Die Hard
Master Don Juan
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There is no need for signs... People who have shared a relationship for 3 years ARE still attached to each other so soon after the breakup, there is no question about it. You don't need any signs to know that...onitalways said:
But you need to quit thinking about her ex and start focusing on the BPD stuff. You are putting all your attention on the whole 'she might go back to her ex' matter and therefor completely avoiding the BPD matter.
WHETHER SHE GOES BACK TO HER EX OR NOT IS IRRELEVANT!!!
SHE IS A FVCKING BPD AND SHE IS GONNA DESTROY YOUR SOUL IF YOU CONTINUE THIS RELATIONSHIP!!!
So no more questions about the ex boyfriend and how to deal with that. I will not give any response about that matter anymore and I urge all other members to do the same.
It is totally leading you away from the BPD matter, which is really the only thing you should be worried about.
You need to get your head out of your ass and start realizing what she is. You need to get the fvck away from her!
Watch this, it's a great analogy: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ikq0P7U0x4Q&t=33m12s
Everthing is perfect and beautiful at first. Then some early signs start to show but people are still happy and unsuspecting of what will come. They actually think the situation is funny and interesting, they laugh about it!! Then the tide becomes surprisingly strong around their ankles and it starts flooding on the beach. So they walk away at a normal pace at first but withing seconds they are running for their LIVES and they're involved in the biggest natural disaster in recorded history!
That's how it goes with the BPD's as well. At first things seem perfect and beautiful, you are totally unaware of any danger. You suspect nothing, especially since things are so blissful at the current time!
People are inclined to believe that disaster presents itself gradually, as if the tide slowly shifts over from happy times into bad times. As if there will emerge some small arguments between you and your partner first, which then slowly grow out into bigger arguments over the course of a few weeks or something, to finally end in serious fighting and breaking up.
But with BPD's, the shift happens literally in one conversation, or even one moment. Just like that, in one single moment, a complete 180 degrees turnaround takes place and you move from total bliss to total hell. It's just inconceivable and surreal, you can't believe what's happening right in front of you and it puts you in total shock.
So it's good that you're taking steps to protect yourself, but I fear those steps are not nearly enough to protect yourself. Just like those people were thinking they could simply walk away from the beach as the water was beginning to rise...then the water became a strong wave in literally SECONDS and suddenly they had to start running for their LIVES!
You must think I am exaggerating, but I'm not. Keep reading the threads about BPD... You said you have already read some about it and saw a few comparisons with your woman. Keep reading, find more comparisons and find out just how destructive these relationships can be.
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