Hmmm, they do sound similar! Mine once told me about the time she went with her hubby to his high school reunion and that all of the women were hanging all over him. A couple of the women commented to her that she must be jealous, seeing all of the attention her hubby was getting. She says to them, "nah, doesn't bother me at all, I know he's coming home with me." Her hubby thinks her and I are just good friends and that we casually hang out from time to time. Her husband also has an old girlfriend that he meets up with from time to time. But I guarentee he isn't banging her! This guy is a by the book, straight arrow, family guy to the core. His friendship with his old girlfriend is purely plutonic and I know she uses it to justify her friendship with me. Sort of like, hey you have an old girlfriend that you hang out with from time to time so I can have an old boyfriend I hang out with. Talk about being manipulative! The only difference is that I was around her husband a lot during the first year, whether it be at a party at their house or a concert. I've cooled that off and rarely see him at all now. It just started bothering me to see her play the "perfect little wife" in front of her husband and their friends and family. The whole thing is such a sham! She's over there being the perfect little wife and daughter in law and all the while she's banging me behind his back and using his absolute trust in her, against him. Your girl sounds like the same exact personality type.
Ryannath, what blew me away with her was when we got talking one time about us and what the heck she was doing here with me, risking everything she has. And she says to me, that she is "80%" happy with her marriage. I just sat there thinking to myself, holy S***, if that was me and I was only 80% happy with my marriage, I'd get the heck out, regardless of what perks I had. Now here's the irony. Just before I met back up with this chick, I was dating an attractive girl, who worked for a big company, who was making a couple hundred thousand dollars per year. She traveled for work Monday through Fiday, and was home for the weekend. She wanted me to hang out with her whenever she was home. This chick was very very into me. I could've quit my job if I wanted to, stayed home, hung out with my buddies during the week, and banged her on the weekends. A lifestyle that most guys would've killed for. Plus, she was a good looking woman. But, the chemistry for me wasn't there. There was just something missing for me, so I broke it off with her. I had it made if I would've stayed with her. In fact, I would've been 80% happy with the situation. And, I guess that's where there is a difference with me and her. I'd forgo any material gain or lifestyle perks if I have to stay in a relationship that I'm not totally happy with. And the more I thought about what she said, it makes her sound like a w*ore in a way. She is comfy with her surroundings, but can't be too comfy with her romantic life. Because, why on earth would you be banging someone who isn't your husband, for 2 years, one to two times a week?! I don't buy the I love two people thing. I'd never risk a marriage and lifestyle I was totally happy with for some great sex. And let me say, the sex between us is great! My buddy thinks that's what it is. In his words, "she isn't getting it like that at home"!