squirrels
Master Don Juan
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You lost everyone right here. But I kept reading, and here's why what you just said was utter bullsh*t.Originally posted by LostbutFound
This girl Im dating, we got a connection, and I mean not any ordinary connection, but one of those where we can finish each others sentences and know what the other person is thinking without even looking at them....Now I've been in relationships before, and I never had anything like this...
3 years ago you had a girl who was perfect and you lost her. Now you have this girl who's even MORE perfect and you lost her.
About 3 years ago I had a girl that I went out with for a while, and she was absolutely perfect, but because of some insecurities I had from my previous relationship, I pushed her away....NOW, I find a girl that is just like her, only better, and in a sense, I dont want to push her away because....WHAT IF???....Im thinking this, if this girl only did just kiss him, no big deal, because I've made out with a couple girls while I was dating her (but she doesnt know)
In 3 more years you'll have a girl who's even MORE perfect.
You shouldn't be considering "compromising." This is BS. Last week I kissed one of my old high-school buddy's girlfriends. If I saw him today I'd tell her to leave that slvt because he can do better.
Losing this girl is not the worst thing than can happen in your life. If you WEREN'T under the understanding that you were mutually exclusive at the time, the transgression may be forgivable, in which case you should stop playing around and make the commitment, because you're obviously rattled in any other state. (although I'd question how ready you are to commit in YOUR emotional state)
If you two were under the understanding that you were mutually exclusive, then what she did is inexcusable. It's NOT OK and you SHOULDN'T just "forget it" and pretend it didn't happen. She offended you. STAND UP for yourself. If she sees you move back when she pushes, she will push as far as she can.
"Connections" are only as real as you make them. So you think alike. It's something to like in someone, yes, but would you rather have a girlfriend who can finish your sentences but also sucks frat boys' penii behind your back, or a girlfriend who has to finish her sentences on her own but is true to you and doesn't disrespect you?
As if you even had to compromise in the FIRST place. Wait another 3 years until another girl comes along who thinks just like you do but is actually INTO you enough not to cheat or fool around. In the meantime, play the field and learn how to deal with women so you don't lose the NEXT girl like you did THIS one. Cuz something tells me that your behavior is partly at fault for hers...there was something you weren't giving her. Whether it was reasonable for her to expect that...I don't know. That's something you need to figure out.