Harshly and unexpectedly rejected in the midst of success.

Korrupt

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Laid a girl from PoF on Monday, have dates for friday and saturday, have a girl who's moving into the area chasing me and another one who rejected me a week ago but is now crawling back and was feeling good. But guys... My f*cking mind is blown right now. Worst rejection I've EVER had JUST happened, and not on PoF, in real life. Holy sh!t... I'm pissed and my ego is definitely bruised. Here's the story..

Met this 24 y/o single mom on OkCupid like a month ago. I used my sex line and she actually bit. We talked a little bit, I get her number, we set something up. She flakes. I delete her number but a week later she hits me up and we set something else up. She flakes again. Delete her number again but she hits me up on Sunday. I call her out and tell her she's flaked on me twice so "why should I talk to her?" She says she understands if I'm done with it and blah blah then says she wants me. I ask her for a pic, she sends one and ask me "if she's worth another shot." We set something up.. For tonight.

I get to her place and she's obviously kinda high. I immediately start teasing her a bit, she's telling me "shut up" blah blah. I immediately start teasing her a bit, she's telling me "shut up" blah blah. It seems to be going pretty well but I do have to admit something seemed off.. Like we didn't "get" each other. She's also not a big talker, which is usually the kind of girl I seem to get along with when I think about it. We go out and get a bottle of wine, same game from me, get back to her place, she puts on a movie and we sit on the couch. She gets out a bowl (I had never smoked before and will never smoke again) and we smoke a little bit. We sit there and just watch the movie for like, seriously, 5 minutes then she gets up, goes to the kitchen and says "this is awkward." I'm just thinking "wtf?" So I'm like "awkward?" She says "yeah, I don't feel like we're attracted to each other, like the sexual chemistry isn't there for this sort of thing. You're a cool guy and you can chill if you want, but I'm not feeling it. " I get up and immediately leave.

Holy sh!t, my mind is just completely f*cked. This bish chases me and nearly begs me to come over and f*ck her, but when I get there she tells me she isn't interested? So many thoughts going through my f*cking head right now.. I'm seriously rethinking everything I've ever done with girls. Thinking about the success I've had. What did I do differently? What happened this time and why did it go down like this? How can I go from laying a girl no problem on monday to getting rejected like this tonight? I'm so confused again. God damn I hate feeling like this. I can't keep letting sh!t like this hurt me. Why in the living f*ck would this bish chase me so much just to reject me in no time in person..?
 

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Dude, you need to calm down, first of all. I'm sure it hurt, but you sound like you are gonna jump off a bridge.

One thing you just need to keep in mind is the reason behind having many plates. It isn't just so you can fvck a ton of girls. The reason is, it's a numbers game. Going deeper into that, some girls are just straight up screwed in the head. You can play everything right, and it just doesn't work. That's where having other options is so important. You don't want your ego and confidence shot because of some crazy b!tch when you actually played it correctly. So by having more plates, you aren't so depended on the fact that girl you are after is mentally and emotionally stable.

You know damn well you will get over this. I'm sure it's just more frustrating than anything. Keep up with these other girls and keep looking for new plates.
 

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A 24 year old single mom invites a stranger over her house to drink wine and smoke weed.


She's f**king crazy. Who cares what she said? Just be happy she didn't stab you and take your credit cards.
 

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females are ****ing crazy bro. They dont know what they want... I would not be surprised if she contacts you again.
 

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She does sound a bit crazy. What woman would invite a stranger over to her house? Besides, if she only saw your picture it is very well possible that she was disappointed in some way. That doesn't necessarily mean you fvcked up, it just means that she wasn't attracted to you. But why would you care?
 

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There was no success. Get over it.

She was a common Attention wh0re. It just wasn't meant to happen.

Case closed. Spin more plates.
 

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iceberg and nismo nailed it on the head...i used to sell MJ....

I can tell you about girls who do drugs (period)

1.Unstable.

2.Unpredictable

3.indecisive

4.desperate

5.and if you smoke weed (easy)

take a note to self...this is by far the Worst women you will ever encounter....she's 3 seconds away from being a call girl or str!pper to support her baby...she's the bottom of the barrel


stay away from b!tches who do drugs...she didnt like u because u dont do them....if u did u would be high and your nvtsack would be empty..lol idk

that might be a good thing ;-) jk! stay away from em!
 

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Haha girl stoners are the worst! Anything you do 'trips' them out. It's stupid! Girls need to learn to use drugs properly.
 

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If she is crazy, you don´t know why she rejected you. She might be insecure and maybe felt you were not attracted to her... so she said attraction wasn
t therefirst to keep her ego. She didn´t want to be rejected..
 

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I think you can easily chalk this one up as simply crazy. Period. You need to super not let one chick you don't know F with you like this. I bet she contacts you again btw. 'Cause she's crazy.
 

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You wanna know what you did wrong?

You allowed your desire to take over your mind. "The wish is father to the thought"

24 y/o single mom is a minor red flag, it doesn't mean anything but it should already make you get your guard up... Then the girl flakes two times in a row... Your mind should've been blinking "game over" at this point. Even if you decided to give her a 3rd chance, the double flaking should've made you adopt an "I expect NOTHING from this girl anymore. If anything more than NOTHING happens, it's just an unexpected stroke of luck".

But no, you let your desire take over. Your desire put thoughts in your mind like: "See? She's into me after all, she just told me she WANTS me! Let's just forget about the fact that she flaked on me twice in a row. She digs me, I'm awesome, I'm gonna fvck her, everything's great, yay!" Your desire took over your rational thoughts, you didn't look at the situation from a neutral viewpoint...instead, you looked at it and saw into it what you
WANTED to see.

As a matter of fact, this coincides with breaking another cardinal rule that's being repeated on SoSuave day in day out: "Judge her by her actions, not by her words". Flaking two times in a row is a HUGE ASS SIGN, which is impossible to miss......Unless you let your thoughts be taken over by your desire :rolleyes:

You're frustrated coz this event makes you feel like you had no control over the outcome. You expected to be succesful with her but your expectations were blown straight out of the sky. "WTF? What happened? Where did it go wrong?!", it all comes like a big surprise to you... Well, of course it's a surprise if you have unrealistic expectations! If you hadn't allowed your desire to take over your mind, you would never have had those expectations.

Nothing strange happened, you just allowed your desire to take you over. Learn from it, remember what happened here for future situations, so you will not make the same mistake again. That's all, no need get emotional about any of this. A man who wishes to rise to the top, will have to fall many times along the way. You just fell... Now get up and go on.
 

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I think you wasted too much time trying to make a date out of it, she wanted you to come over, fvck her and leave. nothing more than that.
 

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Shes an attention *****...nothing more. Don't worry about it. She was playing a game with you, and you lost. Shes probably so unsatisfied with her life that she resorts to ****ing with guy's minds to get some kind of sick sense of satisfaction.
 

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Korrupt said:
Met this 24 y/o single mom... we set something up. She flakes.
Single moms are only good for one thing but one of them disrespects you by flaking on you, you drop her and you disappear from the face of the earth.

No questions asked.

What saddens me and what literally made me slap my forehead is the fact that she did this to you several times.

And you took it.
 
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