Guys ,Help me Plz！！！

[Edison Chen]

I was talking to my former neighbor recently, and she was a very beautiful girl.We used to know each other, but we didn't communicate.I just added her to Facebook recently, and we had a great conversation.We've been semi-serious lately.Last week, however, she seemed a little upset because of my sexual tension.She didn't say it outright, but my social instincts detected a subtle change in her attitude.She is actually quite a conservative girl.She is only seventeen years old.Then I did something stupid. I sent her a blunt invitation.I said to her, "You made an appointment with your classmate this holiday. Should you make an appointment with me in the next holiday?"She asked me why, I told her to fall in love should meet more, not just on the Internet chat.I didn't really want to ask her out, actually.I just thought there was a change in her attitude, and I wanted to try it out by asking, even though I knew I'd probably make things worse.Then she asked me why I liked her, and I told her that it was too shallow to like her just for chatting online.She didn't reply. I realized that Dread was going too far, I gave in, I said I thought she gave me a good feeling when we were neighbours, but it's all a bit foggy now.(That could be seen as a disqualification.) When I asked her later what she meant by the half-confirmed hint, she played dumb and offered a far-fetched explanation that she just wanted to get to know her neighbor.I don't know what to do next, should I ghost her for a while and then text her?Although the exchange was very unpleasant, I did not say anything that diminished my value, nor did I explain or express my feelings to her. guys, do you think there's any chance I could go with this girl?

Some people said men's attraction to women will only be locked, will not disappear, as long as there is no low value said.After I ghost her after a period of time，will she have a better attitude?Will my attractive decreased during the ghost period？

BTW， Can you recommend me some websites or books on how to learn game?I want to learn games by myself, because I think dating coaches are just learning from others too.I read a lot of books, and I visit a lot of websites, they are talking about the game related things, but none website or book told me the detailed game technique and system.

 

[Romanemp22]

Don't be so hard on yourself you did nothing wrong. Other than that falling in love part I don't see nothing wrong. You showed her interest, you asked her to hang out which she responded to it childishly.

You texted her number of times and the ball was on her court, but because you like her it bothers you why she changed her attitude towards you. But as I said you didn't do nothing wrong, she just don't like you because if she did she would love to hang out with you. The ball is on her court if she decides to go out with you she will let you know but don't think about her because you're gonna make things hard for you.

I see that you're 18 and insecure and I was the same when I was your age but believe me save your time and pursue other pretty girls who will give you the same interest you show to them. It's just an numbers game as you will see when you're getting older.

 

[Paper Crane]

Don't think about it so much. Just take a step back and focus on other things. It might be that she does like you and that you making it very obvious you're into her made her feel like she doesn't know what to do or maybe she's fine knowing you like her and playing coy because she's young and sometimes thats just what young girls do. But, the other thing can be that she doesn't like you at all in the way you like her. I mean judging by what she said, I think I would lean more towards that.

I think since you're also young and possibly "looking" to have women in your life, you're attributing your emotions toward her to false signs that she likes you.

 

[Edison Chen]

Don't think about it so much. Just take a step back and focus on other things. It might be that she does like you and that you making it very obvious you're into her made her feel like she doesn't know what to do or maybe she's fine knowing you like her and playing coy because she's young and sometimes thats just what young girls do. But, the other thing can be that she doesn't like you at all in the way you like her. I mean judging by what she said, I think I would lean more towards that.

I think since you're also young and possibly "looking" to have women in your life, you're attributing your emotions toward her to false signs that she likes you.

• Thank you man.Thank you for your euphemism and encouragement. There's no point in wondering if a girl likes you or not, but I think I'm attracted to her. Even though I didn't respond to her messages over the weekend, she still texted me the next two weekends (she was on campus, during which time she didn't have access to her cell phone) and asked me if we wanted to be together, and in a subtle way I said yes. I said, "Take your relationship seriously, when we are together." (I once joked about her changing boyfriends a lot.) She said that she thought she was serious when she was in a relationship, which I thought was self-qualifying. So what I should do now is ghost her for a while, and then continue to take it one step at a time?

 

[Edison Chen]

Thank you man！

Don't be so hard on yourself you did nothing wrong. Other than that falling in love part I don't see nothing wrong. You showed her interest, you asked her to hang out which she responded to it childishly.

You texted her number of times and the ball was on her court, but because you like her it bothers you why she changed her attitude towards you. But as I said you didn't do nothing wrong, she just don't like you because if she did she would love to hang out with you. The ball is on her court if she decides to go out with you she will let you know but don't think about her because you're gonna make things hard for you.

I see that you're 18 and insecure and I was the same when I was your age but believe me save your time and pursue other pretty girls who will give you the same interest you show to them. It's just an numbers game as you will see when you're getting older.

 

[Edison Chen]

BTW All the communication between us is on the Internet，We never met anymore in real life since I move to another palce.

 

[Glassguy]

Your thread title indicated an emergency. It was all because of a WOMAN?

This thread is beta to the point of cringy. Dont feed the trolls.

 

[Edison Chen]

Your thread title indicated an emergency. It was all because of a WOMAN?

This thread is beta to the point of cringy. Dont feed the trolls.

This is also to reflect on the problem and avoid making the same mistake with other women.I always think it's easier to start a relationship than to get it back.

 

[RangerMIke]

You didn't do anything wrong, except falling for a chick that hasn't fallen for you yet. But you are young, emotional control comes with age and experience.

Never assume that you can do anything that will encourage a girl to like you. She ether does or doesn't. It is a PUA myth that you can exhibit behavior that will get you any chick you want. They can teach you how you show up and behavior that makes you attractive to most girls, but there is no magic 'technique' that will garner success with any chick.

Just be the best version of yourself that you can be... date as many women that you can, and the ones that like you for who you are will make things easy. Just don't fall for any of these chicks unless they are throwing themselves at you. They are the ones that get to decide if they are going to get you and keep you... then all you have to do is agree to it... if that is what you want.

 

[Paper Crane]

Your thread title indicated an emergency. It was all because of a WOMAN?

This thread is beta to the point of cringy. Dont feed the trolls.

I Disagree. I think it sounds like he's in a country different to ours and this is all pretty normal stuff for a young person growing up. We all grow up and experience at different stages/ages in our life.

• Thank you man.Thank you for your euphemism and encouragement. There's no point in wondering if a girl likes you or not, but I think I'm attracted to her. Even though I didn't respond to her messages over the weekend, she still texted me the next two weekends (she was on campus, during which time she didn't have access to her cell phone) and asked me if we wanted to be together, and in a subtle way I said yes. I said, "Take your relationship seriously, when we are together." (I once joked about her changing boyfriends a lot.) She said that she thought she was serious when she was in a relationship, which I thought was self-qualifying. So what I should do now is ghost her for a while, and then continue to take it one step at a time?

Honestly, sounds like you both are really young. I don't think you'll need any of our advice, just do what you do and remain confident and true to yourself. Never sacrifice your dignity for anyone, as long as you can do that part, you'll be alright

 

[bat soup]

I was talking to my former neighbor recently, and she was a very beautiful girl.We used to know each other, but we didn't communicate.I just added her to Facebook recently, and we had a great conversation.We've been semi-serious lately.Last week, however, she seemed a little upset because of my sexual tension.She didn't say it outright, but my social instincts detected a subtle change in her attitude.She is actually quite a conservative girl.She is only seventeen years old.Then I did something stupid. I sent her a blunt invitation.I said to her, "You made an appointment with your classmate this holiday. Should you make an appointment with me in the next holiday?"She asked me why, I told her to fall in love should meet more, not just on the Internet chat.I didn't really want to ask her out, actually.I just thought there was a change in her attitude, and I wanted to try it out by asking, even though I knew I'd probably make things worse.Then she asked me why I liked her, and I told her that it was too shallow to like her just for chatting online.She didn't reply. I realized that Dread was going too far, I gave in, I said I thought she gave me a good feeling when we were neighbours, but it's all a bit foggy now.(That could be seen as a disqualification.) When I asked her later what she meant by the half-confirmed hint, she played dumb and offered a far-fetched explanation that she just wanted to get to know her neighbor.I don't know what to do next, should I ghost her for a while and then text her?Although the exchange was very unpleasant, I did not say anything that diminished my value, nor did I explain or express my feelings to her. guys, do you think there's any chance I could go with this girl?

Some people said men's attraction to women will only be locked, will not disappear, as long as there is no low value said.After I ghost her after a period of time，will she have a better attitude?Will my attractive decreased during the ghost period？

BTW， Can you recommend me some websites or books on how to learn game?I want to learn games by myself, because I think dating coaches are just learning from others too.I read a lot of books, and I visit a lot of websites, they are talking about the game related things, but none website or book told me the detailed game technique and system.

She's basically told you that she's not interested (when she said she was just being polite as a neighbor). Just neighbors is the same as just friends. "Just" being the operative word.

In any case, all of this online chit chat will get you nowhere. You can't make a move if you're not physically close. It all means nothing.

If you want to know for sure, ask her if she wants to meet up and if she gives you excuses, forget her. Forever.