Have a date on Friday. Need advice on how to proceed?

[Meisterman]

Alright so I met this girl online a few days ago. It was through an online study group thing where you register, post pics, etc. I've also seen her like once around campus as well. Long story short, I got her number and she told me to text her.

We chatted briefly for a bit (although I never advocate texting unless to set up a date, we had to introduce ourselves). She asked me the question "Do you feel weird that I'm younger? Lol" To which I replied "Not really. You're 18 right?" (I knew she was since she went to university.) And then she says "Yup. Not jailbait =D" (Which to me is a sexual innuendo). I'm 22 btw.

She then changed the subject saying how she didn't want to work tomorrow (it was Friday night when we chatted). It was late and she said "I'll text you tomorrow" I reply "Sure" and she says "Great =D"

Fast forward to Saturday night...I'm thinking of closing tonight if she gives me the green light. She texts me "Hey!" around 11. We exchange a few texts, she makes it clear she's not looking to chill that night. Once I caught on that we weren't going to see each other that and the convo hit a dead end, I stopped responding. She sent another "goodnight" text 40 mins. later to which I responded to the next morning saying "Hey sry my phone died last night."

She said "That's okay!" So I then asked her when she is free to hang out. She said "This weekend I can!" as in this upcoming weekend. I said "Friday should work for me." She agrees...And then I closed it by saying "Great. See you Friday then" and she says "Yup." That was Sunday, and I don't plan texting her again now until Friday, and will let her initiate then too.

Okay now...couple questions.

1) We aren't really seeing each other on the pre tense of a "date" but it still sorta implied. We're just planning to "hang out" Except I have no idea what to do...


-Drinking is probably out of the equation since she's underage.

-We could watch a movie at my place, although that almost seems too obvious for a ONS to suggest that. She doesn't seem like a slutty gal or someone who puts out very easy. Not someone who jumps from guy to guy. Then again, I can't be sure.

- Her place is probably out of the equation because she lives in a tiny dorm with other roommates and no privacy, where I have an apartment.

- It's like zero degrees here, way too cold to do anything outside pretty much.

I'm not sure what her motives are. If she just wants to get to hang out/get to know me better at first, or is open to more. It's definitely important to "feel her out" first and see where she wants to take things, and go from there. Which I will have to do on the fly since I have little to go by right now.

I understand not making a move when she wants is a sure way for her to lose interest. But I don't really think she's that experienced, she's only 18...small, short, petite blonde. Gives off the "innocent" vibe. Not really like a church girl, but sorta that way.

Even though it's not an official date should I still kiss close at least? Except even that's kinda lame given the circumstances. Also there needs to be an opportunity or something for us to do. As I said drinking and outdoors stuff is probably off limits. My options are limited. A movie and cuddling seems like the obvious choice and usually is my go to move, but I have a feeling it might not work in this situation.

Basically need a plan to make it worthwhile, and progress while not seeming like a creep since I really haven't met her yet. Also to read her signals as to where to take things, if at all. I think she's the shy type so it may be all on me to make a move. Just wondering what I should go for, whether it's just casual hangout, or a kiss-close, kino, bang, etc.

Ultimate goal is to keep her IL sky high when the night is done. I would like to see her again. So whatever I need to do to make that happen, and raise her interest, keep her on her toes, I'm all for it.

Any suggestions?

 

[pyros]

1st: STOP OVER-ANALYZING. You haven't even 'met' her yet and you have all these damn questions. Is it your first date in your whole life or what?

2nd: just go meet her. Talk to her for an hour or so, and see how you two interact. If you have things to say, if you have things in common, if you two laugh, if she is open-minded, if she's shy, if she's boring, stupid, etc.
Forget about planning how to bang her. Leave this for next dates.

3rd: depending on how #1 and #2 go, you kiss close or do nothing instead. Just imagine if you find her stupid and boring, or maybe bratty or something you dont like. Then all your damn questions would dissapear, wouldn't they?

4th: just have some fun. Jeez...

P.S.
Eventhough you believe she is inexperienced and shy, the reality is that she could be a total who-ore. She could have started having sex at 15, she could have done a threesome with two guys by now, could have had a ONS, etc.
So again, STOP PUTTING HER ON A DAMN PEDESTAL!!

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

Agreed mostly with what pyros said.

But equally, don't be afraid to escalate...

Just wondering what I should go for, whether it's just casual hangout, or a kiss-close, kino, bang, etc.

Any or all of the above mate. One of the real secrets is not to think about how it is going to be, nor how you expect it to be, but to just let it be, whatever it is going to be.

To settle the nerves, have a few pre-planned conversation-starters in mind; if there is some sort of unique, indoor event in your area that you could take her to, then go for that. Go play a game of pool (and let her win). Whatever it is you enjoy doing, just share that with her and she'll more than likely appreciate it.

Just stand out from the crowd a bit, make it a unique experience in some way. And don't get too down-hearted if date number two never materialises.

Let us know how it goes and all the best!

 

[Bingo-Player]

Lmao i don’t want to rain on your parade or nothing

But this chick sounds proper naive and you sound more like her father than her lover.....

that reference to her not being “jailbait” sent shivers down my spine

The reality is at 18 chicks are just starting to explore their sexuality with guys they’re age

No she’s probably not a virgin but at the same time i doubt she has a wealth of sexual experience either

The thought of being pounded by a guy in his 20’s probably makes her panties damp ......but to be honest it’s just a nice little fantasy for her to have a giggle over with friends

You are both at two very different stages in life as your discovering by the struggle to think of something to do on the date

which is the main reason i would advise not proceeding to get heavily involved with this girl

if you insist on meeting ......meet her for a smoothie, bowling or something light hearted

 

[pyros]

I've met a few 18 to 20 years old girls that were slvts with plenty of sexual experience, so I prefer to think that there are almost no naive girls nowadays unless they are 16.

If she turns out to be that naive great but I wouldn't expect it.

 

[stevo]

The jailbait reference is definitely sexual. Good for you!

My initial meet with plates under 21 is go out for deserts. Could be froyo or actual desert at a restaurant. Talk a little then decide if that's where it ends or proceed to my place.

If you haven't sent actual seks focused messages like sexting then do not make your home the first date venue for dinner and a movie, high potential to backfire and would unnecessarily make it harder on you.

As long as she's meeting with you one on one then kiss close, if you feel like it.

Remember kiss closing doesn't harm anything, it only confirms your/her stand.

Do not initiate from now till Friday. If she initiates which she most likely would, respond but measure your response.

If she doesn't initiate from now till Friday, hit her up Friday morning, informing her about location and end convo.

If she doesnt initiate and flakes or gives excuses on friday (which is unlikely), withdraw.


Girls 18 - 20ish are the best pussies you'd find for a good while, so enjoy. It's easy to be the "best she's ever had" and if You beat it good, you could own her.

 

[Bingo-Player]

i didnt mean niave in a sexual manner i ment niave full stop

she is still a child and therefore will still be thinking like one

ofc she is about to embark on a journey to the co*k carousel so pherhaps OP could be the first stop

either way i wouldnt want to put all my eggs in a basket that is a mere 18 years old

 

[Meisterman]

1st: STOP OVER-ANALYZING. You haven't even 'met' her yet and you have all these damn questions. Is it your first date in your whole life or what?

Nope. But I meet almost all my women in person, and most have actually been same age or a couple years older than me. So it's definitely a change in pace.

So again, STOP PUTTING HER ON A DAMN PEDESTAL!!

Wasn't meaning to. I was just explaining the vibe I get from her. Wasn't trying to make them out to be redeeming qualities or anything like that.

which is the main reason i would advise not proceeding to get heavily involved with this girl

Not planning on it.

either way i wouldnt want to put all my eggs in a basket that is a mere 18 years old

Again, not planning on it. Plates keep spinning my friend.

Just stand out from the crowd a bit, make it a unique experience in some way.

Let us know how it goes and all the best!

Overall sound advice. Pretty much the same things I had in mind too.

If she doesn't initiate from now till Friday, hit her up Friday morning, informing her about location and end convo.

If she doesnt initiate and flakes or gives excuses on friday (which is unlikely), withdraw.

Already decided I will make her initiate contact Friday too. And if she doesn't, I will never contact her again (unless she contacts first). Quite simply because if she's at all interested she will reach out, and I know she will. Otherwise she isn't worth my time anyway. And if she doesn't, I don't care. She's the lucky one, not me.

 

[pyros]

I would do the 'dont send any text until the day of the date' thing.
This is a good idea if you've planned a date which is just a couple of days from today. But if you set a date almost a week in advance, you should text her once.
Anyway doing as you did is a certain way to get a flake.

You've arranged a date too far in advance, which is a bad idea for a first date.

So, if you want that damn date to happen, you should shoot her a text by wednesday or thursday just to have some chitchat, ask her how she's doing, tell her something interesting/funny that happened to you, and end it with:
OP: "...alright, gotta go now, but see you on Friday."
her: "sure! bye! xoxo"
If you do nothing, she will think you're not interested, she will start having doubts...and she will either cancel or flake. But the main thing is that you set that date too damn far in advance.

If you shoot her a text as I said etc, and she ends up cancelling or flaking, she had really low interest from the begining but it happens.

 

[Meisterman]

I would do the 'dont send any text until the day of the date' thing.
This is a good idea if you've planned a date which is just a couple of days from today. But if you set a date almost a week in advance, you should text her once.
Anyway doing as you did is a certain way to get a flake.

You've arranged a date too far in advance, which is a bad idea for a first date.

So, if you want that damn date to happen, you should shoot her a text by wednesday or thursday just to have some chitchat, ask her how she's doing, tell her something interesting/funny that happened to you, and end it with:
OP: "...alright, gotta go now, but see you on Friday."
her: "sure! bye! xoxo"
If you do nothing, she will think you're not interested, she will start having doubts...and she will either cancel or flake. But the main thing is that you set that date too damn far in advance.

If you shoot her a text as I said etc, and she ends up cancelling or flaking, she had really low interest from the begining but it happens.

I didn't set it too far in advance. She was texting me small talk, so I cut through the BS and asked when she could meet up, because I have no other reason to text her. She said she could meet up the following weekend, as in 5 days. If she said earlier I could have made it work too. But I'm not gonna waste my time with stupid small talk texting for days. If she has doubts then great, more hamster fuel if anything. So I wouldn't have done it any differently.

 

[Yorkex]

When out of ideas , go do something active that YOU enjoy.
Remember a date is like a first impression on who you truly are , if she sees you doing something you like/love that's FUN that's all that matters. Worst comes to worst , she didn't like the date BUT heey you had your fun.

General rule : If she is genuinely interested she WON'T make it too hard for you. Once a chick starts playing games , put her in her place and leave. Not with an angry tone nut a James Bond tone " I was warming up to you but you play too much games , hope you find some girl willing to play along. You know my number when you are done "

You leave with your self respect and like you said you are not about to spend time small talking with her like her orbiters.
Now after that when she hits you up , take your time and most importantly make her work for wasting your time initially.

 

[stevo]

Already decided I will make her initiate contact Friday too. And if she doesn't, I will never contact her again (unless she contacts first). Quite simply because if she's at all interested she will reach out, and I know she will. Otherwise she isn't worth my time anyway. And if she doesn't, I don't care. She's the lucky one, not me.

Haha that's the extreme of the rule, don't lose a good potential.

If she doesn't hit you up from now till Friday and you haven't informed her the location or time prior then HIT HER UP with the info.:yes:

 

[Meisterman]

Haha that's the extreme of the rule, don't lose a good potential.

If she doesn't hit you up from now till Friday and you haven't informed her the location or time prior then HIT HER UP with the info.:yes:

Maybe it is extreme. I suppose I'll heed your advice and reach out if she doesn't by Friday. I guess really have nothing to lose anyway.

 

[uperman]

communicate too much and shell cancel. less text and more sex

 

[Mike32ct]

A player who doesn't say jack shyte about his dating/sex life.

She hears from other women who you've dated/F-ed, but not a word from you.

 

[salinechow]

When out of ideas , go do something active that YOU enjoy.
Remember a date is like a first impression on who you truly are , if she sees you doing something you like/love that's FUN that's all that matters. Worst comes to worst , she didn't like the date BUT heey you had your fun.

General rule : If she is genuinely interested she WON'T make it too hard for you. Once a chick starts playing games , put her in her place and leave. Not with an angry tone nut a James Bond tone " I was warming up to you but you play too much games , hope you find some girl willing to play along. You know my number when you are done "

You leave with your self respect and like you said you are not about to spend time small talking with her like her orbiters.
Now after that when she hits you up , take your time and most importantly make her work for wasting your time initially.

Golden post. But...

This girl is not a woman. She is a feable minded kid. Even if she is sluty, which he says she is not, she is still so young. I think that can warrant a little deviation from the rules.
Specifically:

Reach out to her friday. Lead her to a date. Dont ask her, lead her. Soft but firm will work here. "Looking foward to our date. I know just the thing. Pick you up at (time)" Emoticon if you feel.

This girl is going to play games. Plain and simple. Its all she knows. Its different though when they are just learning. Its a game she is playing with herself becasue she doesnt know what she wants. Its not however a game to PLAY you. There is a differeance. If you show good frame and softly lead her,I promise she will go along with it.

Dont be so harsh about rules with this one. She is interested it seems and thats all you need. You have things working in your favor that I am not sure you see. When a girl is this young she is still thinking you are really "That" much older than her and that is a win for you. You are her experiment into adulthood dating. Show her what its like without it seeming to big and bold for her , and you will have a sex slave.

As far as Yortex advice for an action date with her...I 100 percent agree. Take her to Skyzone and watch those boobies bounce. Be lighthearted and fun but still gently order her around and take her hand or wrist to different activitys" Come on hun, this way" and you are golden!

Connect her with her inner innocence but make her feel out of her element as a sexual being of a woman and she will gush for you.

You are overthinkng DJ/ rules that pertain more elsewhere.

Her naiveté will make her guarded and youll get some ASD but it will be easily traversable for you.

"You know what HB, I am gonna kiss you now. Should have happened sooner."

Persue this girl as an alpha and a leader but with some sensitivity and she will be all yours and talk about you well after you are gone.

Catch my drift?

The other side of the coin...

You act nervous or overthinking, at all, like you are talking to us about and youll will be flying the FZ skies before you know what happened.

Soften the rules but keep the frame, of the same way you deal with the older chicks you have dated and you can real this in hook line and sinker.

Final verdit:
( I am not sure where I heard this but it is sound advice. Take a girl to 3 different locations on a date and psycologically they think its 3 dates. And... every girl thinks, they have a three date rule about sex.) So..

Action date. Go to a cool desert place. Retreat to car that you have a bottle of wine or booze waiting. Hit that sh!t with her. JUst a nip or two. Get her back to yours. Teach her about being a woman. 1.2.3 And from experiance....

Dont think for her. If she offers TAKE IT. Kiss. Rub. Derobe.

My style: Girl like this, do everything but F her if you want to keep seeing her. It will make the sex that much better and keep her coming back.

Up to you though.