Guys that knew you growing up throwing themselves at the girl you're with, advice?

[Ambitious Player]

This has happened to me in the past before and I want to know how I can deal with this. About a few months ago when I was dating this a girl who was good looking, I went to a restaurant with her. This one guy who knew me growing up saw me with the girl and tried to start a conversation with me. Not trying to be rude I casually ask him how he is and then go inside with my girlfriend.

Now me and this guy weren't friends by any means. He would just call me names and try to mock me but I ignored it growing up, the guy could never get himself to physically bully me because I was larger than him.

Well then as I am sitting down enjoying lunch with my girlfriend this guy pulls up a chair and starts trying to get in on our conversation. Again we kind of play it off and don't get confrontational. As soon as we start to ignore him he keeps trying to throw himself into the conversation, the guy doesn't leave. Then he starts hitting on my girlfriend right in front of me and I try to change the topic and just talk to her. The two of us are talking to each other and trying to ignore him but this guy does not get the message.

Now my girlfriend at the time is a sweet person so she tries not to call him out on anything, nods and smiles to everything he does.

Soon I get a text from my girlfriend who is sitting right across from me which says "can you tell him to leave!?".

The guy still won't back off so I tell him that I need some personal time with my girlfriend. Well he still doesn't get the message, laughs, and then starts asking her personal questions. I then say "come on man, really? Whats the matter here? You call me a million names growing up and now you act like we're brothers?".

So the guy laughs it off and keeps trying to hit on her. My girlfriend looks at him and finally says "I have a boyfriend, please leave us alone". You would think this does the trick but then the guy still won't back off. He just says "oooo a bit of resistance here, its all good!". Keeps trying to hit on her and then finally we decide to get our food to go and leave.

Now I notice this a lot with guys with urban upbringings (regardless of their race). I don't see it with guys from the suburbs or guys from the country but mainly guys from poor neighborhoods in major cities who try to fit the whole thug rap stereotype. In my situation the guy was a Latino kid from the projects who didn't get the message.

So what does a man do in a situation like that?

 

[jester1x]

He was just trying to punk you in front of your girlfriend and in public...trying to show "Alpha Male" dominance. (It appears he is still the Bully you remember during your school days.) Probably hoping he would score some points and possibly a phone number from your girl.

Sounds like you have a good woman by your side. Unfortunately, some women do fall for this type of lame BS. I would describe it as being drawn into a "C**k Fighting" match. Yes, it means that too.

It may sound rather lame but I'd avoid the place while your "buddy" still works there. A weak move...well, yeah but I believe in avoiding drama when you can see it coming.

If a woman does fall for this type of behavior then she's not a keeper. Better you find that out early in the game.

 

[RagingBalls]

Settle the score with that

Bluto doesn't get the message because he's doing it on purpose. He's hitting your girl right in front of your face because he disrespects your manhood.

Upon seeing the redflag on his actions that very moment she hits your gf, you shoudl've stand up and tell Bluto straight in his freakin face loud and clear to leave you both alone and let him see right in your eyes how serious you are.

And if he still continues to be an uninvited a-hole pestering you and your girl, Since you had a bad history with him already, it's time to finally kill fire with fire. His disrespectful antics must end right there. I don't condone resorting to physical confrontation as much as possible but this situation calls for a major azz-kicking payback because he's getting what he's asking for. You will not tolerate any disrespect by any man to your manhood esp right infront of your girl. Much less hit her right infront of you. It will be a bonus that your girl knew you are man who can resort to whatever means possible to protect someone he cares for.

Time to settle whatever issues he had with you once and for all


OP, There has been a similar post like yours here before. Kindly check it out:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/archive/index.php/t-20574.html

Cheers!

 

[Ambitious Player]

Wait, most of the times girls end up falling for this kind of stuff and going for the guy hitting on them when they are with their boyfriends?

 

[Sofomore]

If you look weak in front of your girlfriend in these sorts of situations she will no longer respect you. You need to tell the guy to fvck off. She probably won't go for him but she will seriously reconsider how much of a man you are.

 

[Mike32ct]

You might find this thread interesting...

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=196445&highlight=manager

This guy gets bullied while on a date, and his woman gets all turned off.

 

[VikingKing]

You should just say in front of your girl and the guy "Aww how cute, some body has a crush." Then wink and smile. CF

Or, say " Man, I think it's a turn off for women when you act desperate."

Thats my opinion, not sure if the 2nd one would work very well, but hey it almost doesn't matter what you say, its more about how you say it in combination with you facial expressions and other body language.