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Fruitbat

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I think women that once tasted OLD are more likely to be broken and game aware. They are also more likely to switch partner if something is wrong than these women that never touched OLD
On the contrary, this girl was utterly heartbroken some guy just used her for sex and seems quite happy she found a guy who actually wants a GF.
 

Roober

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My ex wife was a sever ditto to that mate. She had no-one other than me, and a few work mates and like 2 girls who lived miles away.

My current girl, she has friends but I trust them, they are not the wrong type of girls from what I know.

However, we met on OLD and there are quite a few men out there wtth her number who hit her up from time to time. Obviously it's tempting for her to not block them and enjoy the pursuit. Also there is risk present. However, she's already wanting to plan kids and maririage so keeping in context is key. I also know that it can change on the head of a pin.

Just tired of stressing about it. I have blown my jealousy fuse. I realise I can't control shyt. I cannot control what she wants or does. All I can do is decide. If I sense something is up, I can go. Until this happens, I'll enjoy my time with her, she can plan away, yet I know that nothing is certain and just take each day as it comes.
Yep! And that is the main thing to it. Just understanding that whatever happens is going to happen, whether you like it or not. So just make the best of it...? Being aloof will not cause as much damage as being jealous, that's for sure... I am in a good place, where if she bailed, I don't feel like I would be a trainwreck, much more comfortable than the last girl I dated. Maybe that is from SS though and now understanding I can get women no problem?

Fortunately, my lady has never done OLD, so she doesn't have those randoms hitting her up. Why do guys do that anyways? Hit girls up months later? lol... Not sure if they are just that sad, or lazy... a guy with no options goes back digging through the trash

I am going to make better attempts at making light of it and joking. IF she presses, then I will fight fire with fire. I remember her ex hit her up a couple months back, and she told me about it. So I asked her.. "so you don't mind me keeping in contact with my exes too, am I right?" She blocked him right away (or at least told me she did)... either way, I played light of it, so she keeps communications open about that kinds of stuff.

Just got a thought to support when girls talk about other guys... the importance of playing it cool when she brings up another guy...
She says things, and you don't care or make a joke of it, you keep her open. (this is like relationship 101)
By keeping her open, you maintain the advantage of knowing her agenda. (she will keep talking)
The longer she stays open, the more you learn. (she will continue to reveal herself while you check the boxes under "acceptable" or "unacceptable")
The more you learn, the easier it is to make a decision about your future together.
 

Joseph28

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Want to meet my Latina

I’m in a bit of pickle. I met this amazing Latina woman online and we’ve been talking for a few months. We’re turning serious and I plan to visit her in Colombia. Now, before anyone lectures me how it is dangerous there, I am a grown man and stable in life. I can make my own decisions.

My lady is legit. I have spoken to her on the phone a lot of times, We’ve Skyped and yes her voice and face match the profile. I’ve sent her gifts and she graciously takes a photo of them.

I do love spoiling my girl with flowers, but that’s beside the point. I think that this point we’re turning serious and the natural next step is to meet in person. Since we’re not in the same country I plan to visit her. I hope to spend my off time there with her by my side so we can talk personally and have dinners.

My question is, I wanna go there but can I also take a romance tour? I wanna meet my lady but at the same time I also want to meet other women in her country. I kind of want to have a backup plan in case things with my girl don’t work out. I know that online romance can be a bit different when two people finally meet in person for the first time.

I want to take this romance tour by AFA, they have tours in Cartagena. I’m not sure if romance tours are legit too, but my research says they do tours a couple of times every year and there are numerous reviews.

What should I do? Should I go on to romance tour or just DIY my trip to Cartagena to meet my girl? Please help!!!!!
 
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