After a certain age we're equally fvcked up.
Men get cynical and women get damaged.
I disagree. Men are not equally fvcked up. Men become more rational and realistic. How is seeing the world for what it is a negative thing? This isn't really being cynical. This is being realistic (obviously, there will be edge cases). There's a difference.
There will be men who hit the jackpot and stay in longterm relationships and never get divorced. They are happy with their kids, family, friends, etc. But that's not the reality for a lot of men. I think most older men understand this while more younger men thinks "getting a divorce, getting used, etc." wouldn't happen to them. This is delusional if you look at the statistics.
Women get damaged... but it can be argued that it's their fault for being stupid and emotional. Perhaps they see the world more realistically after a while.. and perhaps that is why they are damaged?
I don't know. But at the end of the day, men are better able to cope. Women are not. So I feel women are more damaged. Its like a flower that gets stomped on vs a tree trunk. That flower is going to get hurt way more as compared to the tree trunk. The tree expects adversity, the flower doesn't and when adversity comes, the flower is completely unprepared.