Happily Married....But unsure...

[Tenacity]

Guys, how about you just STOP getting married lol? I mean come on, what in the world benefits a man to marry these days UNLESS you are some guy that wants to marry a woman that makes more than you and you are going to live off of her in some capacity lol?

I mean, the entire marriage thing is just flat out stupid today, the institution of marriage doesn't even mean the same anymore that's why they let two guys get married. Where in the Bible (which is what marriage is supposed to be based on) does it talk about two guys coming together to form ONE flesh lol? Where does it say that God formed man out of the RIB of another man? I mean come on lol, just like religion is a SCAM, that same religion is the foundation of marriage which is also a SCAM. A scam on top of a scam.

It's a joke. They know you aren't going to stay together so it's setup to keep lawyers and judges with something to do.

And OP, CONFRONT her and ask her. Again, if you can't ask your wife who is supposedly "your best friend" ANYTHING that you want to ask her...then is she truly this "best friend/partner" that they promote her to be? Or is she REALLY the biggest enemy/threat to your life that you want to walk on eggshells around to not piss off? Hmmmm....

 

[Tictac]

Get the evidence in a way that counts, for you and in court.

Either way you find out something very important to you.

All the rest is bullsh*t.

 

[In2theGame]

Backbreaker had a point in his post that makes OP's story suspicious. The fact that some guy is picking up his wife without his knowledge is enough to raise an eyebrow. Why is this guy "hidden" from OP? Why not just tell her husband about this? That wouldnt sit well with me. Who knows WTF is really going on but be sure that if he were to bring this up with his wife.... She has loads of excuses ready to be dished out her mouth to justify it. As i stated before, Women do this all the time, by making the Guy they are with feel low by shaming him to be "controlling" "Insecure" and/or accusing him of "keeping tabs on her". its ALL bullsh!t because they know they are in the wrong yet try to turn it around on the Man. What so, a Woman can check up on her Man and investigate if anything is going on with another Woman but a Man cannot do it to his Woman? This is a good example of Women wanting their cake and eat it too. Hopefully this gets resolved with his Wife but as I know and as many Men on here also know, Women can be so devious that you wouldnt see it coming even when it was right under your nose the whole time. The fact remains... Hidden Guy talking with his Wife on Mobile FB and arranging to pick her up without Husbands knowing.

 

[backbreaker]

like last Thursday I got a call from my female friend freaking out becuase she dropped her laptop and it would not come on and she could not leave the house becuase she was working so she asked me to come look at it. Harmless, come look at my pc ****. I told my wife hey i'm going over X's house and you can come if you want, just going to look at her pc she dropped it.


Like my wife and I actually go to the same gym but i go in the morning and she goes in the afternoon when joe our son is at school usually. But every once in a while we run into each ohter in the gym or go together and there are the same 2-3 dudes she's always chatting with but i know she's chatting with them and every once in a hwile she will go to starbucks or some **** with them but she will text me before and ask if it's okay.

i don't mind my wife having dude friends. yeah i know they want to **** her lol. so does everyone else that looks at her lol so what. but i want my wife to have a life and not be in the kitchen barefoot. I want to her to be happy. and she (for the most part lol") wants me to be happy. AS long as we're honest about what we are doing we generally do not give a **** what the other does.


it's not even so much that she's at the gym it's the hiding the friend. that's some bull**** anyway you cut it.


Even with me, I have female clients. I have adult actresses for clients and i even tell her who they are so if she just happens to catch me in a web chat with a porn star lol she doesn't think anything of it.

 

[speed dawg]

Typically, before a woman actually cheats, she name drops the guy a few times. OP, did she do this?

I'm having my doubts about this story though, my troll radar is going off. Waaaaay too over-the-top obvious.

 

[The_411]

Once you start snooping the relationship is over. You can't put that genie back in the bottle. You no longer trust your partner and even if your intuitions were incorrect, she will now have a distrust of you, and will likely cheat anyway.

I hate to be the one to say it, but this point it doesn't matter if she is or isn't (even it looks like she is cheating)

 

[Knight's Cross]

Ohh Man does this take me back. Back in 98-99 I was married. I had some health issues and it was headed towards "possible" life changes for me. At that point my ex played all the above game.
1. She name dropped the guy that I later found she was having some kind of affair with.
2. She made me out to be the bad guy for having suspicion. Again, a good offense is the best defense in a chicks head.

For me, Once I chomped down on the crimson capsule... I bailed quicker than being in a MIG on fire over the Ukraine. I went ruthless A-hole. I locked up my $ in a separate account, and unbeknown to her prepared my exit. After she left for work one morning my Army buddies all came over and we had all my gear moved out of the house in less than an hour. Divorce papers were served to her at work same day. It was "shock and awe". I moved 4 states away and started a new career. Fortunately my health turned around and I spent 5 years in DC living well.

I agree once you start to suspect and or think you need to snoop it's over. Trust is blown. Move on.

KC

 

[sodbuster]

well, I CAN answer part of it.... My GIRLFRIEND texts me XOXOXO at the END of the night... that's HUGS and KISSES.....

I may be paranoid, but it doesn't mean they aren't out to get you...

 

[Albatross953]

Ohh Man does this take me back. Back in 98-99 I was married. I had some health issues and it was headed towards "possible" life changes for me. At that point my ex played all the above game.
1. She name dropped the guy that I later found she was having some kind of affair with.
2. She made me out to be the bad guy for having suspicion. Again, a good offense is the best defense in a chicks head.

For me, Once I chomped down on the crimson capsule... I bailed quicker than being in a MIG on fire over the Ukraine. I went ruthless A-hole. I locked up my $ in a separate account, and unbeknown to her prepared my exit. After she left for work one morning my Army buddies all came over and we had all my gear moved out of the house in less than an hour. Divorce papers were served to her at work same day. It was "shock and awe". I moved 4 states away and started a new career. Fortunately my health turned around and I spent 5 years in DC living well.

I agree once you start to suspect and or think you need to snoop it's over. Trust is blown. Move on.

KC

Bravo sir! This is a example to follow.

 

[Greasy Pig]

OP, has she been exhibiting any other odd behaviour?
The dude could be a raging homo, which would explain the "x" after each text.
Personally, I'd arm myself with irrefutable proof or at least some very compelling evidence before questioning her.
Just keep your powder dry and watch her actions closely until you're sure something is going on.

 

[mikey2012]

She's probably cheating. If you suspect then you are probably right. Lots of married women cheat. Nothing you can do. Dont get married.
Remember this, these days, noone stays faithful forever. It is only when you get to old age ie over 65 then maybe you can be pretty sure she aint screwing around.

If you found out she was cheating... would you take her back? Most here would say hell no. But they arent faced with that decision. Most of the time the guy takes her back.

At the end of day, even if you get back with her, the chances of your marriage lasting is slim. Even if she is sorry, at one point down the road, be it 5 ,10, 15 years she will cheat agaon becaue she knows there is no punishment.

If you want to stop your wife from cheating, marry the ugliest fattest woman.....

 

[backbreaker]

Knihhts

Ohh Man does this take me back. Back in 98-99 I was married. I had some health issues and it was headed towards "possible" life changes for me. At that point my ex played all the above game.
1. She name dropped the guy that I later found she was having some kind of affair with.
2. She made me out to be the bad guy for having suspicion. Again, a good offense is the best defense in a chicks head.

For me, Once I chomped down on the crimson capsule... I bailed quicker than being in a MIG on fire over the Ukraine. I went ruthless A-hole. I locked up my $ in a separate account, and unbeknown to her prepared my exit. After she left for work one morning my Army buddies all came over and we had all my gear moved out of the house in less than an hour. Divorce papers were served to her at work same day. It was "shock and awe". I moved 4 states away and started a new career. Fortunately my health turned around and I spent 5 years in DC living well.

I agree once you start to suspect and or think you need to snoop it's over. Trust is blown. Move on.

KC

Knights cross


This is a random as hell post bump but you and your buddies are sitting on a gold mine and don't even realize it.


Dude you could monopolize the get out the house in under an hour- team up wirhya few lawyers and start leave her by noon inc lol. Girl goes to work, by noon money is moved shots gone papers served **** u even give him anew phone so she can't track him down

 

[QuadDeuces]

GPS tracker in her car.