hardcore christians-very prude like??

[joe45]

just started going to church and fellowship -previosuly before i wasn;t even a christain-went b./c of wanting to join a social community-well where else other than the church. the church i go to is a chinese church. what i noticed is those hardcore christians-what i noticed was that those harcore these are the christians guys and gals who attend church every sunday and also attend fellowship-like every friday- christians tend to be very prude like and prudish-meaing well behave, well mannered and are pretty much kind of like boring ppl-some are cool. they also tend to not like to joke around-very serious-
what are ur thoughts adn feelings about it. myself not a christain -just observed and noticed, i been going for the last couple of mnths now. this is compared to the normal ppl i associate with at college. what ur thoughts and feelin-please answer back. is this normal for christains or is it just a indivdual thing.

 

[Spookey]

Originally posted by joe45
just started going to church and fellowship -previosuly before i wasn;t even a christain-went b./c of wanting to join a social community-well where else other than the church. the church i go to is a chinese church. what i noticed is those hardcore christians-what i noticed was that those harcore these are the christians guys and gals who attend church every sunday and also attend fellowship-like every friday- christians tend to be very prude like and prudish-meaing well behave, well mannered and are pretty much kind of like boring ppl-some are cool. they also tend to not like to joke around-very serious-
what are ur thoughts adn feelings about it. myself not a christain -just observed and noticed, i been going for the last couple of mnths now. this is compared to the normal ppl i associate with at college. what ur thoughts and feelin-please answer back. is this normal for christains or is it just a indivdual thing.

beware!
i know a couple of wierd religious types.
one in particular will only date "religious guys" - something about not wanting to feel guilt/free trip to heavan, who knows, anyway, she acts like a complete **** to guys who aren't christian and thinks of them as inferior so beware of upity little snobs.

if you believe what they do then it may be good as it gives common ground, but i would tread very carefully, especially with hardcore christians as they can have very idealised and unrealistic views.

look out for the ones that act all religiuos but are secretly craving a shag, supressing desires does funny things to a person!!

 

[OfficeSpace]

Re: Re: hardcore christians-very prude like??

Originally posted by Spookey
beware!
i know a couple of wierd religious types.
one in particular will only date "religious guys" - something about not wanting to feel guilt/free trip to heavan, who knows, anyway, she acts like a complete **** to guys who aren't christian and thinks of them as inferior so beware of upity little snobs.

Actually, the reason is they want to marry someone with their same faith. Marrying someone outside the faith is not very encouraged by many churches because it can lead to problems in the family. Trust me, it usually leads to problems in the family.

 

[Deadly_Assassin]

Marrying someone outside the faith is not very encouraged by many churches because it can lead to problems in the family. Trust me, it usually leads to problems in the family.

This is like a universal rule within all religions. Most christians won't date or marry a non-christian because this is seen as being outside the will of God.

 

[Spookey]

maybe im just surrounded by weirdos eh!?!

 

[Thomas94305]

Joe45.. I am a Christian, I do joke, laugh, socialize, etc.. and everything you said is true. It seems very conflicted for them to go to these groups for "fellowship", but they just don't get being friendly, social, etc. The point of that way of life should be to make your relationship with God and with other people better, not worse.. anyhow...

When you go to clubs or whatever activity, people are going there to socialize. When you go to church, many people aren't there for that. It's like going to some college class. Some are social. Most seem to be there to get ready for an exam. I've been to churches with lots of Chinese there.. People have said about the differences in how Chinese socialize. I don't want to go too far with it, but you may be up to something when you point out the demographics.

When it comes to socializing at a church, I've found it best to treat it like socializing at a coffee shop, or some other fairly public place. They aren't necessarily there to make friends. Initiate. Don't expect an outcome. Be ready to move on to a new face, if it doesn't work. Try other churches if one doesn't work. I drop in on a few churches around here, I'm south of San Francisco. If the people are just unfriendly, I treat it like any other lame group, and look elsewhere for friends. I've met some good people that I can trust and confide in. The trick is to not invest time into a relationship that does not work. But, do invest in the good ones.

 

[Captain AFC]

As a Christian myself, I'll weigh in as well.

The prohibition has nothing to do with hard-core Christians being "prude" (and believe me, not all of us "prude" in that sense), but rather because of incompatibility. It'll seem like it's some kind of "weird religious type thing" when in reality, it's just commmon sense.

To put it in a different context... if you saw a hot woman, but she just happened to believe and follow wholeheartedly a doctrine of, say, racial supremacy (whatever race), or if she kept talking to you about how right and perfect Adolf Hitler was, and that she considered herself a "disciple of Ted Bundy," would you try and date her?

Those are extereme examples, but basically, when people try to establish relationships where lifestyles and points of view clash, one of two things happen:

1.) One person submits to the other.
2.) Both parties clash and essentially neutralize their enthusiasm for the things that are important in their lives... they become lukewarm.
3.) Clash and tear each other to pieces.
4.) Pull apart entirely.

In essence, your chances aren't so good. In short... hey, I know some of those Christian girls are hot, but if they have a completely different worldview from yours, it's probably best to just leave it alone.