Had to dump her

[Lookatu]

The psychiatrist was extremely submissive. Let me do anything and everything to her. Went from perfectly normal to crazy horny as soon as I'd touch her leg and whisper how hard I was going to pound her while we were in public.

I dumped her bc she was expecting to get married after dating 4 months. She ended up married to a dude less than a year later. Hes getting some good pvssy but I'm sure hes about fed up with her at this point too

Pretty much the same minus her getting married. She did want marriage from me though after about 4 months too.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

The psychiatrist was extremely submissive. Let me do anything and everything to her. Went from perfectly normal to crazy horny as soon as I'd touch her leg and whisper how hard I was going to pound her while we were in public.

I dumped her bc she was expecting to get married after dating 4 months. She ended up married to a dude less than a year later. Hes getting some good pvssy but I'm sure hes about fed up with her at this point too

He might not be getting much.

 

[BeExcellent]

You did the right thing Glass. And you were reasonable in giving her time to correct course as well but she was her own worst enemy here.

Early dating is such a minefield. Most everybody is on their best behavior, people generally hide their bad habits and crazy and rarely are forthcoming about what is up.

Granted that makes things easier...in the short term. Long term it creates situations like this...which you are iron clad suited to handle...but the whole experience may well benefit someone else here.

Glassguy is up front that he is playing the field, which is deserving of respect because many people (men and women both) are too afraid (and/or too shady) to be that transparent. Too many people BS each other, which wastes time often once true colors start showing - and true colors always show up in time.

Some women think they are going to so bedazzle a man with their looks that they will mold him to her way of doing. She is pretty & accustomed to that...but she hasn’t run into many real men...which Glassguy happens to be. So the usual bedazzle protocol doesn’t work...and she doesn’t know quite what else to do because it’s always worked before, lol.

Bedazzle failed so her next tactic was enlist your daughter, which is over the line. Chill out and modify her own behavior wasn’t an option because she can’t believe you weren’t bedazzled...so this brings all the latent insecurities to the surface where they run amuck. Fast. Bummer.

You were absolutely right to cut her loose.

There are good women out there who don’t do these things. You may need to sift a bit...but you’ll select for them. Self confident women will understand the early dating dance, accept the reality of some competition but remain cool because they know who they are. They may feel things out, tire kick & evaluate behavior...but that’s what early dating involves. They are mature about it.

They won’t rely on bedazzle & manipulate as so many women do.

It’s midweek. Set up the new rotation & enjoy yourself.

Cheers

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Wow...you are better than me bro...at 6 months I wouldn't even consider having them meet my kids yet(they are still sort of young tho). How old is yoir daughter?

Also another reason I stay off social media...

 

[Glassguy]

Glassguy is up front that he is playing the field, which is deserving of respect because many people (men and women both) are too afraid (and/or too shady) to be that transparent. Too many people BS each other, which wastes time often once true colors start showing - and true colors always show up in time.

Just last night I had a new chick ask: "Important question....what are you looking for?"
My response (as always): "I am recently single and just enjoying it. Not looking for something instantly serious but open to more down the road with the right person".
To which she quickly replied: Oh good.....same here.
Most guys think they have to say they want a relationship and would be scared to tell a woman this. But I fully understand that is a scarcity mindset and its not a bad thing to let a woman know she might have some competition for my attention.

Some women think they are going to so bedazzle a man with their looks that they will mold him to her way of doing. She is pretty & accustomed to that...but she hasn’t run into many real men...which Glassguy happens to be. So the usual bedazzle protocol doesn’t work...and she doesn’t know quite what else to do because it’s always worked before, lol.

She is attractive as you saw in the pics I sent you on fb. Most guys on here would be cutting a nut off to go out with a chick like this that has such a good education and career and isnt a shyte show in life. But I am not most guys and I have high standards which include personality and actions being weighed just as heavy as looks.
When a woman's "go to" doesnt work they will normally revert to psychotic action and that is a deal breaker to me.

It’s midweek. Set up the new rotation & enjoy yourself.

Its already in process. 4 dates now set up for the slight free time I will have over the next week. I liked my previous rotations and I think I will stick to those for a while. With my daughter's vball team more than likely making it to the state tournament and travel vball around the corner, I find its best to have a rotation vs having a steady chick that demands all the time in the world when I simply dont have it to give (nor do I want to).

Good post @BeExcellent

 

[Glassguy]

That's the way to do it. After I break up with a chick, I'm usually out with a new one within the same week. Take a day to mourn your lack of a lay that night and move on.

I dont know if I would classify it as mourning.....for me is more of just taking some time justifying why I had to make a hard decision and the more I rationalize it, the decision becomes very easy to accept.

Most guys think they miss the girl at the end of a relationship. What they really miss is the habit of having someone to text, call, etc. Which in reality is nothing more than a woman's attention. There are millions of other women out there. As long as the pipeline is getting filled once a man knows the end is near, that habit of steady attention is quickly filled and moving on is super easy.

Yup, it's usually in the 6-10 month range that I dump women

That seems to be when the crazy comes out because they start to realize they arent changing men like us. We will not fold our purpose, hobbies, etc for them. Women should be a compliment to a man's life and vice versa, not the main part of our focus.
I tell women up front that I am hard to date. Mainly because of how busy I stay with my daughter and sports, but also because I wear many hats as a business owner, Chairman of a Board and many hobbies that I have (Golfing, boating, bow hunting, fishing trips). They think they can change us, but when they realize they cant after 6 months they panic!

 

[Glassguy]

Wow...you are better than me bro...at 6 months I wouldn't even consider having them meet my kids yet(they are still sort of young tho). How old is yoir daughter?

Also another reason I stay off social media...

My daughter is 17. So its not like I am introducing people to a 5 yr old. She knows that I date and I dont introduce anyone to her until I see there is a strong chance of it going somewhere. She met my daughter after a couple of months. Now when my daughter was younger (10-15yo) I only introduced her to one chick and ultimately I dated that one for 3 years.

 

[Lookatu]

Most guys think they miss the girl at the end of a relationship. What they really miss is the habit of having someone to text, call, etc. Which in reality is nothing more than a woman's attention.

Women should be a compliment to a man's life and vice versa, not the main part of our focus.

Truth that needs to be emphasized for everyone here.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

ALL women have insecurities. This is normal. It is NOT normal for a man or healthy.
Thats why it turns off WOMEN
Rotations will never fix it. Gotta be willing to go without. Not until then can you know how strong you are. (Indifference not MGTOW) there is a difference between "gotta have it" and i dont like the rules so I quit.

All women do and ironically the more they like you the more you tend to bring those insecurities out in them.

 

[Glassguy]

Dominance and sub are not mutually exclusive. A normal healthy female is naturally insecure. This is why their puss dries up when a man gets insecure.

Notice in the story of OP that she "took the breakup well"
If she took it well then some dynamic wasn't fully submitted and this girl was just controlling and for whatever reasons. (Competition anxiety)
A healthy female that was insecure and sub that just got kicked to the curb would be physically ill and not doing well emotionally. Yes moving on but not well.

Females are turned off by insecurity in man. Why is OP turned off by this?
Sounds like another brag post tbh. Like usual because the guy cant stop saying

"The problem with most guys"... lol

If you want to be a hater, skip reading my posts. A lot of posters are tired of hearing your pessimistic attitude all the time. You act like everything is trash if you didnt come up with it. Grow up.

 

[Focal core]

I can definitely agree with that after having gone out with many in the medical field. The ironic thing was these were high positioned individuals that were supposed to give patient care to others when they themselves were messed up in the head.

The world full of agonizing surprises.. Wtf we put our life under the care of neurotic numbnuts. They functioning on "autopilot " on most of the time.

 

[Focal core]

They all are - because they got into that line of work to try to figure out their own crazy!

Exactlt this, and to backshift projecting their flaws to others, so they say im a medic specialist, so i must be better and sane than those people.but hey are briliant in gaslighting because of their job and status.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

The world full of agonizing surprises.. Wtf we put our life under the care of neurotic numbnuts. They functioning on "autopilot " on most of the time.

Egoic autopilot at that

 

[Clamslammer]

Just last night I had a new chick ask: "Important question....what are you looking for?"
My response (as always): "I am recently single and just enjoying it. Not looking for something instantly serious but open to more down the road with the right person".
To which she quickly replied: Oh good.....same here.
Most guys think they have to say they want a relationship and would be scared to tell a woman this. But I fully understand that is a scarcity mindset and its not a bad thing to let a woman know she might have some competition for my attention.


She is attractive as you saw in the pics I sent you on fb. Most guys on here would be cutting a nut off to go out with a chick like this that has such a good education and career and isnt a shyte show in life. But I am not most guys and I have high standards which include personality and actions being weighed just as heavy as looks.
When a woman's "go to" doesnt work they will normally revert to psychotic action and that is a deal breaker to me.


Its already in process. 4 dates now set up for the slight free time I will have over the next week. I liked my previous rotations and I think I will stick to those for a while. With my daughter's vball team more than likely making it to the state tournament and travel vball around the corner, I find its best to have a rotation vs having a steady chick that demands all the time in the world when I simply dont have it to give (nor do I want to).

Good post @BeExcellent

Have you noticed that when you are a high value high status guy with looks, confidence, and a purpose that most girls will stay away from or even ignore you despite them being highly attracted to you? First time this started happening to me I got confused because I thought I was doing something wrong as I was being rejected despite the iois but in reality I was doing everything right as I didn't care how pretty the girl was so I didn't treat her like every other guy did.

 

[Desdinova]

They think they can change us, but when they realize they cant after 6 months they panic!

The good women (who are far and few between) are the ones who don't try and change you, but try and adapt to your lifestyle. The things you do become the things that she does unless you specifically tell her you don't want her tagging along. And you know what? That's the way it should be. That's one of the reasons why older women are absolutely terrible as LTR prospects. They're set in their ways, they won't give xxxx up for no man and they have their own life full of self-indulgence and emotional fluctuation which they're addicted to. A woman who either hasn't built up her own life or is willing to dump everything she's ever known is the one who's going to be a good companion.

 

[Lookatu]

Have you noticed that when you are a high value high status guy with looks, confidence, and a purpose that most girls will stay away from or even ignore you despite them being highly attracted to you? First time this started happening to me I got confused because I thought I was doing something wrong as I was being rejected despite the iois but in reality I was doing everything right as I didn't care how pretty the girl was so I didn't treat her like every other guy did.

I've had this happen and it seems to boil down to girls that fit into one or more of these categories: Low quality(pretending to be high), insecure type, intimidated, Pessimistic, spoiled(in more ways than one, gifts, attention, etc).

Some of these girls are used to having everything their way and have everything come easy for them through beta simps and white knights. And when they sense that you won't cave and provide that easily because you're not like the rest, they have already "lost" in their minds and will not make any effort, or try to go out of their way to ignore you. They know they can't be your center part of your universe and that you have a lot of other options. Some think that by ignoring you or not letting it be known that they are attracted to you, they are secretly hoping that you will cave and start coming around by showering them with attention like her beta simps. It's a form of a cop out for some girls.

 

[Glassguy]

Have you noticed that when you are a high value high status guy with looks, confidence, and a purpose that most girls will stay away from or even ignore you despite them being highly attracted to you? First time this started happening to me I got confused because I thought I was doing something wrong as I was being rejected despite the iois but in reality I was doing everything right as I didn't care how pretty the girl was so I didn't treat her like every other guy did.

Some women dont want the guy, they just want the free attention. When you're not chasing a woman and showering her with free attention, she isn't interested. But remember its only because you're not giving her the free product that betas give her and it's a dodged bullet in the long run.

 

[dude99]

Date a chick for 6 months. Very attractive, intelligent, educated, witty. Very feminine. High up in the medical field. Made a great living a her young age of 31 years old. Owns her own house and 80k SUV. 12 years younger than me. Had her eating out of the palm of my hand. Literally could have proposed and this chick would have married me the next day. All sounds great, right?

Insecurity is something I cant handle. At first it was asking me why I was friends with so many chicks on social media. Then it was "why did you like so and so's pic"......even though so and so was a good female friend of mine in real life. I was getting tired of explaining. It was getting old.

So I hid my friends list on fb. That worked for a while (and I recommend everyone do that). Then it became asking me about women who liked my posts on social media, because she could see them then.

The final straw was she started screen shotting my followers on IG and then asking MY DAUGHTER who some of the chicks were. Unbearable. Told her over the weekend that this wasnt working any longer and time to move on. It wasnt an easy decision but it was an easy decision. Her insecurity killed the relationship.

I want to make 2 points from this situation:

1.) Insecurity from either a woman OR a man will kill attraction. Thats exactly what happened here. Her insecurity, questioning, etc made me not even want to be around her. And for the last 3 weeks I wasnt around her much at all. Dont be the insecure person who dynamites the relationship that is going well. I am not saying dont just all of a sudden trust someone, because trust is earned, but I am saying keep in withing the confines of your own head until you have to escalate on an issue.

2.) Pipeline- Glassguy was born at night but not last night. As soon as her insecurity started to become an issue, I started letting the pipeline start filling up. Broke up this past weekend, been on 1 drinks date (lay) and 3 more scheduled this weekend. No big fancy dinners. Just meet up for a drink and let things roll. Took a peak on Tinder and Bumble, lots of matches but I havent dove into those yet. When you feel something is off in a relationship (plate, GF, fiance or wife) you should start setting up yourself for success in terms of if things go bad. Your gut is normally right about suspicions or feelings that things are going array.

Some guys might feel sorry for themselves. They might sit around and ponder their decision to end things for a few days and feel sorry about what happened. Other guys choose to already have the audibles in motion and jump right back out there. Life is short. No time for pandering around. Thats the guy I am.

Will I spin plates? Will I casually date with no expectations and just let things happen? Yes. If someone comes along that earns more attention and potential relationship attention? We shall see. But I will be in control, I will have a strong frame and put myself first in terms of dating. Always.

Happy Hunting

You did the right thing. What most guys don't realize is girls can "blow it" too. And this chick clearly did. She blew her chance with you through stupid behaviour.

Bravo Glass guy. Handled perfectly.

 

[mikey2012]

Women can’t be trusted. They live only for their agenda, If you are nice to them they will exploit that. The only way to keep them on a leash is for them to realize they are expendable. You have to be brave enough like Glassguy to press the eject button when things arent going right,

 

[Roober]

Ill start by saying going through your daughter was a shady move, not good. I'm guessing she reached a point of desperation and acted accordingly.

The thing I disagree with is having relations with people of the opposite sex. It never tends to go well, and can certainly foster insecurity in one party. Did she also commit the same actions that you did on social media? Did she have lots of male friends that she communicated with?

Walking the line between not caring and caring enough is tricky. From how it sounds, you were firmly on the "one foot out the door" side of the line, thereby never giving her any sort of certainty in the relationship. Without a firm footing, she resulted in desperate behaviors.

While I do agree that she was out of line, it would likely be beneficial to evaluate how your actions drove her to behave like this.

Personally, a fair amount of jealousy doesn't bother me. It serves as a reminder of the power dynamic in the relationship. If she stopped caring about me getting around, then she may be looking elsewhere as well. Very telling. When my lady gives me grief, "so who's xxx at your work?", I usually respond with "some new girl, young, very attractive, I wonder if she's single...?" That's usually the end of that line of questioning...