Haters...Haters, everywhere! (victim of the women network)

[JohnnyStrabler]

I am going to try to keep this short, after reading the book of pook, i think this is the place that could help me

So basically here is what happened:
1. Be classmates with girl.
2. Be friends with girl, because we have the same class for notes and stuff
3. Girl must have thought it was going somewhere
4. Girl introduces me to her friends (who are also at some of my classes)
5. Girl suddenly gets mad at me (snapping at me) for no reason, out of nowhere
6. Girl writes on my wall for my number coz she said she lost it
7. The next day, deletes me on facebook
8. Friends of girl also gets mad at me, started snapping
9. Now they talk crap behind my back
10. I just decided to laugh it off, because it looks like highschool stuff
11. Now can't get laid in College coz I got screwed over by the "women network" -or so I think thats the case

How should I tackle this? It seems like girls who hang out/talk with that group will start talking smack and then bam! target lost!

 

[HolyG]

Are you saying "the women network" is like CNN

breaking news: J Strabler is an *******....

LMAO

 

[JohnnyStrabler]

Are you saying "the women network" is like CNN

breaking news: J Strabler is an *******....

LMAO

By the looks of it, yeah lol

what to do? what to do?

 

[Audiophile]

Find another group of women. Stop trying to appease these ones, obviously it isn't worth your time. I don't know what it's like at your college, but there are plenty of different "woman networks" here, each one with a different group of women and a different focus. Don't look for a reason, just move and everything will be fine. You shouldn't let their highschool like behavior affect you in any way.

Think about it in this way, they are helping YOU by filtering themselves out of your potential dating pool. Do you want to date/be friends with girls like these anyways?

 

[Warrior74]

There are always women that these women hate (or hate them). There is always more than one network.

 

[JohnnyStrabler]

Find another group of women. Stop trying to appease these ones, obviously it isn't worth your time. I don't know what it's like at your college, but there are plenty of different "woman networks" here, each one with a different group of women and a different focus. Don't look for a reason, just move and everything will be fine. You shouldn't let their highschool like behavior affect you in any way.

Think about it in this way, they are helping YOU by filtering themselves out of your potential dating pool. Do you want to date/be friends with girls like these anyways?

I am not trying to appease them, its just that they are ruining "the plan"

I mean how are they supposed to go out with a guy who has a "reputation"? Or has people talking smack about him, what I notice is the ones that they talk to change behaviors towards me and oh, they are expanding! Its as if the networks are collaborating

I think I may have screwed the pooch on this one, but hey! I am not the one who cant handle rejection

 

[HolyG]

Just ignore it, brush it off.

If a girl starts talking " I heard this and this" say " so, what you're saying is you're not mature enough to form you own opinions?"

 

[Speculator E]

How should I tackle this? It seems like girls who hang out/talk with that group will start talking smack and then bam! target lost!

You're screwed. Your reputation was the most important asset you have. You should've protected it at all cost. Now you know why. On the bright side, consider yourself as an example that smart guys will try to learn from. Your only hope is to move away or find a new group that has no contact with the group that hates you.

 

[JohnnyStrabler]

You're screwed. Your reputation was the most important asset you have. You should've protected it at all cost. Now you know why. On the bright side, consider yourself as an example that smart guys will try to learn from. Your only hope is to move away or find a new group that has no contact with the group that hates you.

true, however I think this is one of those things that you just have no control over, what should have I done? talk to the group? or at least that girl that got mad at me for NO reason except that I did not ask her out?

Either way i lose anyway, dumb b!tches huh?

 

[Speculator E]

true, however I think this is one of those things that you just have no control over, what should have I done? talk to the group? or at least that girl that got mad at me for NO reason except that I did not ask her out?

Either way i lose anyway, dumb b!tches huh?

Should have went into damage control mode immediately. Don't ever mess with a girl's feeling. I've done that once before with a girl that was a lab partner (team of 4) of mine. It was when I first came to this site. She had a bf at the time too, but I knew it wasn't serious. I would flirt and joke around with her all semester. It got to the point where she was waiting for me to make the move and steal her away from her AFC bf. But, then later into the semester I lost interest and I start wanting to practice my skill on other girls so I would go around campus and hit on random chicks. They would give me their number easily, but I made the mistake of telling my classmates about it.

Well that girl found out. The other girls in the class found out. The other two member on my team found out and they all started hating me. That's when I learn that people in general do not like the DJ mindset. Even if you become good at it, you do not want to advertise it. You want to tone it down as much as possible so that you seem like a normal guy.

Now you now that girls can be very vindictive if they feel they are being rejected or being played. It's amazing how fast words can spread. But it's not a big deal. You live and you learn from your mistakes and move on. I would try to let it blow over. Don't try to play their game and be vindictive, because you'll lose. If you have any friends, hold on to them because they'll back you up against the other group. Just play it cool for right now.

 

[I'm in the Mood]

11. Now can't get laid in College coz I got screwed over by the "women network" -or so I think thats the case

Wtf man? You think all women have screwed you over? You didn't even say why these girls got mad at you.

I think you need to learn to laugh at their gossip. See, take celebrities for example, everything they do is public knowledge. Celebs get talked about a lot. Some of them have developed the attitude that, as long as their life is going to be public, they may as well accept it and no longer need to hide anything.

Actually...there are some girls that like a guy who has a so-called "reputation," even if they don't admit to it.

I think that you are blowing other people's opinions of you WAY out of proportion. Your problem is you care too much about something you can't change - people's opinions of you. That's what you need to get over.