Had a had a fantastic date, is this ok to send?

[Rambo92]

Had a fantastic date last night. Met someone who ticks all that I want with a girl, but obviously trying not to get my hopes up too soon.

I teased her a fair bit, was charming, smooth, etc. There were no awkward silences and we were both touching each other a lot. When we were bowling she was literally falling into my arms.

After we left bowling and had a drink there, we walked over to a different bar. During the course of walking over there, I stopped and turned to her and she asked why we were stopping. I guided her by the arm, pulled her in to kiss her. She reciprocated and we continued walking. She then said “very smooth” and I said “I always go for what I want” with a smirk.

We drank at the bar, flirted a lot etc. We talked about travelling at some point, what would be her place of choice and we both found out we had Italy in common. She then started using “we” like we were already planning it, not sure she realised this.

At the end of the date I took her to her tram stop and pulled her in to kiss again. She passionately kissed me and put her arms around my neck. I slowly moved my head away after a few seconds but it was like she couldn’t get enough and she continued kissing me. After a few seconds I slightly pulled away, then she tugged me by the top of my shirt and pulled me in to kiss again.

I then said “That’s all you’re getting for now” and I smirked at her. She then slapped me on my chest and said “Oh ha ha...” with a smile.

It’s the following day but wondering what to text.
I was planning to say “Had a great time with you last night. Still can’t believe you pulled off that strike.. Looking forward to the next time”. (Strike being in bowling).

That okay to send?

 

[Murk]

"when you free next... come to mine I'll cook"

**** your text

 

[CMNILS87]

No, bad text.

Has she texted you back yet? Honestly if it went that well you should’ve asked to set up 2nd right away. I’d send out a text a day or 2 later, no longer than that.

“Hey, I had fun the other night. I’m free in a couple nights, when are you free?”

 

[Bible_Belt]

If it was that great of a date, she'll text you first.

 

[marmel75]

If it was that great of a date, she'll text you first.

Exactly this...guys seem to overplay how "great" the date went in their head. IF it was a great date for her she will text you immediately after you've left her OR you will wake up to a text from her. Anything longer than that means it wasn't as great for her as you thought it was---OR you had the opportunity to get laid because she wanted to fvck and now is unsure of things or you aren't her top choice but she was going to go with it in the moment and you had a chance to become her top choice with a Grade A d!ick down of her and probably blew it)

Wait it out---DO NOT send a text to her today unless she texts you first.

 

[CMNILS87]

Exactly this...guys seem to overplay how "great" the date went in their head. IF it was a great date for her she will text you immediately after you've left her OR you will wake up to a text from her. Anything longer than that means it wasn't as great for her as you thought it was---OR you had the opportunity to get laid because she wanted to fvck and now is unsure of things or you aren't her top choice but she was going to go with it in the momentand you had a chance to become her top choice and probably blew it)

Wait it out---DO NOT send a text to her today unless she texts you first.

Bingo Bango

 

[Thorninmyside]

“Had a great time with you last night. Still can’t believe you pulled off that strike.. Looking forward to the next time”.

Translates to: you're the only thing I've thought about since then.

Resist trigger finger for a while.

 

[lizardking82]

Do not do it. I repeat, do not do it.

 

[dustmuffin]

Wait a few days and ask her out again. Be direct and no extra text bs.

 

[devilkingx2]

“Had a great time with you last night. Still can’t believe you pulled off that strike.. Looking forward to the next time”.

would be funny if you texted that but spelled her name wrong/put the wrong name, that might get your message across without seeming too invested

 

[Mazer]

Be patient. Let her text you. Don’t be a fool, if she is highly interested, she will text you. Almost guaranteed. Every woman who had a great date with me, texted me within one or two days thanking me for a good time.

 

[Rambo92]

She isn’t a big texter though, takes ages to respond or a whole day sometimes. I just take action over words if she’s willing to meet up then that’s okay.

Turns out I got a text last night but I was out myself. I replied this morning.

She said “Yeah it was really fun I am so proud of myself to be honest. I think I'm free next Saturday if that suits you x”

I replied “Yeah, I’m free Saturday. Meet you outside that tram stop I dropped you off at for 6pm? x”

 

[Julian]

trams, bowling, what to text next...


invite that chick over an smash what the f is this

 

[Rambo92]

trams, bowling, what to text next...


invite that chick over an smash what the f is this

We both still live with our parents, otherwise would have invited her over to cook dinner, etc

 

[devilkingx2]

We both still live with our parents, otherwise would have invited her over to cook dinner, etc

Take her camping and smash in the woods

 

[Rambo92]

I ended up sending that the other day and she said she had a fun time too, she said she thinks she's free Saturday if that suits me. I said okay and said to meet outside her tram stop at 6.

9 hours later as I'm tapping on my phone doing other things, she rings but I don't know if I accidentally rejected the call or she had accidentally called me and rang off. She then sent a text saying "Is this another secret date activity? Any chance you could do Friday instead? Don't worry if not x".

I was going to reply to it, but left it a bit and then I used the opportunity to call her, instead of texting.

She picked up and asked who it was, so I mentioned it was myself and that Friday would be ok. She said my number came up as unknown and I said it was probably my phone playing up, no caller id etc. We agreed on 6pm and activity at the tram stop and she confirmed with me it was [insert name of tram stop]. I just used the phone call for logistics in setting up the date and didn't use it to chat. I rounded it off by saying I hope she had a nice day but that I'm going to have to go and do a few jobs so I'll see you there, both said goodbye and I ended the call.

Wish I didn't say the nice day bit, but least I didn't spend ages talking away and just used it to set the date which is what a lot of guys would do.

 

[CMNILS87]

Don’t think about it too much. Just expect she’s seeing other people and you won’t get too attached. Just think she’s on a date Friday with you, she may be on a date with Brad on Weds. Kerp it fun, light hearted, tease her, and go for some sexy time.

Most men fall into the trap that 2-3 dates means she wants to date long term and they start to get needy and text 24/7 and not look busy. This kills all attraction for her towards you. And for Christ sake get an apartment or one with a roomie.

 

[Rambo92]

Don’t think about it too much. Just expect she’s seeing other people and you won’t get too attached. Just think she’s on a date Friday with you, she may be on a date with Brad on Weds. Kerp it fun, light hearted, tease her, and go for some sexy time.

Most men fall into the trap that 2-3 dates means she wants to date long term and they start to get needy and text 24/7 and not look busy. This kills all attraction for her towards you. And for Christ sake get an apartment or one with a roomie.

Cheers dude. In fact I started having that mentality after that text. I'm assuming she's tried to make room for a date with someone on Saturday, hence why I got shifted to Friday. I could be wrong, it could be a family thing or invite from friends but best to think that way.

My aim is to hang out, have fun and hook up on dates. That's all I see a date as and I let the girl do all the emotional, relationship stuff if she wants that. It helps me avoid being "too serious" on dates and putting them off by acting that way, which I'll admit, has been a downfall for me before but I've cut that out. I hate it when girls constantly ask about you over text. Even this one did but I told her to wait until the date.

I'm not perfect. I do get attached too easily than I should, mostly because I don't have the time to date more than one, maybe two girls at ANY time due to work. I always seem to meet a better girl if dating someone fails, so that keeps me going. Fortunately we don't text as much, she seems to take a while to reply which means we're not doing the "getting to know you" **** over text.

I'd move out but I can't really afford it just yet. I've sent an application off for the Police in my country which takes a few months to process so once I get my career set I'll be doing EXACTLY that. Right now I'm a manager of my own store in retail, but I'd rather be settled with the career I want before I get my own place as that's more important to me right now.

 

[Roober]

Sounds like your doing okay so far. But realize that a woman cannot check all your boxes on a first date. Everyone is on their best behavior, including yourself.

 

[Rambo92]

Sounds like your doing okay so far. But realize that a woman cannot check all your boxes on a first date. Everyone is on their best behavior, including yourself.

True. There were a couple of things I picked up on that I didn’t entirely like, but not a major problem. When I was browsing the drinks menu I noticed she was trying to secretly peak at her phone on her lap, however that and when I went to the toilet were the only times she used her phone. I’m assuming she might have text her mum she was staying out late as our date started at half 7 but it was half 11 that point.