Wiesman44 said:
i have a fetish too, I have a gay porn fetish. Will this affect my flirting with the ladies ?
Come on man, this guy seems to be really worried. Let's not make fun of him...
blankman:
If you read some books about psychology or psychoanalysis, even the old ones from Freud, you will probably be less stressed out.
Actually people all have a certain degree of fetishism, it's absolutely normal, it's just a question of "more or less" depending on the person.
The definition of "deviant fetishism" is when the fetish takes over your "normal" sex life. This means for example: let's suppose I have a fetish for high heels. So if a girl, as beautiful as she is, is NOT wearing high heels, I will still feel like something is missing, I'm not completely happy with that. On the other hand, some woman who's fat, and not that good looking, and maybe old, whom I normally would not even look at, once she wears a pair of highheel pumps that I really like, she suddenly becomes "acceptable"...
Then this would be considered "deviant fetishism".:nervous:
One last thing, usually fetishism is more present when the person lacks contact with females, like shy guys, or young (teenage) people, the fetish is a sort of mental substitute to the "real" sexuality. For many people, the fetishism fades away when they get older and have more contact/experience.
It never totally disappears though. If we reuse the previous example, I would not turn down a hottie just because she's not wearing heels but a pair of classy highheel pumps and nice stockings would increase her hotness in my eyes.
I don't know how serious or trivial your case is, as long as having pretty feet won't make an ugly girl acceptable, and having "average" feet won't disqualify a normal hottie in your eyes, then you are fine.
So stop worrying too much and get out there to meet cute girls/women!
This is the end of my psychology class, now you owe me five bucks of tuition fees...
N.B. See those guys who always go for blond girls? Everything else being equal, if the girls dye their hair blond, they would instantly appear more attractive to these folks. This is a typical case of fetishism!