Guys messing up dates

Cinamon

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Having received so much valuable insight from these discussion forums, i feel I owe something back, so I am going to list some of the things that I have experienced in my dating life that are a huge no no.

1. No amount of deodrant will ever be able to cover up the smell of bodily odours, so please wash before a date, and if you want to see her again, make sure your c0ck and sacks are clean.

2. Don't use cheap cologne, or mix different colognes. If you smell nice, the battle is half won.

3. Always have a few interesting stories or experiences you can share, us women may love to talk, but we like to listen too.

4. Not all women kiss with their eyes shut, so practice your kissing face on the mirror, and see what she will be looking at while your tongues are locked, its not always a pretty sight.

5. Its always good to start as a gentleman and throw in the occasional remarks to see how positively they are received or not, before gettin to the knitty gritty.

6. If you are cheap or tight with money, try not to let this show on the first date.

7. If you plan to take a Pakistani girl out on a date, do a bit of research rather than spending the evening talking about how great the Taj mahal is (which incidently happens to be in India).

8. If you have health problems and you are going to have an epileptic fit, or lose mobility in half your body after orgasm, be a gent and pre-warn the lady, rather than kill the mood after you are done.

9. Don't spend the evening talking about your ex gf's and how hot they were and how envious all your mates were.

10. We dont want to know what went wrong with your last relationship unless we ask, and even then, keep the answer short.

11. Dont spend the whole date whinging and whining, you dont like it when we do it, and we dont like it when you do it.

12. Generally, if you are in to kinky sex, dont disclose it on your first date, wait until you have done the basics once or twice before putting new scenarios forward.

13. Please for the love of god, don't cry on your first date. It makes you look weak.

14. If you end up doing it in your parents bed, dont tell her its your parents bed.

15. If you are going to do it in a place where you are likely to be caught, dont be put off by having an audience, see the deed through to the end.

16. Make sure you have a mint before you kiss her, bad breath is just plain nasty.

Thats about all I can think off of the top of my head, more may come to me a little later.
 

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Cinamon said:
7. If you plan to take a Pakistani girl out on a date, do a bit of research rather than spending the evening talking about how great the Taj mahal is (which incidently happens to be in India).

How embarassing! lol



Nice post, your dead on about cologne. Women REQUIRE a pleasant smell to engage further in anything : dates, kino...
 

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Sometimes i go to the gym and then don't shower before dates. I still have sex. That just happened on Friday. I didn't shower Fri or Sat and still had sex twice.

Shrug.

I guess the rest of you are stinky.
 

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Cinamon said:
Having received so much valuable insight from these discussion forums, i feel I owe something back...
You feel you owe something back,huh? Alright...


While we appreciate these tips on how not to screw up a date,I think we'd much rather you give us the female perspective on how to get the date in the first place.


So I've got a few questions for you...I mean,since you owe us,right? :D


In answering these questions,to help us better understand,could you PLEASE answer them DIRECTLY instead of telling us how you "feel"?


We don't need you to tell us how you feel,we need to know the ACTIONS or WORDS the guys took that caused the feelings.


You get it?

Thank you.



#1:The last guy you dated (by dated,I mean were in a long term relationship with),,how did he approach you? When he approached you and started talking to you,at what point did you decided you wanted to see him again?


What did he say that clinched it for you?


#2:What causes you to go "cold" on a guy? You know what I mean by "cold".

I mean when a guy tries to speak to you,and you either simply don't respond to him,or respond with 1 word answers. You're female,so I know you've done this before. Why?



#3:Have you ever flaked on a guy
you were interested in? If so,why? And I mean at the beginning of the relationship,NOT after you two have been dating for a while.


#4:What do you think about being approached DIRECTLY?


Here's an example:Let's say you were at a bookstore looking at a book,and a guy approaches you like this....


Guy:Oh that's a good book right there I'm already half way through it. I'm tempted to skip to the end and see what happens but nope,nope,I'm gonna see it all the way through.

You:It's that good huh? What's it about?

Guy:Well I don't want to spoil it for you,but trust me,if you like action and adventure with a bit of romance in the middle,that's the one to read.


You:Hmm. Well,I guess I could check it out.


Guy:So what's the deal with you? You married with a hundred kids?

You:No,I'm single. Why?

Guy:Why? Because I want to see you,that's why. I think you should hang with me...unless you've got some kind of problem with that.



That's what I mean by being direct. I mean a guy coming straight out and telling you he wants to see you.



No shaking,or trembling,or nervousness. No "umm...excuse me...uhh..Would you like to go out some time?" Nothing weak like that. I mean straight up...


"If you aren't taken,if you don't belong to anybody,then I WANT to see you".

What do you think about being approached like that?



#5:The last guy you went out with (just a normal date,not a long term relationship),how did he approach you?




#6:This one is just to satisfy my curiosity...Have you ever rejected a guy who asked you out,then later on down the line,ended up going out with him...and enjoyed it?





#7:What is it about a guy that REALLY turns you on? I ALREADY know this one will be difficult for you to answer,so on this one I guess you have no choice but to mention how you feel.

Just do the best you can on answering it.



If you could answer these questions DIRECTLY,I'm sure we'd all apreciate it.
 
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Igetit! said:
You feel you owe something back,huh? Alright...


While we appreciate these tips on how not to screw up a date,I think we'd much rather you give us the female perspective on how to get the date in the first place.


So I've got a few questions for you...I mean,since you owe us,right? :D


In answering these questions,to help us better understand,could you PLEASE answer them DIRECTLY instead of telling us how you "feel"?


We don't need you to tell us how you feel,we need to know the ACTIONS or WORDS the guys took that caused the feelings.


You get it?

Thank you.



#1:The last guy you dated (by dated,I mean were in a long term relationship with),,how did he approach you? When he approached you and started talking to you,at what point did you decided you wanted to see him again?


What did he say that clinched it for you?
My last long term relationship, met him in a club, he was from a small English town, with less than 10 black/asian people. It was his lack of understanding of our culture and upbringing and his curiousty that sealed the deal for me, and his overwhelming desire to be with a non white woman.

#2:What causes you to go "cold" on a guy? You know what I mean by "cold".

I mean when a guy tries to speak to you,and you either simply don't respond to him,or respond with 1 word answers. You're female,so I know you've done this before. Why?
Ok, i use to do this alot when i was 16 - 18, and it was usually when i thought i was better than the guy. I dont do it anymore, cause i think its rude. If someones going to make the efoort to talk to you, you should talk back.


#3:Have you ever flaked on a guy
you were interested in? If so,why? And I mean at the beginning of the relationship,NOT after you two have been dating for a while.
Yes, I think its cause of my zodiac sign, but I have commitment issues, and anyone that is a bit too eager or keen I will flake on. I dont want to spend all my time with new dates, I hate clinginess.

#4:What do you think about being approached DIRECTLY?


Here's an example:Let's say you were at a bookstore looking at a book,and a guy approaches you like this....


Guy:Oh that's a good book right there I'm already half way through it. I'm tempted to skip to the end and see what happens but nope,nope,I'm gonna see it all the way through.

You:It's that good huh? What's it about?

Guy:Well I don't want to spoil it for you,but trust me,if you like action and adventure with a bit of romance in the middle,that's the one to read.


You:Hmm. Well,I guess I could check it out.


Guy:So what's the deal with you? You married with a hundred kids?

You:No,I'm single. Why?

Guy:Why? Because I want to see you,that's why. I think you should hang with me...unless you've got some kind of problem with that.



That's what I mean by being direct. I mean a guy coming straight out and telling you he wants to see you.



No shaking,or trembling,or nervousness. No "umm...excuse me...uhh..Would you like to go out some time?" Nothing weak like that. I mean straight up...


"If you aren't taken,if you don't belong to anybody,then I WANT to see you".

What do you think about being approached like that?

I admire the confidence of someone who can approach you like that. It shows openess, what you see is what you get. It would get an honest response out of me.

#5:The last guy you went out with (just a normal date,not a long term relationship),how did he approach you?

The date from Friday night, I met him at a take away week before, and got chatting with him while we were waiting for our orders. He started off by saying it was his first time at the place and what would i recommend, and started chatting from there, bout food places etc. He was talking bout his favourite restaurant, then asked if he could take me there.


#6:This one is just to satisfy my curiosity...Have you ever rejected a guy who asked you out,then later on down the line,ended up going out with him...and enjoyed it?

hmmmm, I will have to think bout this one. Well, there was Scott, I rejected him initially, didnt fancy him much, but he grew on me as a person. He just acted like a bit of a c*nt the first time i met him, but he definitely grew on me.



#7:What is it about a guy that REALLY turns you on? I ALREADY know this one will be difficult for you to answer,so on this one I guess you have no choice but to mention how you feel.

Just do the best you can on answering it.

For me, physically, it has to be the hair, he needs to have a good length of it, so i can really get my hands in there, and dimples, and blue or hazel eyes. He needs to have a big body/chest and be tall. Personality wise i would have to say someone who is laid back and can have a laugh, with a live and let live attitude. I like guys who know what they want, and think they know how to get it.

If you could answer these questions DIRECTLY,I'm sure we'd all apreciate it.
hmmm, its been interesting thinking bout these again.
 

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"2. Don't use cheap cologne, or mix different colognes. If you smell nice, the battle is half won."

Truth.

This is one of the biggest complaints about guys I overhear from chick conversations in real life and what I've read on chick oriented forums that are basically the type of forums that are the counter to this site.

"14. If you end up doing it in your parents bed, dont tell her its your parents bed."

Bhahaha come on Cinammon some women get off on that sort of kink! :p

Other than #14 which I only semi disagree with you on as some women are for this and some are against...

Great list! :up: :yes:
 

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KontrollerX said:
"2. Don't use cheap cologne, or mix different colognes. If you smell nice, the battle is half won."

Truth.

This is one of the biggest complaints about guys I overhear from chick conversations in real life and what I've read on chick oriented forums that are basically the type of forums that are the counter to this site.

"14. If you end up doing it in your parents bed, dont tell her its your parents bed."

Bhahaha come on Cinammon some women get off on that sort of kink! :p

Other than #14 which I only semi disagree with you on as some women are for this and some are against...

Great list! :up: :yes:
Unfortunately I have experienced all the above first hand.

Its so important smelling nice, i remember leaving the train station behind a guy that smelt so good I inhaled deeply, only for him to look round, and I smiled coyly saying I loved the fragrance he was wearing and what was it. I just had this overwhelming urge to kiss him, or rub up against him so i could smell it for a lil longer. He was wearing issey Miyake and it smelled divine.
 

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LOL, the Taj mahal line cracks me up. =)

Incidentally, I have a Pakistani friend living in England too. Being from the US Northwest I told him he would love the weather once he got used to it... and sure enough, he's a convert. Anyway, thanks for the list. I def need to pay better attention to my cologne. I have a screwed up sense of smell (sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't) so it's hard for me to get a sense of what smells good on me and what doesn't.
 

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Please tell us about the dude that cried on the first date. WTF?
I met him at this part time job i had while i was at uni. I use to see him on weekends and in the holidays. I had known him for about 2 years before he finally asked me out.

I met him in the town centre and went to this cosy little pub where we got comfortable on one of the sofa's and started chatting. Then out of no where, he said it took him a lot of courage and time to ask me out and his voice got shaky and started breaking and as the first few tears started rolling down his cheek, he said he didnt think i would have said yes, and that he really liked me. Amongst the sobbing and crying, he then snorted up his snot and i could hear it travelling up his nasal passage and nesting in his throat... that was gross. It didnt go well after that.
 

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Smelling great is key. I have 2 colognes that I mix, and get a great scent going. I have had women ask me what I was wearing, and tell me it's great. I have also had them ask while I was on dates with OTHER women... which worked for me. Not too long ago, a cute chick asked what I used, and then dragged her guy over and said "hon, smell him. this is how I want you to smell" lol

My secret weapon, that attacks their sense of smell: I mix expensive "davidoffs clear water" and cheapie "bod" (or sometimes "preferred stock") from walmart. I use plenty of it... drives them nuts
 

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I love davidoff, and issey miyaki, and dkny be delicious. Those three are my absolute favourites.
 

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Cin, you love davidoff? My secret weapon, Sweetie? Too bad you are a fellow DJ, as I would "allow" you to "apply" membership into my Stud Service Stable! You seem sexy, and seem to know where it's at, but I'm sorry... you are too far away. LOL!
 
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