>>No one is saying that you are not an intelligent, independent, and interesting woman. The reason why it is 'Pick on Wyldfire' everyday not because what you say is bad (it is often good and we're glad you're here), it is the style and attitude that envelopes that knowledge. Look at how you broadbrushed this entire site with a few *conclusions* you had from a few posts. Obviously Wyldfire is right and everyone else is wrong! This is the attitude we're seeing. So obviously people are going to pick on you.<<
I come across that way because I am both exceedingly confident (admittedly bordering on conceit) and I will only argue the side of an issue that I firmly believe in. It's not about "right" or "wrong"...it's about how we all see things based on our own personal reality. I actually rather enjoy a good debate, so the "picking" doesn't bother me in the least. I enjoy mental stimulation more than anything.
>>And I agree with that! Except that the 'motherly' type (the women seeking motherhood) is only a side of a spectrum; there is the prostitute type (and all women have some place on it). I agree that females DO react to the males... but the reason why is very black. I don't think your psychology would even dare the answer.<<
Women react to men because that's how women were "made". God didn't present Eve unto Adam for her to not desire to please him. Men and women instinctively and naturally are intended to compliment each other. The relations between the sexes are so screwed up because modern society started messing with things it never should have messed with. Now women feel the need to compete with rather than copliment men. That's why this site exists, afterall. But at the same time, those instincts are still there. If it weren't everyone would be gay. The craving to be wanted, needed and compliment each other is still there, buried deep beneath all that society has taught us that we should think and feel.
>>Also, an LTR forum might be redundant since much of the advice satisfies problems in both 'honeymoon' stages and LTRs.<<
I don't feel it does. More experienced DJs are often saying that the methods discussed here have to be adjusted as time goes on. That's true. Because of that and the general consensus that the advice to neewbies should be generic, mixing the advice has the potential to confuse some people. In addition to this, if someone is struggling in a realationship they feel is worth the effort to maintain and need advice, they should have access to it. The people who aren't interested in those topics shouldn't have to read them if they don't want to. And most importantly...the ones who post the questions should be able to get the kind of advice they are looking for without having to read through an argument or listen to others say they don't have an interest in LTRs.
>>I wouldn't call it shallow on either side; there are reasons. And I wouldn't call it physical appearance, it is more of a persona women are attracted to. The physical appearance is just a consequence.<<
I can't speak for all women on this, but I will say that I'm pretty certain I'm with the majority of women on this one...
The physical attraction being present is the gateway to finding the persona attractive. The physical opens the door to the mental and emotional...or barricades it, depending on the situation. So, the physical comes first...and it a man passes that facet of the attraction, the woman looks next at his persona.
>>Let's put your 'psychology' wisdom to work. Why is it when asked of women, "What is the most beautiful personality?" they point to the most beautiful (physically) male? (I have my own answer. I want to see if yours match.)<<
This both human nature/survival of the species and sociology. She subconsciously wants to pass along the best possible genes to her offspring because it will make survival for those offspring more likely and easier. From a sociological standpoint...attractive people have life much easier. They have a better chance in life to succeed. Everyone wants to succeed...when she looks at the most visually pleasing man she subconsciously knows that more opportunities will come his way and his lot in life will be easier. As a result she will find him more attractive...yes, even before actually knowing him.
>>There are more wonders and marvels found in nature then ever dreamed of in your psychology.<<
Psychology is actually (at least in my opinion) the study of human nature. This is especially true of Behavioral Psychology.
>>Personally, I don't think psychology is worth a damn in understanding human nature mostly due to it being placed on erroneous premises. Remember, psychology was invented so people could freely talk about sex openly in the Victorian Period (its true!).<<
See my comment to the last paragraph.
>>Most women think this.<<
I know this. There have been far too many examples throughout my life to support what I'm claiming for it to be my imagination. It's a bit of a gift, if you will.
>>Then I wish you could meet me in person and psychoanalyze me for my lady friends cannot.<<
It's not what I'd call psychoanalyzing. It's more a case of listening to a person's problem and being able to see quite clearly what they feel, think, what led them to behave a certain way. You could call it more of a very inuitive and perceptive view and understanding of the pain and fears of others. It's not something I do to try to "figure" people out. It's something I just see when someone is in pain or afraid and I try to help them.
>>For some reason, I frustrate their 'behavior analyzations'.<<
Perhaps they just are more frustrated with their sub par manipulation skills and womanly wiles?
>>They are attracted to Pook but da Pook got better things to do today than play with women, so they hope Pook is gay.<<
Well of course they do. It's either that or face the fact that they just aren't woman enough to give you reason to want to spend time with them.
>>But Pook isn't gay and it frustrates them (women demand value. When a man isn't pursuing women, women will forever mock it since the man is not giving value to THEIR existance).<<
Pook, you have to expect that some people are going to make the assumption that you're gay. You ARE able to understand and relate to women far better than most men can. Quite often those men are gay (or just fed up with how screwed up women are in today's society). The majority of women today think the world (and men) owe them something. They expect to have everything handed to them without putting forth any effort. I'll bet you're pretty old fashioned and a bit of a romantic. Who cares what other people think as long as you love the person staring at you in the mirror.
>>It's as if women can't believe that a man would engage in a form of self-improvement over women!<<
Unfortunately, you're right there. Too many people don't realize that your first and deepest love should always be self love. You build yourself and find your happiness through you. Then, perhaps you'll be fortunate enough to find a person who compliments who you already are, whose presence makes things even nicer and more enjoyable. But if you don't...it's no big deal because you wisely spent your life to please yourself rather than chasing after the chance to try to please someone else in hopes they would provide the happiness you should have been providing for yourself all along.
When were you born? I can tell you all kinds of things about your personality if you're up to putting astrology to the test. It'll take some time, though. If you are curious but don't want it posted let me know and I'll do a chart for you through e-mail.
