resilient]

I've come full circle lately. I found this site in late 2005 after my brother told me to check it out at age 24. I devoted all my time to reading everything written here. I miss the writings of Pook and his blog, his written pieces were good stuff.

Started a blog to chart my AFC to PUA/DJ journey after having oneitis. I was a late bloomer and mostly sheltered my whole life. My dad was successful in business and life, but never quite taught me many lessons as a result of being a workaholic. He was definitely always alpha, leading and selfish, but always needed his ego scratched to a fault. I wanted to be more alpha, but in my own way.

I read Style's The Game, Juggler Method, Mystery Method, etc. and tried to apply principles within the manosphere/MGTOW for a time. I was approachzilla for a while, but got tired of playing tactics and sarging all the time in my 20s. I wanted something more from life than just chasing the ladies.

After my PUA year, I started developing my own interests and not looking to date or get digits. That's when I found my wife... through a mutual hobby. We've been married for nearly seven years, but lately our marriage has been getting pushed closer to the breaking point. That's why I came back here to brush up on being a mature man and following my own pursuits whether my lady stays or not.

I'm in decent shape physically, I lift weights and run/walk almost every day, but as a result of going Beta in my marriage; my attraction level has significantly plummeted in her eyes. I broke the golden rule and put her on a pedestal. So, I'm back here regrouping my confidence and taking up new hobbies again that I want to do and not just what she wants to do.

I can relate on being an introvert like some of you DJs. No matter how many tactics/skills I learn like kino, IOIs, ****y/funny my inner self rooted in place in Nice Guy territory, so I hope to fix that so I can be a Nice Guy who knows how to say no or pass $hit tests when I can tell I'm being $hit tested.

 

[latinnova]

Loved this site. From my teen years and up until divorce I had a lot of alpha traits. After being married for over a decade and then becoming single again I lost my way, everything was new again and this time around I forgot how to be myself. This site definitely reminded me of how women work and I was able to be the old me again. On top of that I was able to learn many new things.

To be honest, now that it has been almost a year since the divorce, I have learned that I could really care less about getting pvssy, I know, weird, but I have other things in life that are more important than tapping that @ss, I've had enough to know that it's all the same, and I just don't crave it like I did when I was younger. I would rather being doing productive things, my hobbies, exploring the world, etc.. if pvssy comes along then great, if not then no loss.

All relationships are now on my terms, and if a woman no longer compliments my life then I'm out, and I let them know in the beginning what I expect from a relationship.

 

[resilient]

All relationships are now on my terms, and if a woman no longer compliments my life then I'm out, and I let them know in the beginning what I expect from a relationship.

Good for you man. It sounds like you're controlling the frame. You're the captain of your own ship and are steering the ship where you want it to go. Women can pick up on that confidence and if you keep yourself in decent to better physical shape, good job, etc. then she'll want to pursue you instead of the other way around. :woo:

 

[latinnova]

Good for you man. It sounds like you're controlling the frame. You're the captain of your own ship and are steering the ship where you want it to go. Women can pick up on that confidence and if you keep yourself in decent to better physical shape, good job, etc. then she'll want to pursue you instead of the other way around. :woo:

Exactly. I "truly" no longer care about a relationship. Sure, I like the companionship of a woman, do not get me wrong, but I love my own freedom better. Now that I have my own freedom, I hold all the power in the relationship because I know I can move on and not really give a damn when I get another girl because I am having fun enjoying my own life. The women do definitely pick up on this and want to join in the fun, and we can share this enjoyment until she starts to become a thorn in my side, then I can simply banish that negativity from my life with absolutely no consequences (meaning do not get married, you lose all the power to just walk away without serious financial consequences)