Gym sarges go awry

[Latinoman]

And the problem with this, exactly, is. . . ?

A "slut" would phuck anyone. So, no need for "dj" skills there. But more importantly...you could have accomplished the same at the comfort of your own home or office...all you needed was a computer...an internet provider...and a MySpace account.

 

[Latinoman]

Are you saying that the only girls worth picking up on are the nose-in-the-air, KKG types? Good luck with that. The brightwork's nice but the maintenance will kill ya. By your argument, a pickup shouldn't really count unless it's at a Jehovah's Witness potluck.

I didn't say that. All I'm saying is that I would have accomplished the same by clicking on my mouse at my home. In another words...you picked a girl that ANYONE could have picked with an Internet provided.

So no offense, but I don't understand what I missed. I'll be phucking, tonight. Mission, as they say, accomplished.

Really? I say you won't be doing ANYTHING tonight but to be buying cow-girl a few drinks. You know...you didn't even kiss her or touch her. So...seriously doubt you will be doing some "phucking". But then again, slutty girl might give you some.

. . . just as she used her 36D's. We've all got our arsenal. :trouble:

So, you admit that the reason you are getting a date is because she CONTROLLED the entire situation. See the difference between a "dj" and a guy that get AFC around?

 

[Latinoman]

But you didn't. I'm going out with her tonight. You're not.

I don't have too...nor want too. I already have a woman. Men like me ALWAYS do.

Apparently not. Otherwise, she'd be out with someone else tonight.

Maybe she will...before or after you. Some women are into that stuff.

We're having a glass of wine on my sailboat around sunset, if you want to count that as buying her a drink. I told her I'll be "working on it all afternoon." I think I've got a lock on this one.

Now...sailboat is a good thing to have. I will give you kudos for that.

At the gym? True enough.

Well...I was just busting balls. I would not have kissed her there either.

No, she made the first move and wanted to see if I was man enough to do anything other than stare. It was a power play, AW move on her part, and I turned it around. I think an AFC would've been happy for the view, gone home, and jacked it.

I have dealt with similar women like that in the past. In fact, one even asked me if I wanted to go to her place. I turned her down. Nothing to do with being an AFC or even a DJ. More to do with taste and having several options.

I guess you had to be there. And you're missing my point. My point is, if a girl is interested in getting picked up at the gym, she'll make it pretty fvcking obvious. Otherwise, you're just being an uppity schmuck interrupting her workout.

I will agree with this 100%. I hope you had fun last night. Even if you didn't get to phuck her. At least you are with the company of a woman. One that can probably run the word to others (word of mouth is great advertisement too...).

 

[Latinoman]

The sailboat is IMO the single best prop a guy can have. It helps to know how to sail, but 90% of the time I use the boat, I never leave my slip. I bought an old Columbia 40 sloop, fiberglass hull with mahogany accents, for pennies a few years ago -- it had had a fire in the galley and needed a new interior, and the owner was dumping it. I pimped it hard: 5.1 surround, modern galley with stainless fixtures and a wine rack, huge hot water heater, filtered tap water, comfy furniture, reworked all the interior trim -- and I maintain it meticulously. I think of it as having 80 feet of waterfront property for the price of a good used car. I don't live aboard, but I spend a lot of time on it. Since it's an old boat, I can always be "working on it," which keeps it looking nice, as well. A bottle of wine, some jazz on the stereo, a sunset. . . .

I'm glad things went well. And sorry if I was a little "tough". You took it well and that's the advantage of posting in a mature board.

We are pretty much the same age.

Hey...do you live in a water front property? Can you explain what do you mean with "I think of it as having 80 feet of waterfront property for the price of a good used car."?

How do you learn how to sail?

I commented that I would not mind buying a boat in the future. I have property near a lake area (no water front).

 

[Latinoman]

There are usually sailing clubs in every city. Lessons run a couple hundred bucks a month. Start with a dinghy and work your way up. If you learn to handle a dinghy in high wind, you can handle up to a 50' boat single-handedly.

My father was a boatbuilder -- our family business was custom fabrication and blue-water refit, which means getting a boat ready for ocean-going. I grew up around sailboats of all sizes, and I've quite literally been sailing since I was born. I worked as his shop manager for a few years when I first got out of college, and I recently bought in and became a part-owner.

I live on the west coast in a major city, in a downtown condo that's not near the water. Well, half a mile or so, but you can't see the water from my place. Owning a boat seemed like a way to get property "on the water" for cheap, and to have a unique babe lair: everybody has a nice car, everyone has a ski-doo. A lot of people around here have little 25', 400-hp Bayliners for water-skiing. But nobody I know (of my bar-going peers, anyway) has a big sailboat pimped out with a sunset view. 40' of water on each side of the boat = 80' of waterfront, which will set you back a half mil in this area. I picked up my boat -- totally gutted -- for free and put about twelve grand into it, but I did all the work myself. It would've been a $50,000 refit. But fifty large is still not a bad deal for a trick 40' yacht that's ocean-ready. I pay about $300 a month in moorage & insurance.

Thanks for the info!

 

[Yorgho]

Back to picking up girls in the gym.


Don't do that. It's not polite.

You have to understand a woman's mindset on being hit at when she's at the gym.

1. She's wearing "gym" clothes and doesn't feel attractive. No, it doesn't matter if you think she's smoking hot, she doesn't feel that way. This automatically makes them uncomfortable.

2. The gym is a place to work out, not a place to socialize. If you're the person hitting on girls at the gym, it's guaranteed that everyone is watching you and making fun of you due to your lameness. To many people the gym is a sanctuary where they can go and let stress out.

3. Hitting on girls at the gym SHOWS that you have no respect for their private space. Which is exactly why many of them are so difficult to talk to in the gym. Like I said, they feel gross. They are dressed in gym clothes, they're sweaty, tired and wishing they were as fit as that *other* hottie walking around the gym. When you come in and hit on them, you violate all those feelings and makes for extra hard pick ups. And it's not very nice to make someone feel awkward at the gym. They pay to be there, and to make them feel as if they have to reschedule their gym time or switch gyms because they're afriad of "the creep who won't stop chasing me".


Anyway, that's my opinion on the matter.

 

[drZaius09]

OK; let me re-phrase. I'm not saying you're AFC, but I am saying that's very non-PUA type thinking.

I agree. It's not AFC, and it's not PUA either. But here's the kicker-- I would never describe myself as a "PUA." Gasp!

Yes, it's true. I'm not a PUA... what I am is a manager. What I am is a home, car, and boat owner. What I am is a football fan. What I am is a movie buff. What I am is a writer. What I am is a pot smoker. In fact, I'm a lot of things. Sure, I love to pull a$$ just as much as the next guy (and it can be surprisingly easy even without disrespecting someone's time), but it doesn't CONSUME my life to the point where I define myself by it. I don't call myself a "pick-up artist." I don't live through my days focusing on every possible semblance of an opportunity to conquer vagina. Hey, vagina is great, don't get me wrong. But don't you feel sometimes that vagina is the real captain of this (your) ship? This is not an attack, its an honest question.

 

[SoCalMike]

Do women want to be hit on at the grocery store?

Do women want to be hit on at work?

At the dentist's office?

At church?

Some do. Some don't. I DON'T CARE. It's not my job to know these things.

They wouldn't work out with men, and they wouldn't dress like semi-sluts.

Yeah, and imagine this situation - recently single girl who is lonely or horny. She goes to the gym. Some good looking guy starts talking to her. Do you think she's gonna be pissed?

The main reason I don't try to pick up women at the gym is if I get shot down and we're both regulars. In that case I'm going to have to see her alot and that's awkward.

But I have seen other guys chatting up girls, and the girls often seem to like it judging by the way they respond with smiling, eye contact, and keno.

Like I said, it depends on the situation. You can usually tell when a girl doesn't want to be bothered (headphones on, scowling, etc.).

 

[Latinoman]

Yeah, and imagine this situation - recently single girl who is lonely or horny. She goes to the gym. Some good looking guy starts talking to her. Do you think she's gonna be pissed?

The main reason I don't try to pick up women at the gym is if I get shot down and we're both regulars. In that case I'm going to have to see her alot and that's awkward.

But I have seen other guys chatting up girls, and the girls often seem to like it judging by the way they respond with smiling, eye contact, and keno.

Like I said, it depends on the situation. You can usually tell when a girl doesn't want to be bothered (headphones on, scowling, etc.).

MY perspective is this...I like to focus in my work out. Plenty of venues for puzzy out there. But only one place and time where I can do a proper weight lifting work out.

 

[bauer_23]

I agree with both sides of the argument to an extent. Espi claims that no opportunity should be squandered, and I completely buy that. How should one differentiate potential venues to pick up women if you have a chance to do it.

on the other hand, I do not go to the gym " to meet women". Like many, I am pretty serious about my workout, and sports. its not to say I won't take time out to talk to some friends, help with spots, or just have some fun, but for the most part I am plugged into my Ipod working out. However, should a good opportunity present itself, i would have no reservations going for it.

Problem is I wouldn’t go for it unless I was pretty sure there was some interest. Imagine if going to the gym 5 days a week seeing the same person you hit on. That would just get awkward for you, them or both.