I just found this place last night and I think it's changed my life haha. I've got no problem getting dates or numbers and I've done the neg hit thing successfully forever and didn't even know it was a real concept until last night. But I'm not always good at the follow through part. Anyway check this out. (This is a long ass story that covers about a week, sorry).
I get this girls # from work last week (probably a 7), we go out for some drinks and it was ok. Next night we go out again, this time w her friend, and I'm not expecting much. When we walk in I see two girls I know from work who are way hotter than her and I immediately ditch her to go say hey to them but no big deal.
I go back to her and her friend, we order drinks, she asks me if I checked out the link to her modeling pics on her facebook and I say "Nope, didn't notice that!" She looks shocked and whips out her phone and shows me like her entire portfolio, some of which were "classy noodz" to which I mostly commented on the photographers choice of lighting and composition. Again, the shocked look.
At this point two guys we briefly talked to earlier join us and at some point she gives her # to one of them which I didn't catch at the time. I take her home but fd up and didn't make a move (this is the follow through part I suck at).
We go out again next night, totally lame date and I'm thinking this is a waste of time. Next night I go out with friends.
Saturday night comes and she and I go to a biker bar to see her friends band. It was vibing extremely awkward from the minute I picked her up with her talking about getting all drunk and flirting with cops and firefighters etc. Strike 1!
We're having a good time at the bar though and then she tells me whatshisname that she gave her # to a few nights ago is going to show up. Strike 2!
I miss a perfect "neg hit" when she asks me several times if I think her shirt makes her look fat and tell her "Of course not!" like an idiot. He shows up and she immediately forgets I'm there and is all up in his business, touching his arm etc. I turn around at one point and see his arm around her waist. Strike 3!
I politely tell her "I'm bailing, can you find a ride home?" and leave. Totally weak. Next day she asks me if I had fun. I politely tell her I did not have fun, that I had been sure she was into me not this dude and that it was lame behavior. Next day at work she keeps emailing me little sad faces and when I ask what's up she replies with "Oh nothing" type nonsense.
She texts me later and says she can't stop thinking about what I said to her. I ask what she's thinking about it and she says "Oh I dunno." I ask what specific thing I said is it that she's thinking about and she says "The me being into you thing" and I tell her "Okay this feels like high school" and call it a night.
Yesterday I blew her off almost the whole day except when she said she liked my haircut for which I thanked her. She asked me if I wanted to go out for drinks and I said possibly and never brought it up again. Today same deal. She asked me if I wanted to go to a karaoke place tonight, I told her I had to make food for work tomorrow (not a lie!!) and didn't bring it up again.
She emailed me again to tell me my haircut looks "really... good" and stopped by my desk after she left to remind me that she's going out and told me to text her about 3 times in the conversation. I do text her at about 1am and ask how the karaoke's going. She says she went to a non karaoke bar and I tell her it's too bad she's not sharing her singing with everyone (she's a terrible singer). She sends an LOL response which I ignore (I don't respond to those 99% of the time) and 45 min later she just sends me one that says "Come over."
Now until I found this website and did some reading I would've gone over and tried to hook up. Instead I wait about a half hour and say "Come over where?" She hasn't responded and if she does I'm telling her "I'm just about to get into bed" which is also true.
So my thought is this. I think I did ALMOST everything right on the 2nd date but the 4th date was easily the biggest disaster date I've ever had. I don't think she was expecting me to call her on her bs and since then has been trying really hard to "get back in my good graces" or whatever.
I'm also thinking that not going over to potentially hook up at her command tonight is not what she was expecting or used to. Again, she's a 7 but she seems to think she's way hotter than she is and clearly gets tons of attention. The fact that we work in the same place is a potential problem and I don't even know if there's a point in trying to recover from that hilarious bad date. Anyway, tell me what I've done right and wrong here!
I get this girls # from work last week (probably a 7), we go out for some drinks and it was ok. Next night we go out again, this time w her friend, and I'm not expecting much. When we walk in I see two girls I know from work who are way hotter than her and I immediately ditch her to go say hey to them but no big deal.
I go back to her and her friend, we order drinks, she asks me if I checked out the link to her modeling pics on her facebook and I say "Nope, didn't notice that!" She looks shocked and whips out her phone and shows me like her entire portfolio, some of which were "classy noodz" to which I mostly commented on the photographers choice of lighting and composition. Again, the shocked look.
At this point two guys we briefly talked to earlier join us and at some point she gives her # to one of them which I didn't catch at the time. I take her home but fd up and didn't make a move (this is the follow through part I suck at).
We go out again next night, totally lame date and I'm thinking this is a waste of time. Next night I go out with friends.
Saturday night comes and she and I go to a biker bar to see her friends band. It was vibing extremely awkward from the minute I picked her up with her talking about getting all drunk and flirting with cops and firefighters etc. Strike 1!
We're having a good time at the bar though and then she tells me whatshisname that she gave her # to a few nights ago is going to show up. Strike 2!
I miss a perfect "neg hit" when she asks me several times if I think her shirt makes her look fat and tell her "Of course not!" like an idiot. He shows up and she immediately forgets I'm there and is all up in his business, touching his arm etc. I turn around at one point and see his arm around her waist. Strike 3!
I politely tell her "I'm bailing, can you find a ride home?" and leave. Totally weak. Next day she asks me if I had fun. I politely tell her I did not have fun, that I had been sure she was into me not this dude and that it was lame behavior. Next day at work she keeps emailing me little sad faces and when I ask what's up she replies with "Oh nothing" type nonsense.
She texts me later and says she can't stop thinking about what I said to her. I ask what she's thinking about it and she says "Oh I dunno." I ask what specific thing I said is it that she's thinking about and she says "The me being into you thing" and I tell her "Okay this feels like high school" and call it a night.
Yesterday I blew her off almost the whole day except when she said she liked my haircut for which I thanked her. She asked me if I wanted to go out for drinks and I said possibly and never brought it up again. Today same deal. She asked me if I wanted to go to a karaoke place tonight, I told her I had to make food for work tomorrow (not a lie!!) and didn't bring it up again.
She emailed me again to tell me my haircut looks "really... good" and stopped by my desk after she left to remind me that she's going out and told me to text her about 3 times in the conversation. I do text her at about 1am and ask how the karaoke's going. She says she went to a non karaoke bar and I tell her it's too bad she's not sharing her singing with everyone (she's a terrible singer). She sends an LOL response which I ignore (I don't respond to those 99% of the time) and 45 min later she just sends me one that says "Come over."
Now until I found this website and did some reading I would've gone over and tried to hook up. Instead I wait about a half hour and say "Come over where?" She hasn't responded and if she does I'm telling her "I'm just about to get into bed" which is also true.
So my thought is this. I think I did ALMOST everything right on the 2nd date but the 4th date was easily the biggest disaster date I've ever had. I don't think she was expecting me to call her on her bs and since then has been trying really hard to "get back in my good graces" or whatever.
I'm also thinking that not going over to potentially hook up at her command tonight is not what she was expecting or used to. Again, she's a 7 but she seems to think she's way hotter than she is and clearly gets tons of attention. The fact that we work in the same place is a potential problem and I don't even know if there's a point in trying to recover from that hilarious bad date. Anyway, tell me what I've done right and wrong here!
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