hate being creepy

[PathGoer]

Thanks to this website and others, I am now a really popular guy. That rocks!
I am suave and genuinely nice and a decent conversationalist, so I can pretty much get any girl to hang out with me, if not her, a couple of others. Now I have a good number of female friends. Not "just friends", but Quality Friends.

Let me tell a story. A girl likes me, she is a cool person but I am not into her. We love to talk, but, alas for her, there is no sexual tension on my side. None. Zero. If she asked me directly, I'd tell her that right away. She is always available, adopts every one of my opinions, never teases me and stuff. She is unnaturally nice and keeps beating around the bush and makes me feel a little awkward. Although it is only very natural to want me she is being creepy.

Experts, question to you! I do not want to make the same mistake she does. I want to be able to state to a woman in what way I am interested in her right away, during the first real conversation.

I need: A little exercise, very simple, very gentle on my ego, a small step, like a little dj-esque yet almost harmless thing I must include into the first conversation with any woman I meet.

Some time ago I learned how to talk to strangers by saying hi to random people on the street. I want a thing that is about as easy. I'll build up from there.

 

[Mikers]

haha you have a girl AFC chasing after you, how classic.

You want to show a girl that your interested?
You should be able to show her your intentions just by how u present yourself to her. It's not always what you say but how you say it.. as the saying goes dude.

Also just by approaching a girl usually, she knows that your already interested in her.
Consult the DJ bible at once!

Peace

 

[Bonhomme]

Answered your own ?

Just treat the gals you're attracted to as you treat your friends, but be a bit more sexual: kino, all that sort of thing. There are some little things you can do: like the hanshake where you kind of brush your hand against hers as you're letting go. Gals definitely notice this one. Good, relaxed eye contact, with an easy, natural smile. Occasional light touches on the shoulders and arms as your talking. The little things that show your sexual interest in a non-threatening, comfortable way.

And obviously avoid doing the kind of things the one gal who creeps you out are doing.

It's as much an art as anything else. Something one gets a hang of with time. For all I know, you could be doing a lot of the right things already.

 

[PathGoer]

more brainstorming please

Originally posted by Bonhomme
Just treat the gals you're attracted to as you treat your friends, but be a bit more sexual: kino, all that sort of thing.

Yes, after first touch I totally know if she likes me.
What else?

There are some little things you can do: like the hanshake where you kind of brush your hand against hers as you're letting go.

I am not sure it's ME, but sounds worth trying. Thanks!

Good, relaxed eye contact, with an easy, natural smile.

Needs working on, I know that I divert my gaze or too late to smile back. Don't know how to work on it though. Any advice?

The little things that show your sexual interest in a non-threatening, comfortable way.

Now we are talking! This is precisely my question! What things?

-- Compliment on appearance? I do it automatically.

-- Comfortable and natural introduction of relationship topics? Got it down. This is very valuable, makes me come across as a healthy man.

What are other those "little things"?

For all I know, you could be doing a lot of the right things already.

Yep. Thanks to this site.

 

[dentalfloss]

Originally posted by PathGoer

Let me tell a story. A girl likes me, she is a cool person but I am not into her. We love to talk, but, alas for her, there is no sexual tension on my side. None. Zero. If she asked me directly, I'd tell her that right away. She is always available, adopts every one of my opinions, never teases me and stuff. She is unnaturally nice and keeps beating around the bush and makes me feel a little awkward. Although it is only very natural to want me she is being creepy.

this is weird...be weary