Guys Always Over At Her Place?

[stuartSan]

A friend of mine has been complaining a lot about his girlfriend lately. His girlfriend was pretty out of the line which is why I refrained from advising him and coming here for some rough ideas on what to tell him as I'm pretty dumbfounded myself.

They've been going out for nearly a year, and from what I've seen, things were okay.. till recently he's been telling me about guys going over to her house at night. He's been pretty laid back and confident before this due to his girlfriend's large social circle (which means lotsa guy friends), but this has been really troubling him.

He told me that the guys that went over had a history with her one way or the other.. and the latest one popped ecstacy! In her house! "God knows what they did!" he scorned. If it was me I'd breakup with her.. but he seems reluctant.

He wants to know what the deal is yet not making himself look weak. What should I tell him other than to dump her?

 

[dietzcoi]

If she is going to do this, she has no respect for him. It is obvious. Attention wh0re or worse.

He needs to dump her. There is no other action that will fix this.

DIetzcoi

 

[( . )( . )]

Originally posted by stuartSan

He wants to know what the deal is yet not making himself look weak. What should I tell him other than to dump her?

i wouldnt worry they most likely are just playing yahtzee or listening to some tunes.
what the hell do you mean you want to tell him something other than dropkicking her arse?

i presume you mean they are girlfriend and borefriend in the traditional sense, if so:
your mate : duhhh what should i do? duhh
monopoly chick : you dont mind if i take a dump on you?, good *plop*

 

[Oscar Wilde]

Originally posted by stuartSan
A friend of mine has been complaining a lot about his girlfriend lately. His girlfriend was pretty out of the line which is why I refrained from advising him and coming here for some rough ideas on what to tell him as I'm pretty dumbfounded myself.

He wants to know what the deal is yet not making himself look weak. What should I tell him other than to dump her?

You needed to come here for advice? No offense, but W T F?

Yes, he should dump her. Yesterday!

Get off the Internet, on your cell, and tell that guy he's a single man again, you guys are gonna hit the town tonight (it's Friday - get out there).

You're letting your friend look like a fool if you do anything otherwise.

Oscar.

 

[squirrels]

He could always start seeing other people and use her for an easy lay (sounds like that's what she is), but he may not want to if it's different guys coming over all the time, and he may be too emotionally attached to just use her for sex.

NEXT.

 

[xblitz44x]

Yeah Stu, I've been on this board for a little while and I'm usually the last guy to say to NEXT a chick without proof that something is definitely going on but he has to end this relationship. Talking to her won't solve a thing because what's wrong technically isn't that guys ARE stopping over and dropping e-bombs with her, it's that she WANTS them to come over. So even if he talked to her and "set her straight" and she promised to stop that, the point is...she still WANTS to.

The situation will only get worse from here. Yes, he looks like a jackass and is being disrespected big time. I'm all for having male friends but if they are coming to MY girlfriend's house, at night, just the two of them, and doing "e" together then there is a problem...and one that can't be resolved from any talk.

-Blitz

 

[Oscar Wilde]

I don't roll myself, but I've heard sex is great on it.

(for the non-US ppl http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=roll )

 

[chlywly]

I'd split, and next her. LTR doesn't mean you shouldn't NEXT... If anything it's even MORE important to NEXT in an LTR if something like this happens, it truly is a lack of respect.

 

[hitop]

Ok, here's the scoop my brutha. Advise your buddy to reach down, way down deep into his satchel of romantic goodies and instruct him to write this girl some lovely poetry. After that instruct him to completely profess his love for this girl so that there will be no shred of doubt about much he truly loves her, this move should have her melting in his arms. Then have him shower her with roses and total attention for a week straight.

................meanwhile


Oh d@mn, excuse me, I got distracted watching this dog outside my house taking a big ole shyt.

Back to reality. Tell your bro to dump this bytch pronto:

1) no call
2) no explanation whatsoever
3) no emails
4) complete disconnect immediately

Why? Because blatant acts of disrespect should not receive anything less than whats listed above.

 

[Chewy Bagel]

Tell him, "Don't Quit Her Until You Hit Her In The shi-tter!"

A girl like that deserves to get it in the ass and pushed out the front door.

I have no tolerance for her kind of shyt.

 

[John11276]

Everyone knows why people like to roll with girls. Jeez, your buddy must by very naive.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

It is definitely a respect thing but have him first consider whether she is spending more quality time with him or her friends and whether he is included when her friends are coming over.

 

[myfriendblu]

Originally posted by stuartSan
his girlfriend's large social circle (which means lotsa guy friends), but this has been really troubling him.

He told me that the guys that went over had a history with her one way or the other..

Bwahahaha I knew what this was before i even need to post here.

This chik is an obvious attention who re. The #1 most defining trait of an attention whor e is a large social circle of guy friends. and you all know how i feel about attention whor es.

The trouble is, your friend is by no means a DJ. had he been, he woulda NEXTED this chick a long time ago. too bad......

Females just don't understand the fact that the reason why most men even be-friend them, nonetheless hang out with them, is because they want in her pants. thats a fact thats true 9 times outta 10.

 

[stuartSan]

I told him what I thought, which was what the rest of you replied. He didn't seem to take it well. Didn't look like he was able to let her go too.

Well.. I guess its that denial everybody goes through after getting stabbed out of nowhere.

I hate to be the one who has to break the news to my guy friends all the time.

 

[Sexy_Malibu]

Originally posted by Oscar Wilde
I don't roll myself, but I've heard sex is great on it.

Originally posted by John11276
Everyone knows why people like to roll with girls. Jeez, your buddy must by very naive.

Every time I've been with a guy who was, he couldn't keep it up. Not sure if that is a common effect or just random coincidences in my experiences (these guys always could at other times). If it is a common side effect I have to laugh, because it makes you want to **** but then it keeps you from being able to? Too much alcohol can have that effect too I guess

 

[myfriendblu]

Originally posted by Sexy_Malibu
Every time I've been with a guy who was, he couldn't keep it up. Not sure if that is a common effect or just random coincidences in my experiences

Nope, thats VERY common. Because of the effect X has on various chemical reactions within the brain, alot of men have difficulty getting and maintaining an erection, and ability to orgasm is difficult as well.

Why anyone would use a drug like X, that is proven to cause pretty severe depression and mental instability, even after only a few pills, is pretty ignorant if ya ask me.

 

[hitop]

That's not the point as to whether he can keep it up or not you lugheads. I don't give a flyin' fyck if the a$$holes came over with PEZ dispensers, it's disrespectful. Now, go tell her to hit the road and go peddle her lame game with some little AFC.