Gym Approach Resulted In Sex.. But

[soulforge]

So I'm in the gym pretty much five times a week, and have been so for many decades.

My routine is usually pure focus on training with my headphones on, and I avoid conversation with pretty much everyone.

However.. Last Saturday this Asian chick walks in and begins training near me.

Attractive face, solid body, petite, toned and beautiful brown tanned skin.. Anyhow I never ever talk to girls in the gym, but on this occasion I thought to myself.. What the hell, why not (I'm very confident with cold approach outside of the gym)

Approached her, began a conversation about her routine, she asked me for training tips etc.. had a little laugh with her, and I moved onto asking for her number. She seemed very eager to give me her number (no hesitation at all)

Long story short.. after a little text conversation, I arranged to meet her this gone Saturday night for some drinks.

Turns out she is 26 years old (I'm age 46)

We end up drinking at several bars, the night ends with her at my place and we end up ****in.

Since that night we have texted a couple of times back and forth.. but I haven't reached out for another date.. neither has she reached out for another date.

My assessment of the night is, overall it was good. We had a laugh, she told me several times that she likes me, she mentioned that she doesn't want to have a casual relationship, she wants more like something meaningful.

Anyway.. Considering we have smashed once, do you think I should reach out and asked her for another meet?

I'm getting medium interest level vibes off her.

The way I see it is, she will either accept the invite or make some excuses not to meet.

Who cares either way?

Plenty more females outhere.

 

[CornbreadFed]

You got sex, take the dub and move on

 

[Pumax]

Imagine if you had kept your headphones on and never opened her.


That's why it's important to always come up with something to say to someone.
Do it right away, without overthinking it.

 

[soulforge]

Imagine if you had kept your headphones on and never opened her.


That's why it's important to always come up with something to say to someone.
Do it right away, without overthinking it.

Yeh I think a thirty second rule is important.

I tend to move in quickly, as if I begin to ponder the situation, often it can lead to over analysing and bailing out of the approach.

The key is to move in quick.

It's also a good idea to stop wearing headphones in the gym, if you're intentions are to approach chicks.

 

[Barrister]

Do what you want. Guys get in trouble when you over-analyze. If you want to text her - text her. She is probably waiting on it.

Guys also get in trouble when a chick is showing high-level interest and they start trying to follow silly rules to appear aloof. If you are legitimately busy - sure. But don't not talk to her if you like her. It sounds like she is in to you. I would reach out and set something else up.

And to be clear, I am not advocating to fall head over heels in love or start spamming her nonstop. Just be smart but don't trip yourself up here.

 

[SW15]

It is impressive that you had an approach in the gym, set up a first date for drinks at bars, and ended up having first date sex.

She's 20 years younger too, which a lot of men in the 40-50 year old range find appealing.

Why have multiple days passed without you offering a 2nd date? What's your own interest level?

I get the sense that she's responding in kind to your interest level. You haven't been leading with a strong interest level. A guy with strong interest would have made plans within 2-3 days of the sex.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Why do people overthink things?

Stop playing games and ask her out again if that's what you want.

 

[CornbreadFed]

Why do people overthink things?

Stop playing games and ask her out again if that's what you want.

exactly, it makes me question a lot.

 

[Isildur1]

you actually approached one woman during the day that already puts you in the top 0.1 percent of sosuave congratulations.

 

[soulforge]

It is impressive that you had an approach in the gym, set up a first date for drinks at bars, and ended up having first date sex.

She's 20 years younger too, which a lot of men in the 40-50 year old range find appealing.

Why have multiple days passed without you offering a 2nd date? What's your own interest level?

I get the sense that she's responding in kind to your interest level. You haven't been leading with a strong interest level. A guy with strong interest would have made plans within 2-3 days of the sex.

I didn't want to come across as too keen, by immediately asking for another date.

However, I kept the conversation and some flirting going. I'm also aware that she studies and works during the week.. therefore kinda put it off a little.

I will reach out tonight and see if she wants to meet.. if not.. oh well.. another approach in the gym is over due.

 

[SW15]

I didn't want to come across as too keen, by immediately asking for another date.

I think a common mistake is that a lot of guys play it "too cool" now. They let too much time lapse and the female loses interest. Attraction has an expiration date, particularly in the early stages of an interaction. Women have abundance, especially when they use apps and social media. Even a woman who isn't using swipe apps will still have other males pursuing (fewer than app users).

Let's see what happens when 2nd date offer now. If nothing, you take the W on the first date sex and move on.

 

[corrector]

She is Asian and you are White, you own her.

 

[CornbreadFed]

She is Asian and you are White, you own her.

it’s a cheat code lol

 

[Divorced w 3]

I love this. Way to go OP

 

[corrector]

it’s a cheat code lol

Exactly. These type of women tend to have high interest. Dont know why the OP is overthinking. He literally can do no wrong. This girl probably worships him and is wondering why he has not called back already.

 

[CornbreadFed]

Exactly. These type of women tend to have high interest. Dont know why the OP is overthinking. He literally can do no wrong. This girl probably worships him and is wondering why he has not called back already.

on the contrary, she could be like this to every other white guy she meets, and OP be easily forgotten.

 

[soulforge]

Exactly. These type of women tend to have high interest. Dont know why the OP is overthinking. He literally can do no wrong. This girl probably worships him and is wondering why he has not called back already.

Haha the only reason why I didn't reach out immediately for another date is, due to the fact that, while I was on the date with her, she mentioned her studies next week and having to work alot that week too (busy) She was dreading the schedule.

However I have stayed intouch with her, and intend to pin something down date wise.

 

[CornbreadFed]

Haha the only reason why I didn't reach out immediately for another date is, due to the fact that, while I was on the date with her, she mentioned her studies next week and having to work alot that week too (busy) She was dreading the schedule.

However I have stayed intouch with her, and intend to pin something down date wise.

Just ask her out and if it fails take the dub and move on. If it works then proceed.

 

[soulforge]

on the contrary, she could be like this to every other white guy she meets, and OP be easily forgotten.

That's possible too

Just ask her out and if it fails take the dub and move on. If it works then proceed.

Yeh that's how I see it.. I already smashed with minimum effort, at this stage she is either onboard or she isn't..

 

[corrector]

on the contrary, she could be like this to every other white guy she meets, and OP be easily forgotten.

He still initiated with her. That puts him ahead of the bell curve. Other white guys might be in relationships already (ie and not available for her), they might be spoiled through dating apps and dread cold approaching, they may be only wanting to deal with white women, or they have an easier time getting different women and may not focus on her in particular, etc...). But you do have a point that some places, where there is allot of simpy white beta males going after easier Asian women, tend to ruin the sexual market place in those areas, then you wonder why these same women start to develop attitudes. For example, instead of the rock star treatment they once received, they just have a slightly better experience compared to the home country...but that is another discussion for another thread.