Had drunken sex then things got weird

[rodney_dangerfield]

Hello, I had drunken sex with a girl that I knew previously. We flirted a lot before that and went out once but it was nothing serious. So one night we got wasted and she invited me over and we banged. She was kind of cuddling and talking about her dad for a while then we kind of just laid there. That was a little weird to me, like why are you talking about your dad. Well I couldnt sleep so I left and went home, I just kinda said "yeah I'm gonna go sleep in my own bed". That was like two weeks ago.

I've seen her a couple of times at the bar after that night but it was sort of awkward where we'd talk a little, but there wasn't really a spark or whatever. And I mean I don't know if this thing was a one night deal, or what. So I'm thinking this girl is either a total slut, or she feels bad about what happened and doesn't want me to think of her as a slut. I called her once to do something but she was busy elsewhere and her calls have stopped coming in so I don't know what the **** to do cuz I'd really like to have sex sober.

Thanks

 

[Hitman10000]

She doesn't want a relationship with you. And just cause you had sex with a girl doesn't make her obligated to increase interest in you, in most likely case she had beer goggles on at the time and her talking about her dad was just to turn you off. If you have a high IQ to understand this, when she makes references to her dad, she's actually describing herself because daughters associate their identities with their father. It's funny how you're calling her a slut in a derogative manner when you're not much different from her, slut.

 

[rodney_dangerfield]

OUCH! I don't think you could've made it out to be any worse than just you did! She got me out of bed with the daddy talk? Not buying that.

 

[Bvbidd]

Uh hitman some random drunk chick is not going to think like that.

She was probally just drunk and had no idea wtf she was talking about.

She feels awkward with you. Either forget about it and let time do it's thing or just joke about it and try to un-awkward it and try to get her again.

I don't know but that's what I'd think, what I do know is don't listen to hitman.

 

[Kings_royalty]

I called her once to do something but she was busy elsewhere and her calls have stopped coming in so I don't know what the ***** to do

Take the hint and move on bro, find someone else to have sober $ex with. She's not interested anymore for one reason or another. Great, now she's someone elses headache, move on to the next girl. Stop waisting your energy trying to figure out why things turned out the way they did, who cares.

 

[rodney_dangerfield]

Good response Bvbidd, I think I'm going to just stop calling her cuz it's too weird now. If she wants to hang out I'll let her call me. I don't think I even like her that much, I might be just interested in fricking. I do find her sort of annoying.

I don't think she was drunk she only had a couple beers. I was the ****faced one.

 

[Bvbidd]

lol then just forget her and move on

 

[rodney_dangerfield]

see but that was the first time i got laid in 3 years so you can understand why i dont really want to. lol.

 

[donArjun]

3 years.....?

what have been doing

 

[rodney_dangerfield]

masturbating?

 

[Kings_royalty]

see but that was the first time i got laid in 3 years so you can understand why i dont really want to. lol.

Understandable, but you need to forget her and move on. I'm sure you are feeling a little confident and walking around with a natural high, so use this positive mental state to meet more girls, don't let it go to waste.

 

[Qmanchoo]

This 'forget about it and move on' crap is exactly what prevents people from ever building a solid relationship with anyone. You don't "forget and move on" you "talk about and work through" if you ever, EVER, want to build a solid bond with anyone in life.

Of course, that is as long as the other person want's to hear it...

Think about it for a second.

She obviosuly feels awkward and maybe a little bad, personally? I'd walk up to her the next time I saw her and tell her exactly how I felt about the situation. The raw dirt, the ballsy things that needs to be said, word for word. I bet you $5 that she wants to talk to you about it but just like you doesn't have the balls to bring it up and talk it through or just doesn't know what to say. If you initiated she would spill about it.

There is no spark becuase there is underlying complications that need to be resolved before things can flow smoothly again, this happens with my girlfriend every now and again.

the first thing you both think about when you see eachother is "that time we ****ed drunk and we don't know what to say about it" but you have never talked about it and worked out how you both feel about it.

And..

That's the only way you'll ever know what she thinks and you'll feel 100% better about the situation when you're done, and if she feels the same way you'll build a strong emotional bond and maybe get a FB out of it or even a girlfriend. She might even fall in love with you for being "such a man" about it.

Think about it man, what are the chances that any other guy in her entire life would have the balls to do something like that? You'll be set apart.

 

[onyx]

somethin similar happened to me...i slept with some girl that was a friend kinda and she wud always text me etc. 1 night got drunk and we ****ed..after that **** got arkward...she never felt comfortable in my presence or sumthin, she never said its just the vibe i got from her

just let it go man

 

[Sexual]

Wow, this title is my life story.

Be nice to her when you see her, go out of the way to kiss her on the cheek when you see her, but quickly return to your group of friends or whatever you were doing. Never hang around her and create an awkward situation, because if you treat her like a good friend and never act like that was some weird ****, she'll believe it herself.

Trust me, I've had so many drunken hookups that I don't remember and had an awkward situation with the girl, I can write a book on it. If you act distant, bad things can happen. Your reputation could plummet through her lies and hatred, other guys will want to fight you, and you'll lose faction with her friends as well as other women.

WOW.------- I just quickly reread this post and decided to add something. NO SEX IN THREE YEARS!? This is the least of your problems dude. GO THROUGH A DON JUAN BOOT CAMP, it's located in the DJ Bible.

 

[rodney_dangerfield]

This 'forget about it and move on' crap is exactly what prevents people from ever building a solid relationship with anyone. You don't "forget and move on" you "talk about and work through" if you ever, EVER, want to build a solid bond with anyone in life.

Of course, that is as long as the other person want's to hear it...

Think about it for a second.

She obviosuly feels awkward and maybe a little bad, personally? I'd walk up to her the next time I saw her and tell her exactly how I felt about the situation. The raw dirt, the ballsy things that needs to be said, word for word. I bet you $5 that she wants to talk to you about it but just like you doesn't have the balls to bring it up and talk it through or just doesn't know what to say. If you initiated she would spill about it.

There is no spark becuase there is underlying complications that need to be resolved before things can flow smoothly again, this happens with my girlfriend every now and again.

the first thing you both think about when you see eachother is "that time we ****ed drunk and we don't know what to say about it" but you have never talked about it and worked out how you both feel about it.

And..

That's the only way you'll ever know what she thinks and you'll feel 100% better about the situation when you're done, and if she feels the same way you'll build a strong emotional bond and maybe get a FB out of it or even a girlfriend. She might even fall in love with you for being "such a man" about it.

Think about it man, what are the chances that any other guy in her entire life would have the balls to do something like that? You'll be set apart.

Wow that's some pretty decent advice. I'm not the type of person who bangs anything that walks without even liking them. I think it'll make me feel better about it if I know if it was just a one night thing for her or what. Thanks a lot.

 

[itishe]

In my experience I beat the weirdness by calling her a day or two after and see if she wants to hang out. The first time you guys meet again may be odd, but after that everything will be fine.