Had to stop the "Player" from coming out to play...

[In2theGame]

So some of you guys on here already know my story. Single since mid 2010 and have been with a ton of different Women during this time but recently (and Happily) have gotten a girlfriend. She's very Submissive, Feminine and Sexy. Doesn't give me problems and "vetted" her for 5 years before becoming officially together. Anyway...

This past Saturday night we went out to one of her friends get together at a 2 deck bar on the lower east side. As soon as I walk into the bar with my girlfriend, the bouncer there who used to work at another lounge, recognized me from my "Player" days and said "Hey Man! long time!, don't worry about it, no need for ID's, come in" shook his hand and my GF and I went upstairs. We greeted everyone and I sat at the bar to get myself some Whiskey on the rocks and I was just hanging out looking around while my GF chatted up her friends. So my GF comes over and I order her a drink because I already had my tab open, She tells me her other friend is coming and will show up in a few minutes (I've met this friend before). Fast forward an hour and everyone is having a good time and all, We all go out to this deck and talkin,.... Im sitting on this stool with my drink in one hand and my other hand on my GF's thick ass but I was noticing I kept checking out her friend up and down. She's blonde with a tight ass body and im just eye fvcking her straight up so at one point my GF has to go to the bathroom and leave me and her friend outside talking, we get to chatting. I kept looking at her dead in her eyes and in my mind i was thinking "Damn i would fvck ths sh*t out of her, I wonder how she moans, I bet she gets soaked"..... I had to really stop myself from saying some provocative things that I would normally say when I was single.

My GF comes back and kind of sits on my lap and my hand on her ass again, we're all back to talking etc. So after a while, its been some time now, we get another drink at the bar and we start dancing,... Her friend says that she's going to head out back home and she and my GF say goodbye to one another and then she comes over to give me a hug goodbye,... which she does and I don't know why but... that player side just came out quickly.. I grabbed her by her waist and told her "If i was single, I would of been all over you tonight".... She looks down in a shy way and starts giggling before she left. My GF asked me, what I said that made her giggle and I told her straight out exactly what I said, which my GF gave me a look like "really" lol but that was it, she did't give me much sh*t about it. We ended up leaving soon after and as we're walking past another bar/lounge, another bouncer on the street recognized me as well from my past days, which then my GF got kind of annoyed and said she doesnt want all these people to think im just another one in your play pen. However, This seemed to turn her on later that night

This is not the first time this happened either, about 2 weeks ago another of her cute friends came to a after work get together and again I had to hold myself back from saying all the things I normally say to seduce Women. In both cases I could sense the sexual tension and I caught them glancing at me. Overall though, I tell my GF everything because I don't feel like I need to hide sh!t and I'm truly happy with my GF so I have no problems there. Also, Im not onto that cheating sh!t either, I feel like that's a dirtbag thing to do, Male or Female.

The point of this thread is to those "Womanizing Alpha Males" (Term used by Alan Roger Currie so i'm not stealing it).... How do you deal with these "Player" urges? After having a buffet of Women, How do you control this?

 

[SeekerOfTheWay]

Would you or your girlfriend ever consider opening the relationship? I don’t really believe monogamy works for long but a poly situation needs lots of trust and discussion and boundaries. I am interested in the advice your your fellows.

 

[In2theGame]

Would you or your girlfriend ever consider opening the relationship? I don’t really believe monogamy works for long but a poly situation needs lots of trust and discussion and boundaries. I am interested in the advice your your fellows.

She definitely wouldn't. She said and I quote "There's no way I'm sharing this d!ck" lol Which is expected but I guess I need to learn to control myself since for many years I have been accustomed to always having various Women.

 

[AJ84]

She definitely wouldn't. She said and I quote "There's no way I'm sharing this d!ck" lol Which is expected but I guess I need to learn to control myself since for many years I have been accustomed to always having various Women.

She’s saying that now, but she may sing a different tune on the open relationship thing if she has an opportunity to fcuk a hot guy .

 

[The Duke]

Every woman wants a man that is desired by other women. The situation @In2theGame explained is female nature and can work quite well, but used too often and in the wrong fashion can be seen as disrespectful.

How do you deal with these "Player" urges? After having a buffet of Women, How do you control this?

The constant control for me is perspective. Its realizing that most of the women I sampled on the all you can eat buffet were nowhere near as great as what I have now. You run thru 50 girls in a few years and you realize whats out there. You can then only appreciate something that is superior. Its not worth it to throw away something rare for something something that can be found anywhere. Her friend is nothing special by the way she tolerated your advances.

 

[In2theGame]

Shyt hardly ever works for most females. Best to cut the LTR. Start spinning again.
This guy is exposing his true male hyper gamy.
Wait until the whiteknight moral save a knight crowd comes out.
Boy what a piece shyt hes going to look like.
How comical this is.

So, I'm a piece of shyt because I was asking for legitimate advice on how to control these urges?

 

[In2theGame]

Well well well. Apart from being a blow hard brag post. Great job on exposing exactly what women like. Men who other women want to fck.

No, it wasn't a brag post, it was a post describing my situation and how the night went.

 

[In2theGame]

Sarcasm bro. Im saying this because of an earlier thread debate on cheating.

Fair enough. That's def something I wouldn't want to do. Some Men, even friends think it's OK to have a chick on the side from time to time but IMO it's just a fvcked up thing to do.

 

[In2theGame]

Is it?

Is it what? OK to have a side chick?

 

[In2theGame]

From the vibe of your post it was a mix of fantasy porn fantasy post and validation.
What exactly can you help us understand. Your telling us its fcked up but help me stop wanting the women around her?

Ok, Stringpuller.

 

[AttackFormation]

Shyt hardly ever works for most females. Best to cut the LTR. Start spinning again.
This guy is exposing his true male hyper gamy.
Wait until the whiteknight moral save a knight crowd comes out.
Boy what a piece shyt hes going to look like.
How comical this is.

Lol not this time bro. Women want the men other women want, and they want their man to be wanted by other women. He is giving her what she wants and she is eating it up.

I just dont like hypocrites who complain about the same thing theyre doing. But @In2theGame isnt one. Also, more in general, i just respect people who have the selfcontrol to handle impulsive temptations or delay gratification, whatever it is. Being weak is easy, being strong is harder. I respect the strength.

 

[17 shots]

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The point of this thread is to those "Womanizing Alpha Males" (Term used by Alan Roger Currie so i'm not stealing it).... How do you deal with these "Player" urges? After having a buffet of Women, How do you control this?

Your girlfriend treats you right, and she has qualities that go beyond just glances and sexual tension. Any woman can give you sex. What your girlfriend does outside of sex that makes you happy should be the reminder that keeps you grounded

 

[In2theGame]

Well jeezus man what do you expect? Did you read what you wrote? I read it and was into her friend too. The only way to stop it is to not go around them or just say no.
Or just harmlessly flirt to enjoy brushing up on your game.
But ill say this if your girl is one of those girls she will sniff that bulkshyt out quick. She will know sub con that your not satisfied. But..
Maybe you'll end up in 3 some land. Who knows. As discussed earlier today it comes down to what you want.

I can't just not go around them, If my girlfriend and I are invited and they're around then it is what it is. The thing is, I am very satisfied with my girl but maybe its an impulsive thing because this is what I have done for so many years, I'd see a girl that's attractive and I went to go get her. Now, i'm trying to learn to control that. Other people have told me to just have a side chick but I'm just not down with that.

This is why I was simply asking if any guys on here has had this issue and I was curious to know about it.

 

[The Duke]

Rare? As in Oneitis rare?

Rare? As in Oneitis rare?

No, rare as in having perspective to appreciate something solid that checks all of the boxes.

 

[Julian]

Dang bro this is some real alpha shi riht here you need to write some advice posts bro @In2theGame

 

[Jager]

So some of you guys on here already know my story. Single since mid 2010 and have been with a ton of different Women during this time but recently (and Happily) have gotten a girlfriend. She's very Submissive, Feminine and Sexy. Doesn't give me problems and "vetted" her for 5 years before becoming officially together. Anyway...

This past Saturday night we went out to one of her friends get together at a 2 deck bar on the lower east side. As soon as I walk into the bar with my girlfriend, the bouncer there who used to work at another lounge, recognized me from my "Player" days and said "Hey Man! long time!, don't worry about it, no need for ID's, come in" shook his hand and my GF and I went upstairs. We greeted everyone and I sat at the bar to get myself some Whiskey on the rocks and I was just hanging out looking around while my GF chatted up her friends. So my GF comes over and I order her a drink because I already had my tab open, She tells me her other friend is coming and will show up in a few minutes (I've met this friend before). Fast forward an hour and everyone is having a good time and all, We all go out to this deck and talkin,.... Im sitting on this stool with my drink in one hand and my other hand on my GF's thick ass but I was noticing I kept checking out her friend up and down. She's blonde with a tight ass body and im just eye fvcking her straight up so at one point my GF has to go to the bathroom and leave me and her friend outside talking, we get to chatting. I kept looking at her dead in her eyes and in my mind i was thinking "Damn i would fvck ths sh*t out of her, I wonder how she moans, I bet she gets soaked"..... I had to really stop myself from saying some provocative things that I would normally say when I was single.

My GF comes back and kind of sits on my lap and my hand on her ass again, we're all back to talking etc. So after a while, its been some time now, we get another drink at the bar and we start dancing,... Her friend says that she's going to head out back home and she and my GF say goodbye to one another and then she comes over to give me a hug goodbye,... which she does and I don't know why but... that player side just came out quickly.. I grabbed her by her waist and told her "If i was single, I would of been all over you tonight".... She looks down in a shy way and starts giggling before she left. My GF asked me, what I said that made her giggle and I told her straight out exactly what I said, which my GF gave me a look like "really" lol but that was it, she did't give me much sh*t about it. We ended up leaving soon after and as we're walking past another bar/lounge, another bouncer on the street recognized me as well from my past days, which then my GF got kind of annoyed and said she doesnt want all these people to think im just another one in your play pen. However, This seemed to turn her on later that night

This is not the first time this happened either, about 2 weeks ago another of her cute friends came to a after work get together and again I had to hold myself back from saying all the things I normally say to seduce Women. In both cases I could sense the sexual tension and I caught them glancing at me. Overall though, I tell my GF everything because I don't feel like I need to hide sh!t and I'm truly happy with my GF so I have no problems there. Also, Im not onto that cheating sh!t either, I feel like that's a dirtbag thing to do, Male or Female.

The point of this thread is to those "Womanizing Alpha Males" (Term used by Alan Roger Currie so i'm not stealing it).... How do you deal with these "Player" urges? After having a buffet of Women, How do you control this?

You’re acting as if you don’t have self control over your own actions. More, you’re trying to deliberately stop your natural urges to fvck women, when those urges are natural to being a man. That’s idiotic. Besides why would you want to?

Women want men that other women want to fvck, and it seems to me like your GF got turned on by your actions with this other woman, anyway, so it only makes her want to stick around, regardless.

You’re trying to shut down your own masculinity, and you’ve put some work into it by looking elsewhere for material to help you do it. You are purposefully cucking yourself for your GF, and when you finally do eliminate your natural biological urges, contact with women is going to disappear, because they innately sense weakness in men, and your GF will go from being that hot little pistol your seeing now to the raving lunatic because you no longer accept your own masculine nature.

Agree or disagree, it doesn’t matter to me, but I know exactly what’s going to happen to you if you go through with this. You’re willingly destroying everything you worked hard to create, and you’re going to be back here with a thread named “Girlfriend broke up with me” and filled with data about how hurt you are. If you keep your natural biology intact, however, none of that will happen, and it was that natural biology that your GF was attracted to to begin with.

 

[zekko]

You can't control the urges, those will always be there. But you can control your actions, which it sounds like you did, for the most part. You were flirting with the line though.

If you find your urges too strong, or you're feeling too confined, or you're unhappy with the situation, LTRs may not be for you.

 

[devilkingx2]

Jerk off before you go out

Go to places where your girlfriend is the hottest one there

Make yourself less attractive to women when you go out so that they won't give you the time of day.

Channel your sexual energy into your girlfriend when something is making you horny