Haters: Why do they do it?

[-Gripz-]

As I was walking home from the gym today, I started thinking about haters. You guys know the people who talk behind your back and generally hate on you for no particular reason? I was thinking that your confidence and the way you carry yourself cause people to hate. You could walk in to a building with confidence and swagger and somewhere someone is saying, "Look at that guy, what a douche. Thinking he's all that." Of course these same people are drawn to confident individuals and want to be around them. I Just wanted to see you guys thoughts on this.

-Gripz-

 

[TonyBaloney]

As I was walking home from the gym today, I started thinking about haters. You guys know the people who talk behind your back and generally hate on you for no particular reason? I was thinking that your confidence and the way you carry yourself cause people to hate. You could walk in to a building with confidence and swagger and somewhere someone is saying, "Look at that guy, what a douche. Thinking he's all that." Of course these same people are drawn to confident individuals and want to be around them. I Just wanted to see you guys thoughts on this.

-Gripz-

I cant stand guys who swagger around thinking they are all that.

Why?

Because they think they are better than me, by acting "all that" Why do they think they are all that???? There is a certain "social" code ~ to be gentle and unassuming and quietly confident perhaps boisterous, but guys who shout their mouth off, try to be flash etc are going against the grain of polite society and need a slap and to shut the F u ck up

 

[Eternal_water]

I know what you mean Baloney, btw way, what do you think of that gripz guy? bit of a douche eh?

 

[Eternal_water]

I completely agre with you -Gripz-

 

[TonyBaloney]

By the virtue of you being philosophical enough to consider this gripz, you are not the kinda guy that I refer to in my post - i hope that you understand i wasnt having a pop at you.

I just cant stand roid heads with big mouths. Hope you comprendo bud

 

[-Gripz-]

By the virtue of you being philosophical enough to consider this gripz, you are not the kinda guy that I refer to in my post - i hope that you understand i wasnt having a pop at you.

I just cant stand roid heads with big mouths. Hope you comprendo bud

Ha, Its alright. I was generally talking about the guys with subtle swagger not the all out douche bag types. Ive seen dudes talk about other guys who gave no reason for them to be disliked. Guess I should have went into more detail.

-Gripz-

 

[yuppaz]

Good question - I get that kind of thing a lot. It's usually from people that I don't really want to associate with for whatever reasons (most likely because I can see they are very ego driven and I just don't want to be around people like that, just bring ya down even if you are keen on it...ya know?) People that I think are haters of me are generally that way, they have an impression of what they think there place is in the world and if you are a threat to that created impression then you are a threat to them. Jealousy is a big one... some guys that know that women like me and will obviously talk sh*t like catty little girls to reinforce to themselves that they are still the man. Those guys have thin skin and are very insecure. Think about it...why would someone who was happy with their lot in life (who they are, what they have etc.) be worried / or even give a second thought to someone who was having success in an area of their life? They actually wouldn't...at all. With all the guys I have noticed / blatantly hating on me it's pretty clear that they are constantly seeking to validate their fragile ego's. Happens a lot in the gym, at clubs and bars etc. It's never guys that are just relaxed and doing their thing...they couldn't care less what I looked like or who was checking me out or who I was talking to or whatever, because they HAVE all of what I have.... because they are comfortable in their own world with what they have and who they are. Nothing to prove to anyone or no fragile ego.

 

[FairShake]

It's possible your confidence is inspiring a bunch of people with low self-esteem with jealousy causing them to hate you.

Another possibility is that your confidence is coming across as ****iness. Most people I've known who complain about their haters are not hated because they are confident but because they are ****y. People LOVE confident people. They hate ****y people. No easier way to put it my friend.

Take a step back and examine.

 

[cablecow15]

Inferior males envy those with what they lack , its as simple as that .

a guy with alot of girls around him , they will hate on him

a guy with confidence in his actions , they will hate on him

a guy with look , height , fitness , you name it , they will hate you for it if they dont have it or cant get it .

almost every one does it to s degree, even some ppl posting above me have shown that they hate , but the amount of jealousy they have for you will show how much they will display their hate

but if you have people hating on you , your doing something right

 

[SharinganUser]

Haters have no life. It's just as simple as that.

 

[omega05]

im more of a loner so i dont experience this

 

[YouKnowI'mRight]

As I was walking home from the gym today, I started thinking about haters. You guys know the people who talk behind your back and generally hate on you for no particular reason? I was thinking that your confidence and the way you carry yourself cause people to hate. You could walk in to a building with confidence and swagger and somewhere someone is saying, "Look at that guy, what a douche. Thinking he's all that." Of course these same people are drawn to confident individuals and want to be around them. I Just wanted to see you guys thoughts on this.

I'm curious as to why you'd suddenly be hatin on haters!

 

[Derfel]

I don't care what people think. I just make sure I do not attack people - Anything i feel towards others, I feel in myself and most of the time of myself.
I only care when they begin to do Propaganda; Killing me Politically, Spreading Humors, etc..
On the other hand. I am just me and I have fun with the people around me. People who enjoy my company do not care what those people think.

 

[dmvdav]

Hate comes from fear.
It's clear when you start having feelings of "hate."
Trace it back and realize that you are afraid of what you hate, in some way.

Hate also comes from insecurity. What makes you feel more insecure than feeling fear?

For the AFC, white knights, etc, they hate guys that can easily get girls, because they are AFRAID to accept the reasons why. A lot of times it's a simple fear of accepting the truths.
He'll say "he's just out manipulating women and being a douchebag to attract slvtty girls" but what he is REALLY saying is, "i'm afraid this guy will have better luck with girls than me."

One weird thing is when really ripped guys at the gym start making fun of the weak beginner.
I think it's easier to express negativity and make fun of someone to point out why you are "better".

A guy may say "lol that guys lifting like 40lbs" because it allows him to feel better about his accomplishments and abilities, but that is coming from his insecurity either way.

 

[switch]

people generally suck.

its useless to argue with them.just today i was arguing with two broads over the fact that not everyone is allergic to peanuts.
no thats not a joke.they suck that hard (if only they sucked c0ck that well they'de be the richest wh0res lol)

anyway ive found out that there are two ways :

1.suck c0ck like the rest of them

OR

2. accept that most people out there just outright suck, are haters of anything cool and awesome or anyone who is better than them , and that the only way to stay sane is to crush these pathetic fools by continuously being better than them even more.

now go show a faggot whose boss.

 

[Jair213]

haha good thing ive always being an introvert. i go to the gym and dont talk to nobody, im already fitter and getting more shredded.. i dress nice i get looks all the time from the HB's and even guys mirin the style/swag. but guess watt? i dont fVcken care about watt anybody thinks brah let em hate! you dont have to prove nobody nothing or have any type of social aproval by anyone! i dont dress to impress i dress how i like dressing and i dont need to be all social with everybody to feel accepted in some way.. i dont boast, i dont act ****y nor i display any type of swagger like some of this swagfaaggss in this generation... im not trying to be better than anyone, everything you do do it for your self and to enhance your life..

ever had some dude stare at you with jealousy or some type of negative tension? the best look to give back is a calm bullet proof confident look and break the eye contact slightly by looking to your right or left.. that is telling a dude that HE DOESNT FACE YOU ONE BIT!! they even get more pist off by this.. done it plenty of times.

 

[NewJack]

I'm a hater. Guilty. Every hater is different but here's my story..

I generally hate on guys who don't exemplify any higher traits but who still want to put forward a strong portrait of masculinity. I hate a lot in my posts on this site.

And its because I don't accept myself on some level that I do it. Its as if masculinity has no value to me whatsoever unless it is basically enlightened and well-directed and disciplined. I have no appreciation for the lower level expressions of masculinity, such as:

1) guys competing in blood-sweat-and-tears intensity
2) guys working with really small wisdom / no wisdom
3) guys scheming to get cash and lower-level goods like that
4) guys who dont feel the inward pull of Higher things/values/ideas/forces

Its weakness and a lack of love in me that does it, and I pay for it very seriously, in a lack of self-acceptance and inability to chill with myself and have fun on a basic level. Inability to see the beauty in lower-level everyday things.

Haterism sucks. We gotta learn to love, - and not just women. That's my painful realization. I thought Love was all about the opposite sex but now I find you gotta learn to love everybody, or it comes back at some point. SoSuave is actually helping me learn this lesson... hahaha

 

[_sideways_]

pimpin kin says dont hate him, congratulate him

 

[Bible_Belt]

In high school, the punter on our football team picked a fist fight with me after practice one day. I never understood why. I remember thinking, 'what the hell was that guy's issue?'

Years later I found out he's gay. So now when any random guy happens to dislike me for no apparent reason, I just assume it is a suppressed homo crush gone wrong.

 

[adam225]

"Haters: Why do they do it?"

Simple - because they are so unhappy in who they are. They think and believe that talking someone down (making them below them) proves that they are a better person.