I know we have discussed this before; but getting women at the gym is not an easy feat. I am referring to the open gym floor, not classes.
First off, most women have earbuds in when they are working out and the guy to girl ratio seems to be about 5 to 1 (horrible odds)
So, how do you go about getting a particular woman's attention that you have your eye on and perhaps start a conversation.
I think gym pickup is alot different than bar/club pickup where you are expected to be direct .
Let's discuss what NOT to do:
1.) Try and avoid staring at her (either directly or through the mirror) or constantly looking around the gym to see where she is. Even though women are dressed in scant clothing and look sexy, I think they are self-conscious since they are all sweaty.
2.) Don't approach her and give her workout advice (they hate that)
3.) Do NOT follow her around the gym. It doesn't matter whether she finds you attractive or not, you will probably creep her out by doing this.
4.) In reference to the above, do YOUR OWN THING. Don't modify your workout just to be in her proximity.
Remember, women have a sixth sense to this stuff and easily pick up on men that are "creeping" on them.
Let's discuss WHAT to do:
1.) If the object of your desire is coming towards you, try and make eye contact and smile. You don't have to talk to her right away since you will more than likely see her again.
2.) As I mentioned above in #4, do your own thing. If she is attracted to you, her attraction for you will probably increase if you seem like you are in your own world and indifferent.
3.) Pay attention to her proximity! If a woman at the gym likes you; I believe 100% she will put HERSELF near you and hope that you will make eye contact with her and perhaps start a conversation with her. It's still up to the man to pick on her vibe and initiate conversation.
Remember, a guy putting himself in a woman's proximity a few times will probably turn her off.
If an attractive woman seemed like she was following you around, would you be turned off? No, not at all, since attraction for men and women works different.
I think it easy to think and believe by taking a more indifferent passive approach we are afraid the women might think we are shy and unconfident. We think we have to chase her around the gym trying to get her attention. However, I don't believe this is the case.
First off, most women have earbuds in when they are working out and the guy to girl ratio seems to be about 5 to 1 (horrible odds)
So, how do you go about getting a particular woman's attention that you have your eye on and perhaps start a conversation.
I think gym pickup is alot different than bar/club pickup where you are expected to be direct .
Let's discuss what NOT to do:
1.) Try and avoid staring at her (either directly or through the mirror) or constantly looking around the gym to see where she is. Even though women are dressed in scant clothing and look sexy, I think they are self-conscious since they are all sweaty.
2.) Don't approach her and give her workout advice (they hate that)
3.) Do NOT follow her around the gym. It doesn't matter whether she finds you attractive or not, you will probably creep her out by doing this.
4.) In reference to the above, do YOUR OWN THING. Don't modify your workout just to be in her proximity.
Remember, women have a sixth sense to this stuff and easily pick up on men that are "creeping" on them.
Let's discuss WHAT to do:
1.) If the object of your desire is coming towards you, try and make eye contact and smile. You don't have to talk to her right away since you will more than likely see her again.
2.) As I mentioned above in #4, do your own thing. If she is attracted to you, her attraction for you will probably increase if you seem like you are in your own world and indifferent.
3.) Pay attention to her proximity! If a woman at the gym likes you; I believe 100% she will put HERSELF near you and hope that you will make eye contact with her and perhaps start a conversation with her. It's still up to the man to pick on her vibe and initiate conversation.
Remember, a guy putting himself in a woman's proximity a few times will probably turn her off.
If an attractive woman seemed like she was following you around, would you be turned off? No, not at all, since attraction for men and women works different.
I think it easy to think and believe by taking a more indifferent passive approach we are afraid the women might think we are shy and unconfident. We think we have to chase her around the gym trying to get her attention. However, I don't believe this is the case.
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