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A girl you date a handful of times ... Everything is going great then all of a sudden she pulls back and loses interest.

But has anyone had a girl who you thought completely lost interest just return to you out of the blue weeks or months later after radio silence ?

Id like to hear some success stories
 
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They play "Hard to get"....very common.

Doesn't work with me, because I'm "impossible to get".

Go be awesome!
 
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Johnsmith8899 said:
A girl you date a handful of times ... Everything is going great then all of a sudden she pulls back and loses interest.

But has anyone had a girl who you thought completely lost interest just return to you out of the blue weeks or months later after radio silence ?

Id like to hear some success stories
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Personally yes but not weeks later. I've had them come back months and years later but the key with those for me has been my interest level in them was and had been middle of the road and I could see them coming back again in the future cause we left off on good terms.

The very few I had high interest in that came back around never lasted long and I doubt they will be in my future but who knows and they even said the old you never know what the future brings speech. That just told me they have low interest in me and want to swing on some more branches.

I wouldn't get to emotionally invested in the ideas or fantasies of them coming back as that's what led me to making emotional verbal and real life mistakes with the ones I had higher interest in. Treat them all the same once they know their special to you that's when they try to walk all over you if you let them.
 
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Just chalk her up to being gone in your mind don't over contact her on any platform. Let her miss you a bit and contact you if she has any interest in you she will. If you have the time and money or if your starting to over think about her to much go spin some plates.
 
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Johnsmith8899 said:
A girl you date a handful of times ... Everything is going great then all of a sudden she pulls back and loses interest.

But has anyone had a girl who you thought completely lost interest just return to you out of the blue weeks or months later after radio silence ?

Id like to hear some success stories
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How long have you been radio silence?
 
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Weeks or months later after radio silence? Hmmmm. That's a red flag. Playing hard to get would involved some contact but radio silence implies that she didn't contact him.
I would question what was going on during that time of no contact. There's a possibility that she wasn't sure of moving things along to a relationship and backed out, or she got sick or something, or she met someone else she liked better, it didn't work out with that guy and now she's coming back. I'm betting on the third one because if she liked you enough but wasn't sure, or something happened in her life like an illness, she would of at least contacted you. Just disappearing like that implies she wasn't that interested. If she gets back with you, will it be because she realized that your the guy she wants, or because you're a good back up plan until she finds someone else?
Think about it, if you liked a girl would you just stop contacting her? Go with your instinct on this.
 
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Johnsmith8899 said:
A girl you date a handful of times ... Everything is going great then all of a sudden she pulls back and loses interest.

But has anyone had a girl who you thought completely lost interest just return to you out of the blue weeks or months later after radio silence ?

Id like to hear some success stories
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Not only has it happened, it happens that way exclusively with girls who vanish (weeks later usually, but sometimes months).

Always remember a relationship with a woman is like a boat on the sea. the waves take it up and down. Don't freak out at the low points or the high points, and know it always returns to sea level.
 
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I love putting people on the spot with sh1t like this. ASK "so, I didnt hear from you for a long time there, what was going on with you?" If the response is "well you cold have reached out too" do understand that, should you ever again express a concern to this person, the most likely response you will get is "well you do it too". That is not a mature way to take responsibility and resolve issues, so you probably want to move on from this one.

In general, if you ask "so what was going on with you?" and get a reasonable reply, cool. If not, i'd next.
 
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Sometimes they come back for the D after years. It's normal.
I don't even try to understand them. Just **** them and move over.
 
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shesabranchswinger said:
Personally yes but not weeks later. I've had them come back months and years later but the key with those for me has been my interest level in them was and had been middle of the road and I could see them coming back again in the future cause we left off on good terms.

The very few I had high interest in that came back around never lasted long and I doubt they will be in my future but who knows and they even said the old you never know what the future brings speech. That just told me they have low interest in me and want to swing on some more branches.

I wouldn't get to emotionally invested in the ideas or fantasies of them coming back as that's what led me to making emotional verbal and real life mistakes with the ones I had higher interest in. Treat them all the same once they know their special to you that's when they try to walk all over you if you let them.
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True. And she should get treated special because of how she can manage her physical appearance and mannerisms?
 
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True. And she should get treated special because of how she can manage her physical appearance and mannerisms?
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They should never really be treated special but I'm only human and I have screw up from time to time in the past.
They should be rewarded for their good behavior and punished for bad in my opinion somewhat like training an animal.
 
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Johnsmith8899 said:
A girl you date a handful of times ... Everything is going great then all of a sudden she pulls back and loses interest.

But has anyone had a girl who you thought completely lost interest just return to you out of the blue weeks or months later after radio silence ?

Id like to hear some success stories
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Yes, not any success stories though. If they can't keep contact like normal human being it's a red flag for me, especially if they come back pretending everything's fine. I'm not at people's disposal whenever they feel like it and then non-existent the next moment.
 
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Johnsmith8899 said:
A girl you date a handful of times ... Everything is going great then all of a sudden she pulls back and loses interest.

But has anyone had a girl who you thought completely lost interest just return to you out of the blue weeks or months later after radio silence ?

Id like to hear some success stories
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Yes. When it happens, you don't try to figure out why se lost interest or try to reach other to her. Women aren't as logical and rational as we are, so it's
unlikely that you'll get a straight answers that makes sense.

When you're in this situation, the solution is to meet other women. We aren't gold coins and not everyone is going to like us.
 
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Johnsmith8899 said:
A girl you date a handful of times ... Everything is going great then all of a sudden she pulls back and loses interest.

But has anyone had a girl who you thought completely lost interest just return to you out of the blue weeks or months later after radio silence ?

Id like to hear some success stories
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This will happen when you are plan b and plan a goes for schitts on them.
 
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