I haven't been on this board in a while. And approaching women has taken a backseat in my life. Though, I'm wanting to get back into things, I've had sex with 3 women in the past year, which is fine. But, I know there can be more. I hadn't been to a club in 8 months until tonight, and I definitely believed I could take a girl home. I went to the club alone. But as the night went on, and I became more fatigued, something switched off, and I started running out of things to say(though I battled through it), my insecurities, uncertainties, and lack of confidence started showing through. I'll admit though, I was plenty nervous just thinking about going to the club. But once I got there, the nerves, switched off, and I really only got nervous over one girl. So here we go!
No need for PUA/MM type vocabulary. First thing I did when I went to the club was scope out the areas of the place, get familiar with it, and go to the bathoom. First place I went to was the electronica room. I waited a couple minutes by the bar, just looking for attractive women. I found one! An attactive Asian girl, Everything was clicking in the conversation, and she introduced me to friends of hers. Then we went to dance, and she didn't seem to want to do physical grinding/close touching, so I backed off. I'm not confidence in my dance skills, I just tried to follow the rhythm while 5-6 girls danced. The one I talked to kept fading away from me, though she would speak to me if I talked to her. I asked for her number because things didn't seem to be going hot, and I wanted to exit and look for other options. Told me she didn't have her phone with her but that I could give her mine. Left.
Next girl I just asked to sit down by. Attractive blonde girl, talked for about 30 mins. with her, she was drinking. I held her hand, and tried to start a make-out but she didn't want to. Soon after that, she left with her friends. Got her number, but I don't really have a place to f*ck unless I'm pulling straight from the club.
Went and talked to an attractive Mexican girl with her friend. It was really hard to hear though. Start of the conversation seemed great, then she said she had to leave with her friend. Never talked to her again. Sucks.
Next girl was a somewhat attractive white girl with her friend. They seemed like country girls so they didn't seem to get into my wit or observations about things. Asked one to dance but she didn't want to.
Next, I saw 3 attractive girls by the pool. Talked to them for about 20 mins, but it was kind of a struggle to think of things to say. I was getting fatigued more and my usual abrasive style of talking didn't seem to go well with them. Though they seemed friendly, I think I miscalibrated and acted like my natural self way too much. I'm a loud, immature, somewhat obnoxious person that has an intelligent side. So, I have personality issues obviously. I did ask if one of them wanted to go to one of the dance rooms with me, and they said no.
Next, I go to the rock room and see this very attractive woman with tattoos(one of my types). She was by the loud stage, so it would be too loud to talk to her. Thankfully, I found her walking back to that room and stopped her. She was very friendly and introduced herself, but she seemed more concerned with getting back with her friends in the rock room. I kept throwing out things to say to keep her around as she moved, but this may have been a form of neediness. She ended up leaving, and I didn't get the phone number of her. This is the one that made me nervous. And I think I messed up by viewing her as higher than all the other girls there. My fault, just don't see girls like that in my area.
I decided to go and try to act confident for another group of girls by the pool. 2 of them, somewhat attractive, actually from my area. I'm having to work in this conversation also, saying all sorts of witty things, and they're getting to leave soon. I accidentally asked where they were staying, and I didn't mean to, should've reworded it, This creeped one of them out and she said she wasn't comfortable. That ended my night.
I took a cab back, and I felt bad about what had happened tonight. Not crying bad, just this negativity that I could do better. I'm focusing on learning guitar and Japanese much more than women now. That, and trying to get a full-time job, so I don't have to live with my parents. and that hinders bringing women back to my house sometimes. And I can get women from POF, but I want more than that. I'm still where I need to be with cold approach. Don't know how much this plays into it, but I've gotten fat and weigh about 205-210 pounds. Used to weigh 170 when I was sucking with cold approach a year ago. Don't know what happened as I've kept working out, but I'm going to make my weight loss a priority. I want to make women a priority too, but I don't want to have a very low confidence problem with women from going out to the club too much.
But there you go guys, I'm still around.
No need for PUA/MM type vocabulary. First thing I did when I went to the club was scope out the areas of the place, get familiar with it, and go to the bathoom. First place I went to was the electronica room. I waited a couple minutes by the bar, just looking for attractive women. I found one! An attactive Asian girl, Everything was clicking in the conversation, and she introduced me to friends of hers. Then we went to dance, and she didn't seem to want to do physical grinding/close touching, so I backed off. I'm not confidence in my dance skills, I just tried to follow the rhythm while 5-6 girls danced. The one I talked to kept fading away from me, though she would speak to me if I talked to her. I asked for her number because things didn't seem to be going hot, and I wanted to exit and look for other options. Told me she didn't have her phone with her but that I could give her mine. Left.
Next girl I just asked to sit down by. Attractive blonde girl, talked for about 30 mins. with her, she was drinking. I held her hand, and tried to start a make-out but she didn't want to. Soon after that, she left with her friends. Got her number, but I don't really have a place to f*ck unless I'm pulling straight from the club.
Went and talked to an attractive Mexican girl with her friend. It was really hard to hear though. Start of the conversation seemed great, then she said she had to leave with her friend. Never talked to her again. Sucks.
Next girl was a somewhat attractive white girl with her friend. They seemed like country girls so they didn't seem to get into my wit or observations about things. Asked one to dance but she didn't want to.
Next, I saw 3 attractive girls by the pool. Talked to them for about 20 mins, but it was kind of a struggle to think of things to say. I was getting fatigued more and my usual abrasive style of talking didn't seem to go well with them. Though they seemed friendly, I think I miscalibrated and acted like my natural self way too much. I'm a loud, immature, somewhat obnoxious person that has an intelligent side. So, I have personality issues obviously. I did ask if one of them wanted to go to one of the dance rooms with me, and they said no.
Next, I go to the rock room and see this very attractive woman with tattoos(one of my types). She was by the loud stage, so it would be too loud to talk to her. Thankfully, I found her walking back to that room and stopped her. She was very friendly and introduced herself, but she seemed more concerned with getting back with her friends in the rock room. I kept throwing out things to say to keep her around as she moved, but this may have been a form of neediness. She ended up leaving, and I didn't get the phone number of her. This is the one that made me nervous. And I think I messed up by viewing her as higher than all the other girls there. My fault, just don't see girls like that in my area.
I decided to go and try to act confident for another group of girls by the pool. 2 of them, somewhat attractive, actually from my area. I'm having to work in this conversation also, saying all sorts of witty things, and they're getting to leave soon. I accidentally asked where they were staying, and I didn't mean to, should've reworded it, This creeped one of them out and she said she wasn't comfortable. That ended my night.
I took a cab back, and I felt bad about what had happened tonight. Not crying bad, just this negativity that I could do better. I'm focusing on learning guitar and Japanese much more than women now. That, and trying to get a full-time job, so I don't have to live with my parents. and that hinders bringing women back to my house sometimes. And I can get women from POF, but I want more than that. I'm still where I need to be with cold approach. Don't know how much this plays into it, but I've gotten fat and weigh about 205-210 pounds. Used to weigh 170 when I was sucking with cold approach a year ago. Don't know what happened as I've kept working out, but I'm going to make my weight loss a priority. I want to make women a priority too, but I don't want to have a very low confidence problem with women from going out to the club too much.
But there you go guys, I'm still around.
