Guys: should I destroy this girl's contact info

[Kal0051]

Had a girl reject me recently. She was subtly hinting and I got it but I thought I'd be her friend and see if she'd hook me up with any of her friends. Anyway I asked her to hang out and go see my friend's concert (as friends, though I didn't say this exactly) and I guess she thought I was still pursuing her. So she told me she didn't think it be a good idea for us to hang out.

Ok, so to clear things up I asked if she would ever want to hang out. All she said was sorry. No problem I thought, I told her it's all right (I didn't want her to think she hurt my feelings, mainly because she didn't) but I just needed to know because now I don't really need her contact info. She didn't seem to like this idea, said it was too dramatic and final (well, it's definitely final, but if she doesn't ever want to hang out there's really no point to have her contact info). She goes on to say that she'll still talk to me but just not hang out (say what??). I said fine just because I didn't want her to make a big deal about it. We said bye at that time and got off the phone.

Now here's my question: should I destroy this girl's contact info (phone #, facebook). I was thinking about giving it a month with the #, and if we don't talk in that time I'd just delete it. I'm not sure what to do about the facebook though. Anyway give me your opinion on this situation. Keep in mind, most of the time when a girl rejects me I do keep her info mainly because we become friends (there are a few exceptions but whatever). Thanks.

 

[NewAndImproved]

Not to sound mean but you know you're on the wrong track when you're going through logistics like this. Even worse, you went through the logistics with HER. How awkward. At the end of the day, she rejected you. Keep the number, delete the number, keep her on facebook, delete her...It doesn't really matter. Just decide on your own and move on.

 

[TheCzar]

I think this is pretty straight forward, just toss it out. If at some point she reaches out to you, you're too busy with all your other friends. She gave you a clear sign of 'not interested' so why should you be?

TC

 

[Kal0051]

Not to sound mean but you know you're on the wrong track when you're going through logistics like this. Even worse, you went through the logistics with HER. How awkward. At the end of the day, she rejected you. Keep the number, delete the number, keep her on facebook, delete her...It doesn't really matter. Just decide on your own and move on.

I was just looking for opinions. It's not like it's gonna make any difference in the end.

I think this is pretty straight forward, just toss it out. If at some point she reaches out to you, you're too busy with all your other friends. She gave you a clear sign of 'not interested' so why should you be?

I know she's not interested and I'm fine with that. When I met her she acted like she wanted to be friends, so I'm cool with being her friend (could always use more friends, plus she's the center of her own social circle).

 

[WaRpEd]

Oh my where do I start.

Let's keep it simple.

Yes you should cut off contact and move on. :yes:

 

[r0cky]

Yea keep her # and chase her tail until she gives in.
Right.

 

[WaRpEd]

-accidental duplicate post-

 

[ohsnap]

She actually told you "we shouldn't hang out"? lol?? I've heard of being LJBFd but this is ridiculous.

Delete her contact info and forget about her asap.

 

[Kal0051]

Yea keep her # and chase her tail until she gives in.
Right.

yeah right, I'm sure to do this. Who do you think I am. She's not interested; I sure as hell don't have onitis, so what would this accomplish. All I wanted to know was would blocking her on fb and deleting her number be immature. And I wanted to know what the right move would be in this situation, but not so she'll change her mind about me (there are other girls, right?).

She actually told you "we shouldn't hang out"? lol?? I've heard of being LJBFd but this is ridiculous.

Ya, I know.

 

[r0cky]

She actually told you "we shouldn't hang out"? lol?? I've heard of being LJBFd but this is ridiculous.

Delete her contact info and forget about her asap.

Thats what I was thinking. How screwed up must your game be for a girl to actually say that to you?

 

[TheCzar]

Look, here's the deal -- you have a control issue on hand and successfully she's taken the upper-hand. You don't see it, but she's controlling you right now, otherwise you'd have burned that phone # and moved on already instead of still thinking about it.

Do you want a friend that basically doesn't want to BE SEEN WITH YOU?? How does that give you any even footing with her inner circle? Doesn't that kinda poison the well from the get go? Or, are you thinking 'once they know me they'll like me' -- sorry, doesn't work that way. Let say your in a situation around her and her friends, you want her rolling her eyes when your back is turned....*AFC*

What everyone is saying here is true.... doesn't matter if its a 'friend' status your seeking, a LTR, or a date to close the deal. She gave you the brush off and that's not someone I'd want in my circle, life is too short, and there are too many good ones out there to waste the time.

TC

 

[Kal0051]

Look, here's the deal -- you have a control issue on hand and successfully she's taken the upper-hand. You don't see it, but she's controlling you right now, otherwise you'd have burned that phone # and moved on already instead of still thinking about it.

Do you want a friend that basically doesn't want to BE SEEN WITH YOU?? How does that give you any even footing with her inner circle? Doesn't that kinda poison the well from the get go? Or, are you thinking 'once they know me they'll like me' -- sorry, doesn't work that way. Let say your in a situation around her and her friends, you want her rolling her eyes when your back is turned....*AFC*

What everyone is saying here is true.... doesn't matter if its a 'friend' status your seeking, a LTR, or a date to close the deal. She gave you the brush off and that's not someone I'd want in my circle, life is too short, and there are too many good ones out there to waste the time.

TC

yeah, that's why I was thinking about cutting off any contact between us. Thanks, I've already deleted her number and blocked her on facebook.