H.I. girl turned Flakey L.I. girl

[robert1791]

Ok so I'd like to start this thread by saying that Ive really enjoyed reading every1s threads and replys here, its amazing how alot of people have such similar stories and exps. and how rarely its discussed in the real world...neways

Im pretty new the DJ forums and so like most noobs im currently getting owned by this HB8

I met her about 2 sundays ago at her at her job in a dept store dressing room..I could immediately tell she was into from go lotta smilling laughing @ bad jokes..we started talking about 5 mins in2 the conversation she suggested that I take her number (so im convinced that she moderately interested @ that point) so we exchange numbers I txt her a few hours later something short and funny just to cement who i was the conversation goes on for another hr or 2 jus short banter back and forth with me vaguely suggesting a meet up and her readily agreeing then ending on a high note...the next morning and through out the rest of the week she text me (sumtimes @ 6am) jus to say good morining have a nice day etc. in all our interactions i tried not come across needy or wierd by keeping it short, light, and playful,,,exaggerated role play and opting to save the real heavy stuff for the actual face to face..on that wed. she tells me shes free that weekend and ask me what are my plans,,I tell herpool party and possible meet up with her saturday...so I go no contact thurs unpurposely then Friday night I tried calling after I assumed shed be off work round 10 ( mistake 19 yo girl and its a friday nite) ended up leaving a voicemail( another mistake) no respone no call or text back sat. rolls around and I text her round noon joking about the hangover i had which we text back and forward with me ultimately asking if we were still on for later that day...no response..I go club hopping sat. nite to take my mind off her semi flake..she txt me the nxt day sunday this how it went

her : smh @ u
me: this would be in reference 2? (i clearly kno what she goin to say next)
her: last nite
me: U saw me out or sumthin?
her: Nooooo we were suppose to hang
(A this point im thinkin ***** U DIDNT GET BACK 2 ME TWICE SO I MADE OTHER PLANS)
me: Ima call u as soon as get sumwhere alone
(I was driving and dont like txting while doing so safety 1st )
her: no thats not necessary txt me whenever

I called her she picked up ,i didnt ask for an explaination, didnt come across upset or nething jus told her that i figured sumthing came up with her it wasnt big deal since i made other plans and had a good time Sat. nite and since i was alreadi out in the stores if she wanted join me she could (low pressure invite) she told she was currently @ a family memebers house (which sounded believable due to background noise cuda been a family sunday dinner or sumthin shes part mexican) and that she would be home for another 2 hours to which i relpied "idk 2 hours?" then she said nooooo 1 hour from now ill call or text you i really want to go out with you (those are just words @ this point your actions say otherwise) then proceeds to not contact me...fast forward to thursday after 4 days of no contact i text her jokingly like nothing happened(as always) to which she replies and play along.. convo goes on 4 maybe a hr. before i ask her "hws your wk goin? catch ne1 stealing clothes?" to which she dosent respond..after another 3 days of radio silence she text me this past sunday around 11am "wyd" to which i dnt reply..now its been an additional 2 days of silence and no signs of nething..even tho her hot n cold flakiness has shown me that she not quite gf material i still wanna fck her.. im sure she was interested but I think all of the compliments i gave her bought out the AW in her and all this time without contact is killing tha lil attraction that was left...Im not sure whether i shud chalk this one up move on or try to invite her out (low pressure) one more time and then cut my losses or continue no contact till she bites or
what she still works @ one of my favorite stores so i dont wanna be like awkward if a i go in one day and shes there.

PS after our intial reaction she told me what her 1st perception of me was which was that I came off as player because of the way I looked (im pretty good looking guy in terrific physical shape wasnt really dressed that day because it was a sunday) but when we started talking she said thought i was a "sweetheart" (PHUUUUCK!!!) but she was still unsure about me.

jesus Y the fck r girls so complicated?? they relentlessly ***** and complain abt guys being ****s to them...bt then when one (high quality one comes along who has his **** 2gether and want to do nice by them they turn in2 immature little fckwits that resort to buschleague tactics jus so they can have their egos inflated ... im only 21 but i really dont enjoy these little games bt i do understand at our age there necessary


pps long post thanx for reading..

 

[Pimp-sicle]

about 5 mins in2 the conversation she suggested that I take her number (so im convinced that she moderately interested @ that point

Definitely. She was interested no doubt.

so we exchange numbers I txt her a few hours later something short and funny just to cement who i was the conversation goes on for another hr or 2 jus short banter back and forth with me vaguely suggesting a meet up and her readily agreeing then ending on a high note

Two rookie mistakes here.

1) Its good that you text her shortly there after to keep you fresh in her memory and anchor good thoughts. But bantering on about pointless shiat for another 2 hours?! Not good.

2) Secondly when you want to ask a girl out, make CONCRETE plans, not this vaguely meet up suggestion stuff.

"Hey (girl's name) listen I gotta bounce, but I enjoy talking to you, we should hang out soon, I'm free Wednesday & Thursday next week, which day works best for you?

She chooses day.

"Great lets meet at Phuck My Brains Out off 5th street @8pm.

the next morning and through out the rest of the week she text me (sumtimes @ 6am) jus to say good morining have a nice day etc. in all our interactions i tried not come across needy or wierd by keeping it short, light, and playful,,,exaggerated role play and opting to save the real heavy stuff for the actual face to face

You realize you don't have to reply to every single text a girl sends you right? I'd say 90% of the shiat girl's text is pointless bs anyways. Get in the habit of responding sometimes, not responding others and in general only responding to actual stuff that requires a response.

This does a couple things for you:

1) It elevates your value in her eyes. A girl's imagination is your best friend. Often times if they call you and you don't answer or call back right away, they think your out with another girl. They will obviously not tell you this, but instead it will make you more attractive to them and the next time she does see you, she will be on your nutz more.

2) Shows that your the prize. You want to get to the point where the girl is texting you more often than you are. Subconciously this will make her chase you; people want what they can't have.

on that wed. she tells me shes free that weekend and ask me what are my plans,,I tell herpool party and possible meet up with her saturday

You made the same mistake again here. If you tell me "hey bro, lets hang out Saturday and find some girls."

And I say "Yeah that sounds good, I MIGHT be able to." ---- that's nothing set in stone. It would be up to ME to tell you that I can hang out and then figure out a time/place to meet up.

When she said she wants to hang out this weekend (another sign of high interest) you should've said this:

"yeah I got plans Friday, but I'm free Saturday." --- then be the man and take the lead.

"Lets meet at Just Blow Me off 9th Street @7pm."

She would either accept or decline. If she declines and doesn't offer an alternative day, then you know your wasting your time.

so I go no contact thurs unpurposely then Friday night I tried calling after I assumed shed be off work round 10 ( mistake 19 yo girl and its a friday nite) ended up leaving a voicemail( another mistake) no respone no call or text back sat. rolls around and I text her round noon joking about the hangover i had which we text back and forward with me ultimately asking if we were still on for later that day...no response

You never made concrete plans with her, I know it sounds retarded, but THIS is how women think.

Also women will mirror what you do. So since you went NC on her the few days prior, its not surprising that she did the same to you.

her: Nooooo we were suppose to hang
(A this point im thinkin ***** U DIDNT GET BACK 2 ME TWICE SO I MADE OTHER PLANS)
me: Ima call u as soon as get sumwhere alone
(I was driving and dont like txting while doing so safety 1st )
her: no thats not necessary txt me whenever

LOL! Well she is 19 right? So its not surprising that she is acting like the sour patch kid.

You did good by not calling her out and go all ape shiat over text.

She does sound pretty lame though straight up.

jokingly like nothing happened(as always) to which she replies and play along.. convo goes on 4 maybe a hr.

Waaayyy too long on the phone or to text. I'm not against talking or communicating for over an hour, but don't do that until AFTER you've phucked her; even then I suggest newbies not to do this since they are inexperienced and have a HIGH chance of saying something to shoot themselves in the foot.

jesus Y the fck r girls so complicated?? they relentlessly ***** and complain abt guys being ****s to them...bt then when one (high quality one comes along who has his **** 2gether and want to do nice by them they turn in2 immature little fckwits that resort to buschleague tactics jus so they can have their egos inflated

Look young girls are hugggge game players. Many times they purposely test guys to see if the guy is truly confident or if he simply gives up easily.

If you look at my thoughts above you'll see that you keep making the same two mistakes over and over.

If you want to get to the bottom of this situation, hit her up, have a brief conversation whether its text or live whatever, then ask her out the way I wrote above. Meaning offer up a couple different days you are free, PREFERABLY during the week so she's more likely to be available (unless you know she's more free on the weekend, I still like weekday dates in the beginning) and then have a SPECIFIC TIME & PLACE picked out.

If she says she can't, doesn't offer another day or doesn't respond back to you, then cut her @ss.









PIMP

 

[robert1791]

Thanx man for the feed back...I knew i had made some serious mistakes with the texting when she went from blowin my **** up @ 6 in the morning to not respondin 2 my text occasionally...the whole thing caught me off guard and this is wat happens i guess *smh* ill call her sometime 2morro to make plans since its been abt 5 days and she hasnt tried to contact me other than txt if she agrees then we on ..if she gives me an excuse or dosent respond in a reasonable amount of time...tht ***** is nxted

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Since you guys haven't talked in 4-5 days, break it up into two parts.

-Your first goal should be to re-establish contact; get her chatting with you again whether that's through text, phone, FB whatever.

-If she is receptive and being flirty back to you, then set something up and get off the phone.

One other tip I forgot to mention is try to not set up plans too far in advance. If I want to chill with a girl, I will usually call her up a day or two before to set things up.

If you call 4-5 days in advance, unless the girl is super on your sack, she will likely flake.






PIMP

 

[robert1791]

well 2morro is wed. and we both have school and a part time..

I think ill reintiate through txt tomorrow and if i get gud vibes ill try 2 set sumthin up thurs. for fri. or sat. nite

 

[Greasy Pig]

On fire, Pimp-sicle. Solid advice.

Yeah OP, I've had this happen before and it was because I think the girl was mirroring my actions.
I now know that you have to make concrete plans with specific times, dates, locations etc. Make it impossible for there to be any confusion.

Be direct in your communication and don't be afraid to show interest.

If you act lukewarm (as in too lukewarm), she's likely to interpret that as low IL and she'll be afraid to put herself out there.
Keep everything in balance, push/pull etc.

 

[abbey sha]

I think this all information is correct very useful for me.

 

[abbey sha]

I think the all information is very useful for me.Thank you for giving information.

 

[robert1791]

yea bro learn 4rm my mistakes..i think itll work itself out. if not... im young and in college plenty of bat **** crazy 1s to find lol

 

[abbey sha]

You will young and crazy every day you should do practice well.

 

[flashpoint]

"she tells me shes free that weekend and ask me what are my plans" - just for the future, this is a girl asking you out. you really will not get any more of an invitation than that. add to that that she wanted your number first, so ... whats with the hesitation? ok so she thinks your are sweet or whatever, main thing is she found you HOT and WANTED you. this is something to be learnt too, to simply take what is given to you. and of course being observant and receptive for that.

somehow you managed to propell yourself into her orbit. well no problem. get your ass back there, dont give a **** and do your thing. your thing being, to KNOW she is 100% into you and that there NOTHING to be afraid of. and i am pretty sure you need to do that now in person, 2 weeks not seeing each other makes your impression on her pretty blurry. add to that lame text and convo game, and i can see the next "flake" coming. YOUR DA MAN. accept it. embrace it. this chick is yours. go get her.

 

[Purefilth]

Good stuff pimpsicle