Has it ever taken you guys over 6 months to get over a girl?

[gotmygameback]

You absolutely must...

MOVE HOUSE!

you have the chance - there is NO excuse - you can move next door or to another country, it doesnt matter, just...

GET OUT OF THAT HOUSE

 

[stevey_2000]

same as squid, i split with my last ltr (18 months) last october and to be truthfully honest i still havn't got 100% over her even though i cut off all contact myself it's been 3 months since i last had any contact at all and 10 months without seeing her BUT i still find myself wondering what she's upto!

i think if you really loved them (DOH!!!, the l word) then you will never get 'fully' over them, no matter how many women come afterwards!

 

[Chuckii_Mack]

Originally posted by Ricky
Just wondering.
I have never had as much trouble getting over a girl as this one. I think it's because I've been less than impressed with the ones I've been meeting and dating since then.

MY Ex-Wife and I Divorced More than 10 Years Ago ... I Still Have Not Gotten Over the Loss of Her Income.

Chuckii the MACK

 

[topdog3853]

This is a pretty good timing of a thread. I hear you Ricky, I'm kind of going through the same thing. I've never been in extremely LTR relationships, usually with someone I'm dating, if its not there its usually known pretty quick and I bail on the thing after 1-2 months. I had a 9 mos relationship that pretty much took me about 2 weeks to get over. I was back on the horse pretty quick. However I just got out of like a 4 month relationship about a month ago and I still can't stop thinking about it. I've even gone out on another date and f**ked another chick, but this last girl I dated I can't get out of my head. The thing is we didn't break up on bad terms at all and we have still hung out a couple times without hooking up, but I'm asking you guys, should I just cut all communication? For some reason I don't know if it would be right but I feel like it may be the only way to fully get over it?

 

[Chuckii_Mack]

Originally posted by Ricky
Just wondering.
I have never had as much trouble getting over a girl as this one. I think it's because I've been less than impressed with the ones I've been meeting and dating since then.

I AM a MACK. I Can Not Respond and Give Advice that Is Contrary To the "GAME".

In the Future, You Should Be the Impressive One In the Relationship. Also, You Should Only Be With Women that "Choose" You. The One that "Chooses Is the One that "PAYS". Celebrate When a ***** Leaves ... Don't Mourne, Not Even for a Moment.

Chuckii

 

[BigDawg]

Originally posted by stevey_2000
i think if you really loved them ... then you will never get 'fully' over them, no matter how many women come afterwards!

I agree. I really loved my ex-wife (while we were still married) until she decided to make things hellish. After I stopped hurting over the whole thing, I asked myself, "What the hell was I thinking?" On the other hand, my last gf was really great (the ltr ended due to geography), and I'm still trying to get it completely out of my system (not quite there yet).

So, all this time later, I still miss the ex-gf (but the ex-wife, puke puke puke). Yeah, she's (the ex-gf) always going to have that special place, and you're right, none of the others that have come since have measured up. That's not healthy, though, especially if you're trying to move on.

I think it really is just a matter of time before you can completely move on. Philosophically, nothing happens before its own time, but that won't get you laid, will it?

 

[Immaculate]

How about dating a beautiful girl for 2 years (she was 7 years older than me) size one, we never had one fight. Then came the marriage and kids she wanted. I was only 19 she was 26. I told her I wasn't ready for like 5 years. So I drifted away from her to give us some space... so
1 MONTH after we split with no contact I realized I wanted her and the b!tch already met a new guy and ended up marrying him. I found this out because I called her up out of the blue 5 YEARS after we broke up... She dated this dude for like 4 years and she said she was married for a "year" and the reason she gave for not coming back to me in the first place was because the guy had a daughter she got attached to..

Now that sh!t ****ing hurts and still does sometimes.

 

[Ricky]

FVCK I'm still depressed.

You wanna hear something even more warped? THe girl I dated for 3 years more or less proposed marriage to me last night. We broke up a year ago before i met the ex I'm hung up on.

The ex I'm hung up on is way more of what I'm looking for.

All my interactions with women now have been clouded. it sucks

 

[DJPeoIL]

I just found this forum a few weeks back and its been a great help, thank you all!! I was dumped like a piece of garbage by a girl I went out for a year. Probably the hottest chick I ever went out with and a total freak in bed. Its only been 3 months for me but Ive been dating a lot and Ive got a few booty calls to keep me company but I still really miss her and still love her. Anyway I found this Smash mouth song that I call my song now;

Disconnect The Dots

Today you sat up half asleep and stared
Into this cluttered empty apartment and died
What the where the how the why the hell
You can watch your step and still you'll never see the mines

Stay up man don't drown
Its time to go to town
Today is just another yesterday
You're back in the game again
You're going to win it in the end
Disconnect the dots and be on your way

Every day I see you sinking low
Dragging around like it was the end of the world
She's gone she's gone she's gone man let it go
Cause in the end she didn't turn out to be much of a girl

Stay up man don't sink
Before you have time to blink
Your # 1 will walk through the door and want to play
You're back in the game again
You're going to win it in the end
Disconnect the dots
Disconnect the dots and be on your way

Thought you had it so secure so sure
Looking at the map and didn't see the detour
d.I.v.o.r.c.e. or something of that sort
Disconnect the dots my man the ball's in your court
Get yourself a shave and put on your best hat
The world is your aquarium and you are the cat
So dive right in and don't forget to swim
You're back in the game again again

Stay up man don't drown
Its time to go to town
Today is just another yesterday
You're back in the game again
You're going to win it in the end
Disconnect the dots and be on your way

I thought some of you might like this. Thanks again!!!

 

[Immaculate]

Originally posted by Ricky
FVCK I'm still depressed.

You wanna hear something even more warped? THe girl I dated for 3 years more or less proposed marriage to me last night. We broke up a year ago before i met the ex I'm hung up on.

The ex I'm hung up on is way more of what I'm looking for.

All my interactions with women now have been clouded. it sucks

what the hell did you tell her when she proposed?

MY story is more warped BTW lol.

 

[Ricky]

I told her there is a reason we aren't together now. It's that we fought all the time. I told her that yes we could make a marriage work but would it be worth it with all the fighting. After telling that I did tell her i still cared for her, which is true.

Funny because I got a similar email from the ex that I still love. She said had she moved it wouldn't have worked out for us as a couple. I totally disagree, but what can you do.

 

[RobLB]

Originally posted by DJPeoIL
Anyway I found this Smash mouth song that I call my song now;

Disconnect The Dots

Great song! Just downloaded it off i-tunes.....

 

[Ricky]

Much better choice than this song. Although this song rocks:

HAWTHORNE HEIGHTS LYRICS

"Ohio Is For Lovers"

Hey there,
I know it's hard to feel like I don't care at all.
Where you are and how you feel.
With these lights off as these wheels
keep rolling on and on. (and on and on and on...)
Slow things down or speed them up.
Not enough or way too much. (and on and on and on...)
How are you when I'm gone?

[Chorus:]
And I can't make it on my own.
(And I can't make it on my own.)
Because my heart is in Ohio.
So cut my wrists and black my eyes.
(Cut my wrists and black my eyes)
So I can fall asleep tonight, or die.
Because you kill me.
You know you do, you kill me well.
You like it too, and I can tell.
You never stop until my final breath is gone.

Spare me just three last words.
"I love you" is all she heard.
I'll wait for you, but I can't wait forever.
[x2]

[Chorus:]
And I can't make it on my own.
(And I can't make it on my own.)
Because my heart is in Ohio.
So cut my wrists and black my eyes.
(Cut my wrists and black my eyes)
So I can fall asleep tonight, or die.
Because you kill me.
You know you do, you kill me well.
You like it too, and I can tell.
You never stop until my final breath is gone.

You know you do, you kill me well.
You like it too, and I can tell.
You never stop until my final breath is gone.

(YOU...KILL...ME...WELL)
So cut my wrists and black my eyes.
My final breath is gone
So I can fall asleep tonight

[Chorus:]
And I can't make it on my own.
(And I can't make it on my own.)
Because my heart is in Ohio.
So cut my wrists and black my eyes.
(Cut my wrists and black my eyes)
So I can fall asleep tonight, or die.
Because you kill me.
You know you do, you kill me well.
You like it too, and I can tell.
You never stop until my final breath is gone.

(YOU...KILL...ME...WELL)
You know you do, you kill me well.
You like it too, and I can tell.
You never stop until my final breath is gone.
[to fade]

 

[BobFuest]

i loved my ex and will always love her. i will never be "over" her. It did take me almost a year to be over the relationship so i feel your pain. Have lots of sex and cuddling, that helps a lot.

 

[WestCoaster]

God, what an AFC song!!

My God, no wonder you guys can't get ex's out of your head. Those lyrics to that Ohio song are sick ... what a freaking AFC tune. My God, slit my wrists?! No wonder the American male is such a puss-face. It can rock until the cows come home, that is an AFC song.

 

[MightyMate]

It all depends.. No rule.. But 6 months is not much. Once it took me 1,5 year..